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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
I love that a woman is asking this question... it is usually men that do. It really shows women are becoming equals in every sense of the word...

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ORIGINAL: lalleee

Wow, Mr. two, you really don't like me, do you. Now I am desperate and ignorant?
Jeez..

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I think the important thing is to help her learn to be safe and not lower her standards because of desperation or ignorance.

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ORIGINAL: lalleee

Thanks for all the advices. especially madame marque, who gave me a firm reprimand and extensive guideline.
Dear Domiguy, Korean boys are surprisingly good in bed. People don't know this. They just run in two extream directions, too tame or too sick. This dumb and dull was a foreigner.
I am more and more surprised as I poke around this site because I thought the site would be dedicated to casual sex. Then I find out people here look down upon one night stands. Perhaps because I still don't know the difference between casual hook ups and play partner, but you guys don't sleep around? How did you get so adventurous and deranged when you guys patiently wait for the right one? I'm really quite sure that I am the one who is the least experienced here. I've slept with less than 20 men in my entire life. And most of them, just once. Haven't tried anything kinky yet. I don't know. I've always been wild in anything else but not in sex. Live a life of a frigid till a few years ago. I am more worried that I don't have enough experience in sex and should try more. but I always get this reprimand when I post something that make me seem like the worst whore here. I find it hilarious. Is it because of the high and drunk one nighter story in my profile? You guys really think that's wild? You haven't done anything like this? You never partied with models and strippers? or parties going on for days with cocktails of drugs? Or a Bday bash with a mountain of coke on the table? Are you always sober when you meet someone at a bar or club? How come I am the high and drunk whore that casually fuck strangers yet, the wildest thing I've ever gotten was light tapping on my cheek and some hair pulling? Don't you think I should get out and sleep around more to get to where you all are? Of course, there is always an option to remain a prude and vanilla.

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

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I think the important thing is to help her learn to be safe and not lower her standards because of desperation or ignorance.

I might have used some strong words there for added dramatic impact. I'll scale it back to "lack of information and impatience".

I also briefly considered "willingness to learn and enthusiasm", but it doesn't work for my sentence.

There you go.

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How was that a reprimand? I didn't judge you. As I review your profile, it still sounds to me as if you're expressing dissatisfaction with the results you've had with one-nighters - did I get that wrong? And you post here, saying you're in doubt about whether clicking with someone sexually is enough to make it worth even a single night of your time, because you don't find he's good company.

You asked, "What would you do?" So I told you.

If you want to connect with guys not only sexually but personally, I suggested changing your profile. I'm interested in your story about how you first discovered your taste for BDSM, it doesn't shock me. But if you're trying to find something different, as I thought you were indicating, I wouldn't lead with it, as it might tend to attract more of the same. If I've misunderstood, maybe that's why you think I'm reprimanding you. Your profile does have a lot of personality and it's open and candid, and those are all good things. Maybe it'll appeal to just the sort of men and situations you're seeking.

As someone who is, indeed, fairly experienced and has known quite a few people into BDSM and seen their experiences, I would tell anyone less experienced the same as I've told you, regarding safety, for no other reason than caring. Someone should care enough to talk to you about these things.

I went into some detail about safety, because I thought it would be so vague as to be useless, to simply say, "Be careful!" So, I said what it is I mean, by 'be careful.' And I would have said the same to a dear friend, if that dear friend was talking about the high-risk activities you've mentioned, namely meeting strangers for one-night scenes and asking them to get rough, while you're under the influence. That's a really high-risk combination, by anyone's standards. If all of those elements are calculated risks you've consciously chosen, because it's worth it to you to have the experience they provide, that's up to you.

But if you can enjoy yourself as much with less risk, I'd wish that for you, so that your experience has the best chance to be hot and pleasurable and fabulous.

"Don't you think I should get out and sleep around more to get to where you all are? Of course, there is always an option to remain a prude and vanilla."

Actually, being into BDSM doesn't necessarily equal having lots of partners or lots of casual play. Some very kinky people have a lot of experience with a small number of partners, and some do enjoy casual play with many partners.

"Haven't tried anything kinky yet."

Well, asking guys to slap you and pull your hair does kinda qualify. But welcome to the club!

Not hatin' on you at all,

Mme. Marque

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ORIGINAL: lalleee

Thank you very much for dislking me less and scaling desperate and ignorant back to lack of information and impatience. You are benevolence manifested in 20 years old boy.

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I am more and more surprised as I poke around this site because I thought the site would be dedicated to casual sex. Then I find out people here look down upon one night stands.

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Perhaps because I still don't know the difference between casual hook ups and play partner, but you guys don't sleep around?

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How did you get so adventurous and deranged when you guys patiently wait for the right one?

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I'm really quite sure that I am the one who is the least experienced here. I've slept with less than 20 men in my entire life.

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And most of them, just once. Haven't tried anything kinky yet. I don't know. I've always been wild in anything else but not in sex. Live a life of a frigid till a few years ago.

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I am more worried that I don't have enough experience in sex and should try more.

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but I always get this reprimand when I post something that make me seem like the worst whore here. I find it hilarious. Is it because of the high and drunk one nighter story in my profile? You guys really think that's wild? You haven't done anything like this?

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You never partied with models and strippers? or parties going on for days with cocktails of drugs? Or a Bday bash with a mountain of coke on the table?

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Are you always sober when you meet someone at a bar or club?

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How come I am the high and drunk whore that casually fuck strangers yet, the wildest thing I've ever gotten was light tapping on my cheek and some hair pulling?

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Don't you think I should get out and sleep around more to get to where you all are? Of course, there is always an option to remain a prude and vanilla.