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A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 1:48:47 PM   
Typhon1984


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Status: offline 		"There was always something odd about the world I lived in. It always seems so... off. You know?"

I'm about a green as a dominant can get. I have confidence in my being a dominant, but no direction. The drive to be dominant, but no real destination. Ever since I've stepped up to this new station, I've felt invigorated, focused and quite frankly, full of life. A BIG turn around from what I felt just a few months ago.

My mate (Echidna) is a long time submissive. She knows what she wants, but doesn't know what she wants from me. Now, I know what I'd like, but I don't know how to go about getting it.

Guns Blazing? - I'd wreck her psyche.
Soft Touch? - She wouldn't take me seriously.
Subversive? - She'd feel insulted as apposed to used.

I've tried talking to her about it, but I can never get a clear answer. It was at that time that I figured that it was time that I take matters into my own hands by doing some research and gather some lifestyle peer's opinions (from this and other forums) and come back to her to show her what's what.

I want this. She wants this.

Thanks for letting me on board and thanks for all the help I'm sure I'll get from this energetic forum.

-Typhon-
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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 1:51:29 PM   
ScaryJello


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Status: offline 		Research, research, research. THose three R's will carry you through.

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 1:52:48 PM   
Typhon1984


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ORIGINAL: ScaryJello

Research, research, research. THose three R's will carry you through.
Much appreciated. :D

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 2:00:15 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		grab up a notebook, lite candles tie her naked to a wooden chair, facing away from you, so she doesn't have to look at you, have kleenex, wine with a straw, and some chocolates.......interrogate her, giving her a sip or a little hershey bar dealio as a treat every so often saying good girl, make her spill her guts with kindnesses or kick the living dog fuck out of her, but she gives up the mind..all of it. 

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 2:02:25 PM   
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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 2:05:59 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 2:11:34 PM   
Typhon1984


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

grab up a notebook, lite candles tie her naked to a wooden chair, facing away from you, so she doesn't have to look at you, have kleenex, wine with a straw, and some chocolates.......interrogate her, giving her a sip or a little hershey bar dealio as a treat every so often saying good girl, make her spill her guts with kindnesses or kick the living dog fuck out of her, but she gives up the mind..all of it. 
That's going in the "Maybe" pile. Sometimes, something like that seems necessary to find out what I want... 

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 3:03:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Typhon1984

That's going in the "Maybe" pile. Sometimes, something like that seems necessary to find out what I want... 


If you do it,  he's not kidding about the kleenex.

Stick around, read threads, you'll pick up some ideas. Take her out for a drink and tell her she isn't allowed to cross her legs/arms or something. Run with it. You'll come up with ideas on the fly.

ETA: 'Scuse my manners. Welcome to the forums


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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 6:52:59 PM   
Typhon1984


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Status: offline 		Very sensible. Thanks much for the advice.

The whole, "on the fly" thing has worked ok so far, so it was cool to hear it condoned. lol

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 7:09:39 PM   
Shadow-tiger


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Status: offline 		Heyla, welcome to the boards and the ranks of those who love melty women. I know there are some good books out there to get ideas from, but I can't remember the names of any for the life of me. On the other hand you can do a search for recommended reading, that should bring up something useful.

I'm a big believer in doing what feels right myself. Tease your girl for hints into what makes her melt, poke at the edges all subtle like, then take a shot and see what works. Then again that's my personal haphazard approach.


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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/23/2010 8:02:52 PM   
Typhon1984


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I also haz asymmetrically undercut hair. People with asymmetrically undercut hair can't be cute, y'hear?
Awesome stuff there. I'm good at being sneaky. She hates it. lol

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 2:20:37 AM   
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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 3:30:22 AM   
OohAahMrs


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Status: offline 		This might not be the best advice you'll get but why not slap her on the bare bottom with your hand and stick a custard pie in her face, then put it on u-tube and become famous!

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 3:48:57 AM   
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This might not be the best advice you'll get but why not slap her on the bare bottom with your hand and stick a custard pie in her face,
thats how Jim won me over....but it was Banana Cream.

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 6:05:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP, your sub's name - echidna - isn't that a spiny anteater?  There's another anteater here on the forums...


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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 7:49:01 AM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		What does she want from you?  She wants you to lead.  So lead, and she shall follow.  If a dom was forever asking me what I wanted, I would wonder who was serving whom. 

Try stuff.  Try everything.  Keep what you like, discard the rest. 

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 11:49:15 AM   
Typhon1984


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Status: offline 		Actually, look up Typhon and Echidna in context to Greek mythology.

NOTE: We are NOT brother and sister though! lol

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 12:40:05 PM   
Twoshoes


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Just see what others do for inspiration. That's what I do!

Good luck.

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RE: A New Dom. A Grand New World... - 8/24/2010 6:57:26 PM   
Mistletoe


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Status: offline 		Here is an idea. Get a (quiet) cordless remote controlled vibrator. Insert it ...then take her out to dinner. For maximum effect go to a place that is somewhat crowded. Do not turn on the vibe until you are there and seated. Then let the fun begin. Tell her she must not speak or leave the table during the meal. Let her know that as her Dom you will sees she receive some horrid punishment if she fails to follow your instructions. Start on a low vibe and over the course of the meal turn up the control.  Stretch the meal out as long a possible. Tease her with words about the "buzz" she is getting.

Tell her when you get home you are going to spank her ass hard. When the meal is finished turn down the vibe so the poor girl can walk out of the restaurant. Turn it back on for the ride home if you wish. When you get home take over and own her. 

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