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Friend of a dom - 4/22/2006 12:27:52 PM

SweetEscravo

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My dom and I are very close friends with another dom/sub couple of our age. Recently, this other dom (we'll call him C) and I have been seeing a lot of each other. We spend a lot of time talking about lots of different things, and I really like him a lot. The problem is that because he is a dom, sometimes when I'm around him I feel like I want to be submissive towards him to a greater degree than usual. When I am with my dom and C, I am always the one running errands, getting drinks ect, but sometimes my mind has started to wander here and there thinking about C. I am not really attracted to him sexually, but my mind has a tendency to wonder now and then about what it would be like to do X with him. Would it be different? Better? Worse? ...I find myself wondering somewhat intimate things about him. My dom and he also discuss sexual and bdsm related things a lot together- so C knows many personal things about me and my submissiveness.

I have yet to mention this to my dom (this is pretty recent), but I do plan too. I just don't want him thinking that I want to be with C because that is very very far from the truth. How should I bring this up to him? Are random feelings like this about another dom commonplace in the scene?

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RE: Friend of a dom - 4/22/2006 12:36:08 PM

alovelypet

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i don't know if they are common sweet, but i know i have had them on occasion. my previous Master and i used to frequent the local dungeon here in Atlanta. There was one particular Dominant that i would see all the time. i would find myself wondering what it would be like to belong to him. Not that i wanted him sexually either. It was just something about the way he acted at the dungeon that would send me thinking.

Not sure i helped you at all. i just wanted you to know that you weren't alone in having such feelings.

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RE: Friend of a dom - 4/22/2006 12:54:57 PM

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Maybe you could talk to your dom and express your desire or fantasy for a 3 or 4 way scene with C and maybe his sub too, doesn't have to involve sex.

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RE: Friend of a dom - 4/22/2006 12:59:17 PM

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i think you should not wait too long to express these thoughts to your Master. be clear on your feelings because once you open that door, there is no telling where it will lead. my Master made it very clear in the beginning that although he placed me in chastity that i would be shared with other Doms in different areas. He did turn me over into the hands of another and i was told to rule from the bottom to teach the other Dom a different technique with a new flogging whip. The other Dom only used paddles and crops before. i taught him my limitations and how to push the envelope so to speak....as i was taking this inexperienced whipping i was teaching him about subspace as we went... i warned him in advance how to recognize when he had pushed past my limits and that he would have a certain amount of time to recognize it. He dominated me just a little past my limits alright and afterwards, going back to my Master was a relief.... but for the rest of the night i felt connected to the other Dom even though i was not attracted to him. it was my first time ever being handed over to somebody else and though every thing well, i felt that i was not as attentive to my own Master as i should have been. it is difficult to submit oneself and then act as if you haven't without it having some emotional toll. this is just from my perspective and i hope it helps.

< Message edited by OTKkindaGirl -- 4/22/2006 1:01:30 PM >

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