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ORIGINAL: dejablue1

Of course it is and deliberately so. I had a previous profile on here for 8 years and so I am well aware of what does and does not belong in a profile. With that being said, this profile is merely a means to a personal end as this website is bullshit and the people on it are full of bullshit as well. Why have a fully completed profile that will serve no purpose beyond drawing out the scam artists and money whores? Months to find a good match, huh? No, even that statement is bullshit and you know it. Years can go by and in some cases even a decade or more to find a good match. So hence, what is the point in bothering to even try unless you are prepared to sacrifice a large portion of your life in doing so?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I like flirting

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ORIGINAL: dejablue1

Of course it is and deliberately so. I had a previous profile on here for 8 years and so I am well aware of what does and does not belong in a profile. With that being said, this profile is merely a means to a personal end as this website is bullshit and the people on it are full of bullshit as well. Why have a fully completed profile that will serve no purpose beyond drawing out the scam artists and money whores? Months to find a good match, huh? No, even that statement is bullshit and you know it. Years can go by and in some cases even a decade or more to find a good match. So hence, what is the point in bothering to even try unless you are prepared to sacrifice a large portion of your life in doing so?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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Come with a genuine attitude of wanting to enjoy yourself and avoid complaining. Get to know some of the posters (which include some damn good women who happen to be Dommes). And see if things start changing for the better.

And be patient.  It takes months, usually, to find a good match.  But as long as you're enjoying it...

dejablue1 said:

Of course it is and deliberately so. I had a previous profile on here for 8 years and so I am well aware of what does and does not belong in a profile. With that being said, this profile is merely a means to a personal end as this website is bullshit and the people on it are full of bullshit as well. Why have a fully completed profile that will serve no purpose beyond drawing out the scam artists and money whores? Months to find a good match, huh? No, even that statement is bullshit and you know it. Years can go by and in some cases even a decade or more to find a good match. So hence, what is the point in bothering to even try unless you are prepared to sacrifice a large portion of your life in doing so?

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ORIGINAL: dejablue1

dejablue and Steven,

Thanks for giving me a great side-by-side comparison as attitude is a huge issue for me. It tells me how the person views the world and deals with his/her/hir environment. It tells me about their ability to evolve from an emotional intelligence standpoint. Age is just a number, and I no longer assume that older equals more mature.

Those who are close to me share my positive outlook on life, and have evolved past being the victim. It's important I can have someone who creates good energy, not just settle in a low vibrational sucking pattern. I don't do energy vampires.

To answer the original question OP - I agree with the other posters on the previous pages about communication skills and not sending me a generic form letter. Also about getting out of this process, what you put in. Like attracts like. :)



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Sthrn
Honorably served by OttersSwim

'The sign of a developed mind is one in which two opposing ideas can coexist' - Oscar Wilde.

(in reply to dejablue1)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I will SPEAK to most anyone who is polite. I talk to strangers. That does not mean that I will encourage them to think that they are a potential partner for me, it means that I will CONVERSE.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I offer bonus points to Dejablue for having a profile on this site for eight years when the site has only been in existence for six.
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I am one of those oddball doms who actually WRITES to men. Of course, I write to men of any orientation, because I am interested in making FRIENDS. My homepage feed is for Michigan men, 30-55, within a hundred miles of me. I get to see all sorts of journals, profiles, photos, etc. I laugh a LOT. I hide a lot MORE. Still and all, if someone has a fabulous picture, and it pops up on my page, I write and tell them "Dang, you look fantastic!" Never fails to elicit a smile. (Honestly, I don't think men get complimented very much. I have FLOORED doms in public dungeons...) I comment on journals, ask questions, start conversations. Sometimes I can feel the "WTF?" on the other end, sometimes great convos start. Such is the internet.

In answer to the question: I will SPEAK to most anyone who is polite. I talk to strangers. That does not mean that I will encourage them to think that they are a potential partner for me, it means that I will CONVERSE. New? I offer linkage to local resources. Interested in something specific? I try to steer them to the right group. If I offer advice and it's sneered at, I wish them well somewhere else. I have intelligent friends who cannot write properly to save their souls, or who only communicate in one-line mails. I was SHOCKED at one man who is totally charming and fluent in person---I was convinced he was a sweet bore based on his mails! (of course, the opposite can also be true. )

Now send me monies! (I never get tired of that joke!!)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I like flirting

[deadpan]
You do? I'd never have guessed-you always seem so...cold, when you talk to women...
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

It's you wimmins' responsibility to warm me up.  Get going.

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ORIGINAL:LadyHibiscus
Honestly, I don't think men get complimented very much. I have FLOORED doms in public dungeons.

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ORIGINAL: dejablue1

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: dejablue1

re: Op's first posting

Generally speaking from experience, most mistresses are seeking a very deep wallet and a very large checking account. Everything else appears secondary. It does not matter how much a person sacrifices, gains skills, pursues education, or betters themselves. None of that matters. At the end of the day the only thing that matters is how much the poor bastard is bringing in and willing to give.

Fella, I just took a look at your profile.

It is absolutely blank.  Not one single word about you, what you want in a Domme, what you offer her.

With that, you have eliminated every single one of the true lifestyle Dommes from considering you.  You're 55 years old and have 55 years of experience, desires, discoveries to share.  And you didn't. The Dommes will not care what the reasons are for you not saying anything about yourself - they'll simply ignore you.

The pro Dommes and scam artists of course will behave exactly like you said.

Tell you what.  Fill out your profile, and come back and post more on the forums.  Come with a genuine attitude of wanting to enjoy yourself and avoid complaining.  Get to know some of the posters (which include some damn good women who happen to be Dommes).  And see if things start changing for the better.

And be patient.  It takes months, usually, to find a good match.  But as long as you're enjoying it...

Of course it is and deliberately so. I had a previous profile on here for 8 years and so I am well aware of what does and does not belong in a profile. With that being said, this profile is merely a means to a personal end as this website is bullshit and the people on it are full of bullshit as well. Why have a fully completed profile that will serve no purpose beyond drawing out the scam artists and money whores? Months to find a good match, huh? No, even that statement is bullshit and you know it. Years can go by and in some cases even a decade or more to find a good match. So hence, what is the point in bothering to even try unless you are prepared to sacrifice a large portion of your life in doing so?

I've said this before to someone making these statements on the forums.  You sound like the proverbial wolf who couldn't reach the grapes, so he convinced himself that they were sour.

Like it or not, what Steven told you was true, in My opinion.  Not just about filling out the profile, but also about participation in the forums.  There are Dominant women on these boards that would be all over certain submissive males if they were local to them.  It doesn't have a thing to do with what is in their wallets.  It has to do with their personalities and how much we've come to appreciate them as people.  They don't have a bit of trouble getting Dominant women to respond to them via email.  Even Me, who willingly said that I don't respond to everyone.

Believe it or not, I happen to think that Steven does a darn good job at giving advice to other males out there regardless of their orientation.  When a Dominant man comes along to tell you what we Dominant women seem to keep saying about this subject over and over through the years, you might want to consider appreciating the fact that he is trying to be helpful.  I don't think he deserved the negative way that you chose to respond.

Steven, we really do appreciate you coming to give your two cents. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Steven, we really do appreciate you coming to give your two cents. 

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Steven, we really do appreciate you coming to give your two cents. 

I even called him 'wise' in another thread.

Alot of these threads in the mistress section are more about common sense than being submissive...

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

In answer to the question: I will SPEAK to most anyone who is polite. I talk to strangers. That does not mean that I will encourage them to think that they are a potential partner for me, it means that I will CONVERSE.