juliaoceania
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub Recently someone contacted me on the other side and when I looked at his profile, there was quite a bit about putting and keeping a submissive in her/his place. This caused me to wonder what the heck was meant by that. I tried to ask a Dominant friend I know and all he could come up with was something about conquering but that didn't make any more sense to me. So the question/s are these, What does it mean to you when you either hear/see that phrase or use that phrase. What is a submissive's place and how does one put/keep him/her in it? Is that something you look for in a D/s or M/s relatiionship and how does that manifest to you. In addition, are you looking to conquer or be conquered and how does that manifest? Thanks in advance, heartfelt Words have power... the phrase "put in your place" has the connotation that someone wants to become better than their natural station. It means not respecting your betters, like a social climber. I love men that have a good command of the English language, and the history of how that language evolved... if a person is "getting out of their place" historically speaking, this comes from England's class system, or a feudal system where "people have places"... Any man I would be interested in would know what that phrase meant, and if they said that to me it would mean they felt I aspired to be "more than" my natural place in this world. If someone wanted to restrict me to being inferior to them, it would not work out for me. It would mean they were highly insecure about their "place", and they were therefore already not on par with me. I want to be with someone that loves me being all I can be, and feels that our relationship is better for it. If they are threatened by my growth, they are just not going to get far in my life... Just me, etc
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