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vanilla friendships vs. D/s friendships - 4/22/2006 12:42:30 PM

wonderingwhy

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Is it possible to have a Dom as a friend and still serve Him? Also, if he has a select female friend in the lifestyle, but they are not a couple in the D/s sense, can/should His sub expect to have that type of bond with Him as well?

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RE: vanilla friendships vs. D/s friendships - 4/23/2006 4:48:55 AM

rivenmoon

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Why not,
As long as it is agreeable with the parties involved.

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RE: vanilla friendships vs. D/s friendships - 4/23/2006 1:16:57 PM

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I would say it's possible but normally in my experience the whole can't we be friends thing comes up right after I've told an applicant that if they insist on being bossy, stingy with their time or otherwise trying to dictate when and how they'll serve me that I'm not interested. If in your world these things can co-exsist go for it.

Side note, I have friends that are dominants, I have friends that are submissives but normally won't be expected to serve me. My boys are one of my post precious posessions and I would consider them confidantes as there are some things you can't tell your friends...the boy on the other hand is an extension of me.

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RE: vanilla friendships vs. D/s friendships - 4/23/2006 1:41:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: wonderingwhy
Is it possible to have a Dom as a friend and still serve Him?

For some yes, others no.

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Also, if he has a select female friend in the lifestyle, but they are not a couple in the D/s sense, can/should His sub expect to have that type of bond with Him as well?

You shouldn't EXPECT to have a relationship with someone just because they happen to have that relationship with someone else.

But if that's the relationship you want to have, you should let them know and see how they feel.

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RE: vanilla friendships vs. D/s friendships - 4/23/2006 2:19:57 PM

ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: wonderingwhy

Is it possible to have a Dom as a friend and still serve Him?

Yes it is possible for many.

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Also, if he has a select female friend in the lifestyle, but they are not a couple in the D/s sense, can/should His sub expect to have that type of bond with Him as well?

I have no expecations of my owner. I would not expect him to view me in any particular light, although I am most grateful he views me as he does. My Master has friends in and out of the lifestyle. My relationship to him is much different than those friendships and can not be compared to them. I am not his equal in our relationship, therefore I could not hope for an equal friendship as he has with those who do not serve him. However, I much prefer the intimately intense bond I do have with him. It feeds my spirit for more than a friendship would.

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