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ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia
scene or not a male who isn't into another man, will not get erect, will not agree to the scene. The bi-curious have gone a little further but never consumate the deal. Usually the forced bi don't Editing before I hit edit (cause I have the right to do it, I'm an Edit-er[/i]) - Bounty - you were involved in a bisexual act, you probably got off, and if you want it again, your probably - bi - And a mouth is only a mouth unless a moustache is attached to the mouth, then it's definitely a males mouth. I'm definitely bi but when I'm with a woman she doesn't have a stache - shes soft and beautiful - and it's sexy as fuck.

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ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia
If he's exclusively with me then yes I can, I never said "I would be against it" if he's not then no I cannot.

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ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia
for me - I'm not dating a bi male - plain and simply.

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ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia
I can date men who have and are with other women, I don't have a problem sticking my tongue down their throat, but I'm turned off when they're dating another man, it's just my preference.

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ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia

Oh Bounty - I adore you. Lets see, once means you had a bi experience. It's all good, you wanted to try it to see if you liked it. You asked if you were gay or bi. I said, bi because of the experience. I think a lot of men have had the same experiences, but just don't admit to them. Your honest and sincere, and that is why I absolutely adore you, fuck it your the bomb!

Edit: I can't it's not gonna work from here. But I'd never not respond when I get a Bounty Buzz

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi.  In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter.  I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi.  In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter.  I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way...

The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol

~sweetsub~

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi.  In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter.  I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way...

The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol

~sweetsub~

That shouldn't bother you one bit. Your you, and those quotes are from people that are not you. You can have and live your life anyway you please. Are you hurting anyone by the way you live? Everyone has sexual preferences. Its a preference, thats all it is, no big deal, your not protesting against anything, your stating a preference, and that's perfectly normal and good. Some like men on men, and some don't. As long as your paying your bills and living your life your way, you can do it however you see fit. Just like I do and others do. You don't need a therapist for your own feelings, but you'll need one if you live by others standards. So just live and enjoy!!!!

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957
The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol

~sweetsub~

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ORIGINAL: CarpeComa

This is a spin-off of this thread.

What I am curious to know is: Does a general dislike for bisexual dominant partners exist across gender pairings?

I have no idea and don't care either way.

If you identify as submissive, is your dominant partner of choice one that is solely interested in your gender?

Presently yes, but it's not a necessity for me.

Do you care? As a dominant, have you either directly witnessed bias against bisexuality coming from submissive partners or felt it being implied? Do you feel that such feelings are fairly common among the submissive gender(s) of your choice?

Again, I don't know and don't care because I see this as an issue of personal preference and attraction rather than any sign of bias.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
That seems like it is a personal boundary for you that you uphold when no one else has authority over you and it's what works for you.  (I don't know if this is a flexible area for you under a Dominant's control or not.)  It might be interesting for you to mull over in your brain what spawns the feelings you have, but don't apologize for them.[/color]

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I think that right there has been what has hit ME about some of what I've read on this thread...

I know there's no accounting for preferences...if you like Roman showers, go ahead and find someone else who does but they're not for me.  But, we are not talking preferences, other than as a choice of partner, we are talking about someone's sexuality and inner being.

When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way...

I find it a bit odd that someone could state that they've lived their life however wildly they wanted to and not only expects their partner to accept that but who will also accept that they fit "partner criteria" only if they did the exact opposite...didn't have sex with multiple partners, didn't have sex with same-sex partners, didn't even entertain the THOUGHT of same-sex partners.

I find it odd that some of these same people are the ones who've come down on those who have made the politically incorrect mistake of judging others' behaviors/preferences/likes-dislikes on other threads.  (the fat vs. slim vs. well-rounded threads come immediately to mind)

I don't think that anyone necessarily judged anyone else.  If the original question is what works for someone in a partner, everyone has their own right to preferences.  I don't think it's easy to separate various elements that may be seen as automatically attached the question.  As has been brought up, we're expanding it to include the mono vrs poly aspect (potentially) as well.

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LaT, I am not sure about the other women that said no they wouldn't have a bisexual Dom, but for me I wouldn't be tearing apart a perfect relationship because I wouldn't have been in one with someone that had bisexual relationships or sexual encounters to start with. I don't want to know the details of all of his sexual encounters either I just want to know has he spent his life fucking men or women. Period. Or if he is sexually attracted to men, which is vastly hugely different than being able to admit that he finds men attractive or handsome, which he has no problem divulging.

I'm with laurell, the plethora of threads on this topic are odd. I wonder why it is so important to try and convince us we are wrong or to try and insist that every straight male is waiting for a bi encounter on the sly? Maybe it's me, but most of the men I know are not like that. The bi ones are out about it and the straight ones are all about the pussy.