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mixielicous -> sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 7:43:10 AM)

i seem to have this problem, and i was wondering if anyone could relate

if i dont have sex, regularly, i get depressed. it frustrates me SO much [and masturbation doesnt help] [:@]

i get upset, needy feeling and just down right depressed if i dont get fucked .... at least every other day.

i love D very much and his presence makes me feel better, but i do not feel satisfied until i get the shit fucked outta me. He says He doesnt think its weird, but it makes me feel guilty.

does this happen to anyone else?



bandit25 -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 7:47:23 AM)

Sorry, I'm not seeing the problem.  You want to get fucked...he wants to fuck you...enjoy and stop obsessing.



mixielicous -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 7:49:13 AM)

not but sometimes [like now] i have to wait days, and i get very upset, feeling depressed and uncared for [even though i know its not true]

i was just wondering if anyone else experiences this, and maybe if they have found a successful way to deal with it. i am not obsessing.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 7:57:17 AM)

Of course, it's why I masturbate at least once a day.  Active, enjoyable sex is not only good physical activity (remember Legally Blonde "Exercise produces endorphins, endorphins make people happy, happy people don't kill their husbands.") but produces oodles of all kinds of brain chemicals- chemicals that say "Yes I'm fulfilling my role as a creator of life" and "Yes Im touching the body of someone I really want to be touching" and "Yes there's no stress, no worries right now, just these happy sensations" and so on and so forth.

It's a good rush, and like all good rushes, it's hard to get off the rush.  And when you are used to the rush, your body says "Hey I'm not getting my rush, that sucks!" and gets depressed.



Tikkiee -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 7:59:05 AM)

If Chris wants to fuck, then he lets me know in no uncertain terms; if I want to fuck, I let him know. There are times, due to both our schedules, that we not only go days ( sometimes longer ) without sexual contact at all ( heck there are times we don't even see each other for weeks, even though we both live in the same house ).
You deal with it. If it is seriously bothering you, then maybe it's time to sit down and find out WHY. Emotional stability is part of being healthy and happy.



mixielicous -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 8:31:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Of course, it's why I masturbate at least once a day. Active, enjoyable sex is not only good physical activity (remember Legally Blonde "Exercise produces endorphins, endorphins make people happy, happy people don't kill their husbands.") but produces oodles of all kinds of brain chemicals- chemicals that say "Yes I'm fulfilling my role as a creator of life" and "Yes Im touching the body of someone I really want to be touching" and "Yes there's no stress, no worries right now, just these happy sensations" and so on and so forth.

It's a good rush, and like all good rushes, it's hard to get off the rush. And when you are used to the rush, your body says "Hey I'm not getting my rush, that sucks!" and gets depressed.


i like the "rush" thing - that makes sense to me, but masturbation is to no avail - its good for the then and there [kinda... i dont like the orgasms i give myself - they are not satisfying enough - but i do it anyways whenever i am not with Him] but it fades quickly .. this is a problem i have always seem to have

someone suggested to me in a PM that it may be the control issue i crave and maybe not the sex per say itself.



mixielicous -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 8:34:28 AM)

i do deal with it, but i feel guilty for feeling like i NEED sex to be happy or whatev.

i cannot just demand sex, as it is not my place to demand anything. i can ask Him if He has any desires He would like to act on but other than that, it is up to Him when W/we fuck, play or anything along those lines.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 8:57:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous
someone suggested to me in a PM that it may be the control issue i crave and maybe not the sex per say itself.


Tross is a happier chica, more satisfied, stable, secure, and all that good stuff, when she gets sex regularly.  I feed off of sexual energy and connectivity.  It's my wellspring. 

Horrors! 

Can NEEDING sex be a control/security thing?  Absolutely.  If you allow your desire to get your rush control your actions and act inappropriately, then you've got a problem.

But sheesh, wanting sex and saying "I want sex as a regular part of my life because it makes my overall fulfillment of life better and won't live a life without it" is certainly not a bad thing.

Maybe you should invest in some very good dildos or a sybian if standard masturbation doesn't work for you.  Masturbation is a completely different animal from physical intercourse with someone else of course, but it can at least get you those "worn out/been fucked like mad" feelings.



VvShadowspawnvV -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 6:47:19 PM)

quote:

i seem to have this problem, and i was wondering if anyone could relate

if i dont have sex, regularly, i get depressed. it frustrates me SO much [and masturbation doesnt help]

i get upset, needy feeling and just down right depressed if i dont get fucked .... at least every other day.

i love D very much and his presence makes me feel better, but i do not feel satisfied until i get the shit fucked outta me. He says He doesnt think its weird, but it makes me feel guilty.

does this happen to anyone else?


Yes. It's part of what makes us slaves, i think. It isn't just about sexual release- it's about the feel of a MAN. =)


becca



CmotDribbler -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 11:39:03 PM)

*nods*
Me and my Kitten were having that problem last night actually.
We don't get to spend as much time together as we used to, due to my work, and her schooling.
So earlier this week, she was getting really frustrated, and was actually thinking about how alone she felt, and all depressed, and worried.
But thankfully, masterbation did work in her case, she came over to my house while i was out, and used one of the toys i had set aside for her, and she felt alot better :D



Lordandmaster -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/20/2006 11:41:27 PM)

OK, call me slow, but I thought the whole purpose of sex was to feel good. What exactly is the problem?



Aileen68 -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/21/2006 3:35:07 AM)

Even elephants are happier when they get laid on a regular basis.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/21/2006 6:29:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: VvShadowspawnvV
Yes. It's part of what makes us slaves, i think. It isn't just about sexual release- it's about the feel of a MAN. =)
becca

Ummm except many slaves don't have sex, or sex with men.

And many people of all orientations feel the same way about sex.



Lashra -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/21/2006 7:14:58 AM)

Yep I gotta have my sex at least once a day. Maybe I'm just a nympho but thats the way I'm wired. I've gone without for months and I can tell you its not a pleasant experience whatsoever.

~Lashra



VvShadowspawnvV -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/21/2006 4:48:03 PM)

Sorry... the poster and i are both slaves who DO have sex with men =) so i was responding to HER, not to everyone.

becca



DarkSideOfThMoon -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/22/2006 9:36:34 AM)

I get the same with masterbation and/or sex- if I can't play I get reallly bad - I've been stopped for 2 weeks once and I was so on edge, wasn't sleeping, was getting migrains...



theRose4U -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/22/2006 6:32:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Of course, it's why I masturbate at least once a day.  Active, enjoyable sex is not only good physical activity (remember Legally Blonde "Exercise produces endorphins, endorphins make people happy, happy people don't kill their husbands.") but produces oodles of all kinds of brain chemicals- chemicals that say "Yes I'm fulfilling my role as a creator of life" and "Yes Im touching the body of someone I really want to be touching" and "Yes there's no stress, no worries right now, just these happy sensations" and so on and so forth.

It's a good rush, and like all good rushes, it's hard to get off the rush.  And when you are used to the rush, your body says "Hey I'm not getting my rush, that sucks!" and gets depressed.


As usual LA said kind of what I was thinking. If you were by yourself I would say get checked for a brain imbalance. But I think LA hit the nail on the head (pardon the pun) you're just jonesing for it.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/23/2006 2:00:23 PM)

Exercise?.....A LOT of it?....cold showers?....focusing on someone else besides your wants and needs?...be well...Tempting



enthralled -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/23/2006 3:10:50 PM)

I have similar issues. If I don't have sex regularly (mostly orgasm), I get migraines, grouchy, and all together ' out of whack'.  
I talked to my gynecologist about it a few months ago (thinking I had an addiction), she's also aware of my 'lifestyle' preferences. I told her about my state of mind during sex and how I felt during orgasm. She explained to me that some people literally go into an altered state of consciousness during sex, almost like what I would describe as subspace and what she described as 'being drugged'. . . it's just *normal* for some people.
At any rate, she told me not to worry unless it caused me problems other than what I was having. . . . *shrugs* also said to just make sure I had plenty of batteries! . . . LOL

Respectfully,
enthralled



CalicoNymph -> RE: sex to feel better? (4/23/2006 8:30:00 PM)

In my case I ended up telling my doctor that sex helped when I had a migraine. She said the drugs I take for migraines cause the same release of chemicals in the brain that you experience during sex. This was wonderful news! I thought I was really weird the first time a migraine-back-rub ended up becoming hot sex...and the headache went away.

Now, with no partner the headaches are horrible. I don't masturbate, mostly because it just doesn't cause the same level of euphoria that I achieve with intercourse, so now I just have to depend on the meds to help me.

Speaking of not masturbating, are there other subs/slaves who aren't able to masturbate to any level of satisfaction? I've found that it's just not worth it for me.  



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