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sunshinemiss -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 6:37:14 AM)

Maybe this is the infamous thread that chris is apologizing for?

(I always think of Christ in Cuffs when I see the name... Does anyone else have that experience?)




VaguelyCurious -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 6:43:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Chrisincuffs

I'd rather not be bullied
I think that perhaps part of what Aqua was trying to tell you was that this is just how people talk on the internet. You weren't being bitched at, and you aren't being bullied.

People are blunt here. You can either be oversensitive get offended or you can listen to what they mean without putting any inflection on their words. Aynne is perhaps being a bit harsh in her assessment but I wouldn't consider her words bullying-she is just telling you what she thinks in a non-sugar-coated way.




poise -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 6:47:07 AM)

Hello Chris. The apology is commendable, however, in asking for us to assist you in finding ways
for your master to punish you is like offering prime rib to a vegetarian. This is your dinner party, not ours.
There are a plethora of posts regarding punishments that may interest you, if you are truly serious about
coming up with ideas. I found them by using this neat feature called "Search"
Best of luck.




LadyPact -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 6:54:50 AM)

Unless I'm mistaken, there was something like this just a couple of weeks ago.  I'm going to repeat something that I said there.

If it was determined that you acted badly on a thread, which is your Master's right to do, it probably would have been more appropriate to apologize on the thread where the bad behavior was conducted.  There isn't a reason to start a new thread for the apology.  Personally, I don't think anyone is going to consider that a hijack if two people are already involved in a discussion that has gotten off course enough to warrant an apology in the first place.  If you're concerned that the person won't see it, there's no reason you can't send the person a private email in addition to apologizing on the thread.  That way, your bases are covered.

This isn't something that I would be punishing for.  This (at least on the surface) appears to be a one time mistake.  If you and your Master discussed it, he's probably already told you why he doesn't want you to do it again.  It's a minor infraction and a small occurrence.

If it became a habit or something that discussing the matter with you didn't rectify, I'd probably see it a little differently.  Maybe to the point of removing your time from the discussion boards for a day or two or set you to the task of writing an essay about how your behavior isn't appropriate, why, and what you are going to be doing in the future not to engage in it.  Of course, not every Master is going to feel the way I do about it. 




sunshinemiss -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 6:56:51 AM)

I find that the people who do the internet apologies are the ones who generally have internet relationships.  People with real life relationships have real life apologies.

Just a thought.




Icarys -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:06:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I find that the people who do the internet apologies are the ones who generally have internet relationships.  People with real life relationships have real life apologies.

Just a thought.


What..ya never apologized to anyone on the internet before?

I've been told there are real people with real feelings behind the screens..[:D]




Chrisincuffs -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:08:56 AM)

quote:

Unless I'm mistaken, there was something like this just a couple of weeks ago. I'm going to repeat something that I said there.

If it was determined that you acted badly on a thread, which is your Master's right to do, it probably would have been more appropriate to apologize on the thread where the bad behavior was conducted. There isn't a reason to start a new thread for the apology. Personally, I don't think anyone is going to consider that a hijack if two people are already involved in a discussion that has gotten off course enough to warrant an apology in the first place. If you're concerned that the person won't see it, there's no reason you can't send the person a private email in addition to apologizing on the thread. That way, your bases are covered.

This isn't something that I would be punishing for. This (at least on the surface) appears to be a one time mistake. If you and your Master discussed it, he's probably already told you why he doesn't want you to do it again. It's a minor infraction and a small occurrence.

If it became a habit or something that discussing the matter with you didn't rectify, I'd probably see it a little differently. Maybe to the point of removing your time from the discussion boards for a day or two or set you to the task of writing an essay about how your behavior isn't appropriate, why, and what you are going to be doing in the future not to engage in it. Of course, not every Master is going to feel the way I do about it.


Thank you much for your input, very much respected. While my behavior online was one time occurrence the I very much learned my lesson for. My mouth has always caused trouble for me and have written many essays due to it




sunshinemiss -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:09:49 AM)

Sure *I* have, but I didn't feel a need to start a new thread or create some sort of... drama about it... I also find that when I'm with someone who has a life outside of the computer, he has no need for me to apologize here and get ideas for punishment. 

But you bring up a good point. 

Best,
sunshine




RCdc -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:10:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I find that the people who do the internet apologies are the ones who generally have internet relationships.  People with real life relationships have real life apologies.

Just a thought.


What..ya never apologized to anyone on the internet before?

I've been told there are real people with real feelings behind the screens..[:D]



This.[:)]

the.dark.




sunshinemiss -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:19:16 AM)

Aqua, you silly goose!  You know that all you need is a Shift key on your computer!




lally2 -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:20:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chrisincuffs

Master told me apologize I do what he says

I don't live with Master he's definitely NOT inept and didn't send me here to ask strangers for punishment




dragging youre private dramas and punishment dynamic through our kick back time is tedious, its been done before and i do believe we told them to get a room too.

what i always find tiresome with these sort of threads is the obvious *punishment kink* undertone asking us for ideas.

heres one:  curfew from CM.  there, that was easy enough - a no brainer and one youre Dom could surely have thought up all by himself.




Chrisincuffs -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:22:00 AM)

Like I said lesson learned




RCdc -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:23:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chrisincuffs
Thank you much for your input, very much respected. While my behavior online was one time occurrence the I very much learned my lesson for. My mouth has always caused trouble for me and have written many essays due to it


The thing is Chris, is were you right?  If you felt you were right, I wouldn't worry so much.
I disagree with people and sometimes I can be snarky.  It's just human nature to loose ones temper or patience sometimes and it's all cool.  Not everyones going to take it to heart and it's important to be sincere with the apology rather than do it 'just because'.  If you meant it at the time and you think you were right, even if the way you dealt with it sucked, then apologising is pretty much a waste?  People who are worth anything to you, will be understanding.

For the record, I read the thread because Aynne posted the link.  I didn't get the impression you were speaking in absolutes.

the.dark.




AquaticSub -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:30:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RCdc

For the record, I read the thread because Aynne posted the link.  I didn't get the impression you were speaking in absolutes.



One the reasons I love you and your posts is that we see things so differently. [:)]

(Also I don't think you've ever flicked me off - sorry Chris, had to say it. [:D])




AquaticSub -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:32:25 AM)

~Fast Reply~

And my replies just got yanked... which is odd. Guess I ventured over line in talking about a cmail. Ahh well. [:)]




Missokyst -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:35:16 AM)

It might have been better had you apologized on the original thread. Seems kinda silly to create another thread that has no connection to the first unless you are looking for attention.




lally2 -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:46:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

It might have been better had you apologized on the original thread. Seems kinda silly to create another thread that has no connection to the first unless you are looking for attention.


the clue is in the title [8|]




ModeratorSixteen -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:51:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

~Fast Reply~

And my replies just got yanked... which is odd. Guess I ventured over line in talking about a cmail. Ahh well. [:)]


You were contacted and it has been explained why your post was removed.For user privacy we do not allow private correspondence to be discussed on the boards when the people are named and when they are not around to defend themselves,particularly when it holds no relevance to the thread it is posted on.
Now can people please keep to the topic of the thread.[:)]




Icarys -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:53:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88


quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Thanks baby... but you know ... it's important to know that no drama llamas were harmed ...


I have come to a conclusion that a lot of drama llamas are in denial of their drama llama-ness.It is a common syndrome oft seen in that variety of llama. [sm=beatdeadhorse.gif]<<<<< Sunny is that you harming one?



What's funny to me is that there wouldn't be a whole lot of drama if people didn't respond..They are in fact contributing their own form of it by doing so.

Cover your tits already..you hungover hussie.




porcelaine -> RE: All Apologies and punishments (7/23/2010 7:58:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Sure *I* have, but I didn't feel a need to start a new thread or create some sort of... drama about it... I also find that when I'm with someone who has a life outside of the computer, he has no need for me to apologize here and get ideas for punishment.
 

This. [;)]

~porcelaine




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