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'Top Drop'! - 7/22/2010 9:35:13 PM

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We might have different names for it, I just thought mine was cute. We also all get to that point where we play, give most of our energy to the play, and then don't have much left to take care of ourselves and make sure everything transitions back to 'normal' smoothly.

How do you deal with it?

I was thinking just now about a scene I did with Tink involving my strap on and his rearend. By the end of our play I was exhausted mentally. In hindsight I should have had him cleaning up and putting everything away, but at the time I felt it would take more effort to explain what to do, than just getting it done fast so I could lay down and relax. Any advice based on this experience?

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/22/2010 9:53:06 PM

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Cute or not, that's what most people call it.

Basically, it's the same advice that goes for subs for avoiding drop. I tend to stay in space for an extended period of time. Often well into the next day. This means that I have to take care of Myself not just after play, but the next morning as well.

Keeping Me hydrated is important. Somebody once told Me that I drank water like a camel. Hardly none the night before, but was filling the hump the next day. (As a hard core diet pepsi person, when I drink eight glasses of water at the dinner table, it gets noticed.)

Food is important, too. I may not 'feel' hungry, but it's a good idea to make Me eat something. Chocolate is great for after scenes because I may not want much of anything, but something sweet will taste so good. I can go the other way and crave protein, too. Making sure that I eat breakfast the next day is the way to go.

Get enough rest. If I've played the night before and I feel tired the next day, I've learned that I'm better off taking the nap I might need. It prevents Me from being over tired or pushing Myself into a place that I'm more susceptible to swing into a low place.

More physical contact. This is a great excuse for extra cuddling.

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/23/2010 6:08:37 AM

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After play.. I always make sure that I have something handy and not too sugary to drink next to wherever it is Im most likely to land...post aftercare... so water club soda cranberry juice cut with club soda I want it wet and I want it cold.. I avoid anything with an artifical stimulant... ( alcohol, highly caffenated soda etc ) because I want my body to get back into natural balance and dont want to have to deal with the after effects of a suger rush etc.. Something with a long burn protein... so some cheese and deli meat on crackers or a protein bar.and somesort of natural sugar apple slices a few berries . I want it small and snackable.. I want a comfy place.. and I want my ipod so that I can come back to myself without stress and quietly.. I make sure the boy knows what and where to put things away.. Ive just done the majority of the labor in this relationship because play is HARD WORK for the top both physically and mentally ..so before I play with a new boy we go through, this is how you put away the rope, this is how we put away the floggers.. etc...so we can play with the toys again..

The day after I allow myself to drift back into the scene mentally get those quivers of sensation from memory, for me thats part of the reward.. but I do tend to try and find quiet activities that dont really require indepth attention.. no using the table saw!! and finally I allow myself to feel the top drop its a matter of minimizing the fall for me.

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/23/2010 4:57:25 PM

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Nope - never experienced anything of the sort.

After an orgasm, any orgasm, I'm pretty 'man-ish', i.e. I just want to roll over and sleep. I usually orchestrate it so that I cum after my boy for this reason (multiple orgasms aren't my thing - I tend to cum once incredibly hard, then am too sensitive for contact afterwards).

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/23/2010 6:04:51 PM

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/23/2010 10:50:01 PM

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I immediately dispose of the condoms, gloves and dams appropriately, throw the insertables (which have had condoms on them unless they are electro pieces which need to be exposed to conduct) into a pan of disinfectant solution to be dealt with later. Then I see to my partner, offer him a comfortable place to sleep if he's not able to drive or wants to stay over, shower and brush my teeth, then go to a darkened, completely quiet room and do a sequence of ananda (restorative) yoga postures for an hour or so to quiet and re-balance my mind and body. I specifically use legs-at-the-wall to get my heart rate down, supported side twists and child's pose for their calming effects. I keep a heating pad handy while in these poses to use on areas aching from exertion...the heat is hypnotic and comforting. I will be awake and restless all night if I don't do this. When I'm done I check on my partner and make sure he has everything he needs, then go to bed. It still takes me a while to wind down...I lie on my right side for about 15 minutes while the thoughts swirl around, then turn over to the left...after a few more minutes I'm usually able to drift off. I'm blessed not to have to get up at any particular time in the morning so I sleep as long as I like. If I've done it this way I can completely avoid 'top drop.

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/24/2010 3:26:38 AM

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Duvet days, peace and quiet, affection from My significant other, and usually rest and recoup is how I deal with Top Drop.

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/24/2010 7:52:14 AM

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I also deal with it by making sure I get plenty of affection from My partner. Unfortunately, I don't live with My partner, yet, so sometimes Top Drop can carry over to the time he's not here, but I just make sure I'm kept busy, so I don't get too much time to focus on Top Drop. I have to say that I was quite surprised at the strength of it, but then I'm lucky that I have found the perfect man for me, so it's all good.

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RE: 'Top Drop'! - 7/25/2010 9:24:18 AM

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Thank you All for taking the time to give your input.

I find that the more emotionally involved I am with My sub, the more TopDrop occurs. one sub and I were so in tune, We would share a good cry! Now, I just let it wash over Me knowing that it will pass. Meditation helps as does all the above.

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