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sublizzie -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (8/31/2010 12:09:40 AM)
I tend to be submissive in all aspects of my life. When my progeny were younger I had to be assertive because I was the only parent who was willing to give them rules and enforce them. (Add in that they are naturally dominant and it made for interesting parenting!) I've taken leadership classes so I know the nuts and bolts of being a leader, and can do a good job of it if necessary, and if I'm given the task of catering a party of some kind, I will make decisions and lead the volunteers toward accomplishing that task in a timely manner. But it's still done from a submissive mind-set. I see things from a submissive perspective. I don't work toward that, it's just who I am.

kuppykake -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (8/31/2010 7:57:23 AM)
In the vanilla world, most people think I'm the one in control for the most part. They'd be shocked if they knew it was the other way around! To most people I am outgoing, and highly determined to get what I want. Does this affect my submission? Yes, slightly, but not too negatively.

phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (8/31/2010 11:06:25 AM)
i am submissive normally i had a managers post for a while and hated it while i could do it and people thought i was good inside i was a wreck and was so glad when an opportunity came up to leave. we play online still occasionally when we relied on it master had another online sub as well and she was constantly trying to submit to me as well she wanted to be owned by us both i hated it when she tired an dhad no idea how to handle it he used to often have to im her to tell her to stop. i wont submit to anyone only master and i wont do sub things for others but being sub is deep in me and it stays all the time but i am a very strong person jsut not a dom bone in me

Owlet -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/2/2010 4:52:29 AM)
For the most part I'm very submissive in everyday life. Some of this is due to being shy and some of it is because I genuinely like to please people and make them happy. The only time I'm truly pushy is when it comes to my Master's health, and I can get really aggressive about it. For example, "You need to take your vitamins," "You probably shouldn't eat that," "Don't forget your meds!" If those simple statements don't work I move on to pouting, beguiling, and bribing with favors. I want to make sure he's here to boss me around for a good long while!

juliaoceania -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/2/2010 9:13:57 AM)
When my friends have first found out I am a submissive, they tended to think that I should be a domme, why? Because people build their image of what a submissive is on a sexual stereotype. We are not stereotypes, we are people... What are the qualities they thought would make me a dominant person? Well, I appear uber confident, I am more than willing to initiate contact with people (although at times this hides the fact I would rather watch people any day), I will step up if no one else will to take the reins. I would rather someone else do it, but I am willing to when I want to accomplish something Once my circle got to know me, like come over and socialize, etc, and found out how much i love to entertain them, make sure they are comfortable, etc, they started seeing that other side to me, and it made sense to them... also, my best girlfriend told me the other day "I can't imagine you with anyone other than a take charge kinda guy, you definitely need that". If your friends can't see you as a submissive, perhaps they are thinking of it wrong, perhaps they need to think of it in relational terms, what sort of man would be best for you... I bet if they thought of it that way, they may tend to see you differently... I do have a large personality, and people often defer to me, but I need a man with a larger personality... the type of man that when he tells me to do something it makes me melt, because that is my nature in relationship to HIM.

CalifChick -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/2/2010 3:38:50 PM)
What julia said. In spades. Cali

asilentscream -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/4/2010 7:04:22 AM)
I don't know if it's really ever a good idea for a submissive to act submissive in general vanilla settings. When people are perceived as submissive it seems like people often like to try and take advantage of them, and based on most of the posts here, I get the idea that people doing that to most of you would be making a big mistake. Definitely a good thing.

oldbabyface -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/4/2010 2:23:19 PM)
Submissive? Only when I'm first trusting. The rest of the time I'm calm, tactful and in control of me, in short I'm usually assertive.

pyroaquatic -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/4/2010 2:36:27 PM)
I do not have any clue how one would.... act.... submissive. It is not a light switch. You just are. It is a natural and organic process that has undefinable qualities.

leadership527 -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/4/2010 3:21:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic It is a natural and organic process that has undefinable qualities. Heh, I was with you up until this phrase. As far as I'm concerned, the qualities of it are perfectly definable... I call Carol generally submissive because in most situations she will choose to "go along", "accede", "play nice", "not make waves", "be agreeable", etc. over the alternative of pushing for her own desire. In other words, I call her submissive because she submits. Since she submits most of the time and to most of the world, I think of her as "generally submissive" or as "having a submissive personality".

pyroaquatic -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/4/2010 3:49:19 PM)
Carol wants and needs you. Why? It is also nice to appreciate some irony. I could go through the entire dictionary and slap words that somewhat define me but I know it would be a farce. Nothing would ever define me 100 percent of the time. There are qualities far beyond what we think we sense. Hence, undefinable. An allusion to placeholders but they never hold their place. We are playing a 'game' with Imperfect Information. Not to negate you but that is how I feel.

Icarys -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 12:24:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic Carol wants and needs you. Why? It is also nice to appreciate some irony. I could go through the entire dictionary and slap words that somewhat define me but I know it would be a farce. Nothing would ever define me 100 percent of the time. There are qualities far beyond what we think we sense. Hence, undefinable. An allusion to placeholders but they never hold their place. We are playing a 'game' with Imperfect Information. Not to negate you but that is how I feel. Words are for descriptive purpose..No matter how you buck against them..you still fit certain molds. You are not a unique butterfly...thousands of people have probably come before you thinking the exact same thoughts. You are not and original.

leadership527 -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 1:11:29 PM)
No argument there Pyro. I don't define myself as a "master" any more than I define Carol as a slave. It is merely a label which captures a piece of her essence. I just think it's not that hard to quantify "submissive". It is, however, impossible to quantify a human.

pyroaquatic -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 2:47:57 PM)
All of us submit to death. Acting submissive takes more energy than being me. and Icarys....and whatever you have said to me does not matter. Your intent is as clear as day. Good Bye. I am done with this subject.

Icarys -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 2:57:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic All of us submit to death. Acting submissive takes more energy than being me. and Icarys....and whatever you have said to me does not matter. Your intent is as clear as day. Good Bye. I am done with this subject. None of us submit to death...We don't have the first say so in it unless we choose the time and place. I don't hide my intent but I doubt you know what it is. Wax on Wax off Danielson.

daddysprop247 -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 3:11:12 PM)
no, i do not "act" submissive, nor do i "like" to be submissive. i just am...with me it's pretty much a default state, one which requires a great deal of effort (and tremendous anxiety) in order to respond to the world at large any differently.

PhoenixNoir -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 3:56:15 PM)
I am a s.a.m so most of the time I serve I don't think most would see me as submissive.But Masters cloths are laid out in the morming, his thing laid out of his shower at night, he always has something to drink near by, ect. Master gets what Master wants. Do I act submissive? No, I act like me. I could never be subservant all the time.

femasoslave -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/5/2010 7:40:57 PM)
No.....I am not submissive in life......I am an introvert and prefer to stay quietly in the background BUT I am comfortable being in charge. I am ONLY submissive to my Master.

Gage46Bstn -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/8/2010 1:11:42 PM)
A very shy quiet inherently submissive guy is a personal turn on for me as a Dominant. I recognize this as a personal preference and speaks to the part of me that is nurturing as well as Dominant and demanding. Be honest with yourself - be you It's a journey

lapgirl -> RE: Do you act submissive most of the time? (9/13/2010 8:08:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic It is a natural and organic process that has undefinable qualities. Heh, I was with you up until this phrase. As far as I'm concerned, the qualities of it are perfectly definable... I call Carol generally submissive because in most situations she will choose to "go along", "accede", "play nice", "not make waves", "be agreeable", etc. over the alternative of pushing for her own desire. In other words, I call her submissive because she submits. Since she submits most of the time and to most of the world, I think of her as "generally submissive" or as "having a submissive personality". i think this best describes me as well...

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