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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 1:11:52 PM

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I will not lower my standards to avoid being alone. I will not lower my standards in what I want in a man even if I am alone until the day I die.

Agrees with and also practices this. My condolences to you. I lost my master six years ago, so I know this particular score. A sub woman responded to a journal entry of mine today saying that those who ask her why she is "still" on here are like an old aunt at a wedding asking, "So why aren't you married yet?" IMO, she hit the nail on the head! :) The next time I get asked that question, which comes quite frequently to me, as well, I"ll think of those nosy old aunties. :D

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 1:56:47 PM

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I'm curious....I have read many subby/slave women profiles on here and they have been single for a loooong while....in YOUR opinion....why do you think that is?

As a sub/slave myself, I have my own persnal opinion...that is that they have too many restrictions....in my opinion they should be and act sub/slave....which means that they should expect their limits to be expanded instead of being a definate.

When I was single and made up my mind that I definately 'needed' and 'wanted' a Master....I did NOT have a list of HARD limits.....i always believed that limits with a compassionate, caring and loving Master can always be expanded...its all a part of the leanring curve to be a sub/slave.

Maybe I was naive.....BUT maybe I wasnt....I have now the most wonderful, loving, adoring, romantic, passionate Master one could EVER wish for and truth be told......it didnt take long for me to find him!....His profile said it in spades to me.......since then....I have read many, many Dominant profiles.....and so many men are genuine here!.....it makes me wonder if the subby women really have no idea what they want....I am on the side of the Dominant men...not the subby women who if they were GENUINELY looking for a Dominant man...they would do ALMOST ANYTHING for them.(i wont bother replying to sub women....i am not interested in your opinions)

Wow, a lot of thoughts running through my mind.

1. Just because we have hard limits and you don't doesn't mean we're not "real" subs/slaves. For example, one of my hard limits is latex. I'm allergic to latex, it will kill me. That is not something to be "expanded" as you say but it is indeed a definite. So, if that means that I'm not a real submissive because I want to live through a play session, then so be it.

2. I want a Master, I don't need one. I want someone who will help to enrich my life, not give me a reason for living. I'm a strong, successful, independent woman who can and has survived well enough on my own. I need a Master who can do that as well. I'm not someone who ceases to function without the direction of a Master. Now, are there things that I need help on? Sure, everyone does and I would like a Master to help me out with that. But, I don't *need* one to do so, I can use other resources available for whatever assistance I need.

3. Yes, I know what I want and, I know what I don't want. I don't want some douchebag Dom (Master) asking me to sign over my home to him, to demand control of my money, to have me call him when i want to put gas in my car and ask him permission to fill my tank so i can go to work. I don't want someone who sits on his ass at home all day playing video games and watching TV, making a mess and then demanding that after I come home from work I clean it up and make him dinner. If that's what you want I'd be wagering that you're living in fantasy land because that'll get old in a heartbeat.

What I do want is someone who I can be myself with, fully. Not hide any parts of me. Someone who I can be completely transparent with. Not because I'm forced to be transparent but because he makes me feel safe and comfortable and able to do so without fear of judgement or punishment. Someone who has a terrific sense of humor, that I can have fun with. Someone who I would literally do anything for, not because he asked it of me but because I wanted to. I want to be with someone who my only thought is "what can I do to please him, make him happy and make his life easier." As opposed to "well, i better get it over with so i can do the other stuff i need to do." i want someone who doesn't feel the need to be "All Dom all the time." Because it's known, I know I belong to him, and he knows that I belong to him.

And, with the right man, I would do almost anything for him. But, I will not do almost anything for *every* man.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 2:19:44 PM

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This thread has been rehashed to death. Please let it die. Or, start a new thread.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 2:27:14 PM

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/Walks in/
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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 3:02:48 PM

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Oh great! Now I have to check members for guns?

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 3:11:40 PM

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Oh great! Now I have to check members for guns?

Can I get a picture of you first before you frisk me? I was frisked a few years ago at Heathrow, she wasn't my type and she had cold hands...

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/20/2010 4:22:24 PM

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Oh great! Now I have to check members for guns?

That's not a gun, Theta. I'm just happy to see you.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/22/2010 6:42:32 AM

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Your profile says you have a master. Your post says you are single and looking for a master. What the fuck is it?

Fickled bitch does not make a good slave for me. I would pass too

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/29/2010 3:06:36 PM

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Oh great! Now I have to check members for guns?

No, just pandas for bamboo.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 11/29/2010 9:10:45 PM

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Sub/Slaves....can it possibly hurt you to see what Masters/Dominants opinions are of my thread?

Take a break and stop taking it personally....and see what the Masters opinion are?

Just because subs/slaves comment on your thread doesn't mean that the Masters/Dominants are going to hold back their opinions- somehow i don't think we intimidate them in the least!

Even though you're not interested in my humble opinion I'm giving it anyway. I think especially from the position of being a sub I'd be especially particular about who I gave any consideration to regarding fulfilling the role as my Dom. I'm not looking, but if I was, it would be a hard position to fill and I'd be very cautious. Restrictions in my opinion are a good thing, it's a place to start with letting your boundaries be known. Sure they may change later but I'd rather adjust them as I become more trusting of my Dom. As with any relationship, a D/s relationship grows. It's easier to add things than take them away.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/1/2010 11:14:00 AM

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Hihihi, exactly XD

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/1/2010 12:47:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: femasoslave

I'm curious....I have read many subby/slave women profiles on here and they have been single for a loooong while....in YOUR opinion....why do you think that is?

Greetings femasoslave,

In my opinion your comment perpetuates a myth that leads to frustration and disappointment for many would be seekers. While the Internet provides a medium for connections, it's unrealistic to assume that everyone that creates a profile will find an ideal suitor. I don't believe it's a matter of being committed to engaging with the opposite sex, but recognizing that the process is two-fold and sites like these offer another avenue worth exploring but it shouldn't be the sole possibility anyone utilizes. While I concur that desire alone will not manifest what we seek, I feel your generalization of those presently unattached is far reaching and inaccurate as well.

As for the litmus test, it's impossible for you to apply your standard of selection to other parties. The attributes you find appealing or most appropriate for your lifestyle will probably differ for someone else. Nor do I believe that a submissive or slave must accept the first person that expresses interest in her or set aside her common sense to pacify relational longings. In terms of the profiles mentioned, the naivete is pretty grandiose and any skilled writer can craft a believable image that cannot be substantiated without significant time in person. To presume that single persons are overlooking the supposed gems you've seen because we don't exercise judgment in the same capacity that you've done is a little baffling. I've found the implementation of the following concept yields greater success (for me) than the method you've proposed:

To Know. To Will. To Dare. To Keep Silent.

As a matter of fact, it's a precept of my slavery and one that has aided me tremendously in my growth and humility.

Namaste,

~porcelaine

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/1/2010 10:36:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: femasoslave
and so many men are genuine here!.....it makes me wonder if the subby women really have no idea what they want....I am on the side of the Dominant men...not the subby women who if they were GENUINELY looking for a Dominant man...they would do ALMOST ANYTHING for them.
(i wont bother replying to sub women....i am not interested in your opinions)

Well, first off, you're a little rude. There's that.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't there a saying among 'doms' on here that goes along the lines of, "Find 'em, fuck 'em, and leave 'em"?

If that's what you're looking for as well, that's great. Unfortunately I wouldn't call them 'genuine'.

Maybe that's why a lot of them have been single for

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ORIGINAL: femasoslave

a loooong while.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/2/2010 7:44:54 AM

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"And correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't there a saying among 'people' that goes along the lines of, "Find 'em, fuck 'em, and leave 'em"?"

Fixed that for ya...

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/2/2010 9:37:18 AM

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I think it is something like this, from the WWII japan and Korean war days.
Find 'em, Fondle 'em, Fuck 'em, Forget 'em.

I saw it in a book about the Korean War, or the occupation of Japan that I read some 20 years ago.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/2/2010 12:10:04 PM

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"And correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't there a saying among 'people' that goes along the lines of, "Find 'em, fuck 'em, and leave 'em"?"

Fixed that for ya...

Touche.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/4/2010 6:27:48 AM

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It is not just "subby" women, but also"subby" men. most who say they are sub, dont even know what it means or what they want. most are bottoms who think something is cute and they think they want it. i have people come over all the time, after having told me how much they need control, how much they are a sub, and need to be a slave. the last visitor carried on for days(online) about how submissive he was, and that he needed to be turned into a slave. he wasnt submissive at all, came in here with list of demands,speaking out of turn, telling me how i was going to do things to him, and not requesting i do certain things. the terms of use for entry into my house had already been established, but this person felt the need to push my boundaries. is that submissive behavior?

it works that way for masters as well, there are many people on here claim to be a master, yet have never owned a slave, and/or have never received that cover from their community.

i agree, that limits are to be pushed. that is once the trust on both sides is there. most people confuse want for need, and make poor decisions because of it.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/4/2010 1:13:42 PM

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It is not just "subby" women, but also"subby" men. most who say they are sub, dont even know what it means or what they want. most are bottoms who think something is cute and they think they want it. i have people come over all the time, after having told me how much they need control, how much they are a sub, and need to be a slave. the last visitor carried on for days(online) about how submissive he was, and that he needed to be turned into a slave. he wasnt submissive at all, came in here with list of demands,speaking out of turn, telling me how i was going to do things to him, and not requesting i do certain things. the terms of use for entry into my house had already been established, but this person felt the need to push my boundaries. is that submissive behavior?

it works that way for masters as well, there are many people on here claim to be a master, yet have never owned a slave, and/or have never received that cover from their community.

i agree, that limits are to be pushed. that is once the trust on both sides is there. most people confuse want for need, and make poor decisions because of it.

You blame this on the submissive or someone claiming to be submissive? Second error I see. Your first was taking someone after some days of saying what you wanted to hear, into your home and expecting it to go well. lol That is experience talking? No, that is trying to believe anything they say without finding some proof of it before you actually expect someone to be what you want them to be. Experience tells me that you test someone out before you believe all they say and you don't compare liars to anything but liars. Then again you don't expect things of people you just met unless you are into drama filled experiences you can basically name and blame for your own failure to seek the truth before it is right in front of you. You take part in the chaos and then blame the other person. What accountability do you take on from a situation like this? It seems none because it is always the submissive at fault or someone is a fake dominant. LOL Dude... your posts are laughable.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/10/2010 11:11:15 AM

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thank you OP. It is nice to see Lockit smile. Juliav shame on you. Kana thank you.

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RE: Question for MASTERS only! - 12/10/2010 3:22:31 PM

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And femasoslave it's a public message board, so bit my slave ass!

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