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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 7:51:51 AM

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Hello Vex... On flinching.. it depends.. if I take out the crop and there is an involuntary movement.. turning away.. grimce .. or flinch.. yes thats lovely.. however sometimes it screws up the placement of the cane flogger belt.. and thats difficult I dont want to create a mark or damage something by mistake.

I think your profile is fine.. I my preference is for profile were I can hear the voice of the person in it.. their truth.. thats what attracts me..

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 8:17:21 AM

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Yes there is a whole other aspect to making one think they are going to be hit.

I know that it is very difficult not to flinch or move if not impossible. But I would put forth my best effort to meet her requirements and expectations.

As Sylverdawn stated you would want to move to much and get hit somewhere she didn't intend to hit.

As for having an audio entry on my profile I have been meaning to place one on my profile. I will try to put one up here tonight.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 10:42:36 AM

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If I'm not mistaken, I think Sylverdawn meant she wants to be able to hear "the real you" in your profle (vs your physical voice). I could be wrong.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 11:03:52 AM

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I think you may be right. I read the post again and I am pretty sure that was what she meant.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 11:32:45 AM

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Just on the flinching part of the question. (I'm not one so much for profile review.)

One thing that you have to consider is, not only will you get personal preferences about the situation, you're going to have varying situations that will change the preference. As it was pointed out earlier, there are certain activities that absolutely have a "DON'T MOVE" element. Branding is a really good example of this. Flinching there could cause a serious problem.

Even looking at the control/obedience angle, both sides of this can offer opportunities for fun. Not wanting a person to flinch can open the door for a little playful fun if he does. Once the flinching has been pointed out, it can potentially make it harder for a person to control it. If you take an activity like tickling when someone is already sensitive to it, they may actual move about more. It can be really fun if the tone you are setting is one that is more light-hearted.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 1:08:39 PM

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I would definately try not to flinch if where I was being hit was close to anything I didn't want to be hit. I got accidentally hit in the kneecap the other day and I don't know if I hit a nerve or what. But I instantly locked up and found myself gasping for air for a few seconds it was quite an odd feeling.

I am a very sensitive to ticling. I have never noticed it until you brought it up but trying not to be bothered by being tickled does nothing but make it seem much worse. Funny how that works. But I am sure that there are a lot of aspects to this subject that allow for fun.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 2:47:58 PM

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I'll take the flinching, squealing, giggling, screaming like a little girl boy over the stoic silent type any day. Where's the fun in tormenting someone if they don't react ? So long as he doesn't strike back or run away or complain about how I've made a mark on his precious skin that someone might see.
    That said, it can be fun to make a game out of commanding the boy not to flinch while having a candlelit dinner served on his back and tickling him, or something of that nature.

    Your profile strikes me as ahead of the competition because it contains two things I look for and insist on: a decent, clothed picture of you and your face, and a detailed, intelligent description of you. I don't know if this applies to most Dommes, but the lost art of etiquette really catches my attention.
    While the profile definitely gives the impression that you're a nice and morally intact guy (impressive), I'm not really clear about what you're looking for, if anything.


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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 3:13:13 PM

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I like the subs I beat to have a natural response to what I do, even flinching. If I want to fuck with them I'll order them to be completely still or they get 5 more or something of that effect just to see them struggle to do so. But I don't want a quiet still submissive by any means.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 4:53:44 PM

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I'll take the flinching, squealing, giggling, screaming like a little girl boy over the stoic silent type any day. Where's the fun in tormenting someone if they don't react ? So long as he doesn't strike back or run away or complain about how I've made a mark on his precious skin that someone might see.
    That said, it can be fun to make a game out of commanding the boy not to flinch while having a candlelit dinner served on his back and tickling him, or something of that nature.

    Your profile strikes me as ahead of the competition because it contains two things I look for and insist on: a decent, clothed picture of you and your face, and a detailed, intelligent description of you. I don't know if this applies to most Dommes, but the lost art of etiquette really catches my attention.
    While the profile definitely gives the impression that you're a nice and morally intact guy (impressive), I'm not really clear about what you're looking for, if anything.

Well I am far from being quiet in those matters. But I can hold my tongue if it is called for. I would never strike back at anyone and most definately not a lady or my Mistress. I know better than that. I would also not be running away from anyone. I wear my scars and bruises proudly.

I feel pretty good about hearing my profile is ahead of a lot of competition. And I will put that information on my profile.

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