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The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 10:14:24 AM

Born2BMasochist

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i know i am a submissive. But my Dom is a switch. So this makes me wonder? Any and all imput is welcomed. Does a switch have to have one of each in order to be happy. Is a switch only happy with either (A) another switch or (B) two differant relationships? These are just curiosity questions. If a switch is with only a submissive can they truly be happy or will their submissive half start to itch. And vise versa? I have been tossing this question around for a few weeks now?

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 11:10:48 AM

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I don't need both, it's all about how I connect with people. When i connect to a dominant I -feel- submissive for, then i want to be submissive. I never want to 'turnt he tables' and top him one day. But on rare occasion i find a submissive or a switch who I just feel 'rawr' for and want to top them, it's not a conscious decision, it is simply my instinctive reaction to people, either there's chemistry of one kind or another, or sometimes chemistry for both inside one relationship with another switch.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 11:51:01 AM

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I was not asking if you want to turn the tables in the dynamics of that relationship but asking if you longed for another seperate relationship in which you can be the dominant instead? So in other words if you found someone who is a Dominant would you be happy the rest of your life never playing another Dominant role?

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 1:03:45 PM

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I don't need both,

Answered that question in the first four words.

The rest is just elaboration.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 1:09:27 PM

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I don't need both.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/4/2010 4:49:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Born2BMasochist

i know i am a submissive. But my Dom is a switch. So this makes me wonder? Any and all imput is welcomed. Does a switch have to have one of each in order to be happy. Is a switch only happy with either (A) another switch or (B) two differant relationships? These are just curiosity questions. If a switch is with only a submissive can they truly be happy or will their submissive half start to itch. And vise versa? I have been tossing this question around for a few weeks now?

There are multiple possibilities. However, in my case only one role suffices and switching is not an option. The male party must be submissive unless we have an egalitarian relationship. I will never yield to him or another in that capacity.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 8/7/2010 8:11:31 AM

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I have it a hierarchy. My GF be in control of Me or any member of our house, I am second down, a young cute female toy is 3rd, my male last. Works for me, but I was indoctrinated to that concept professionally, as is the male sub. But it gives Me the set up enjoy both.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 9/17/2010 1:50:42 PM

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I do not feel that I need both to be happy yet I enjoy both realms. If A submissive i am in time with is told to do something to me I kind of still see that as her following my commands and doing my will yet in the same time I could be looked at as being in the sumissive position. I could be happy with only being in control though I believe it is healthy at times to give control to another and be helpless in their being.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 10/23/2010 7:37:46 AM

sweetslips9247

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I think it depends on the situation and relationship. At times in my life, I have felt more sub that domme. Right now, I feel more domme. But I do want both. I do love and enjoy both sides of myself.

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RE: The best of both worlds - 10/23/2010 1:08:14 PM

switch2please

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I crave both. I don't know if I need both, as I haven't been in a long-term situation where other play wasn't an option.
I know I can focus on one side of the kneel for the benefit of a partner, and I equate this to bisexuality - if I'm involved with a woman, I'll look at men and I might want to play with one or two but I don't partake, for her sake. If I am in a relationship with a man, I'll look at women and I might want to play but I don't pick them up or allow myself to be picked up, for his sake. Same thing with subs and Dom/mes - I might want to Domme someone, but if it were not an option with B, I wouldn't. Simple as that.
At the moment I have two separate relationships, both intertwined with each other, and I don't have to choose. He is dominant, I submit to him but have control over her, and she submits to both of us. This situation makes me very happy.

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