puella
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xot, you have gotten a lot of very good advice here, and none of it, I am sure, will be easy for you to digest and implement. I think that, especially as a sub/slave, the idea of putting self before the one you love and serve is one of the most difficult decisions you will make, not just intellectually but intrinsically. There are a couple of other things I think you need to look at, beyond his alcoholism. You need to find a way to be able to take care of yourself, disabled or not. I do not know what resources are available in your area, but I work for a non-profit which helps find work for mental and physical disabilities. If you like, I can try to find a sister program in your area, just drop me a note. But the point is, that as much as he is dysfunctional in this relationship, if you are staying with him because you can not take care of yourself... so are you. You can not stay with an alcoholic who is destructive, even without a disability. The more vital issue to me is that you need to be able to take care of yourself. Never think there is not a way, no matter what disadvantage is before you. Get yourself together, get your own life out of the very real peril of dependency (not only because the one you are dependent upon is self imploding... you need to do this because you need to be functional, all by yourself), and get out. I think it will be very important for you to find your own strength and self-reliability before you get involved in another relationship. Good luck!
< Message edited by puella -- 4/22/2006 6:01:48 AM >
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