NoCalOwner
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Sorry for intruding on the sub area, but I had some minor points to add. I didn't want to comment on anything already posted, except to say that, as usual, there is a lot of good advice to be had here. What I did want to add is that there are a couple of things which a skilled Dom can do to help you overcome shyness. One is to work on your self esteem, because shyness almost always comes with self-doubt. If you were very confident that the way you look, speak and act would all be regarded highly by others, you wouldn't be shy, right? They are so close together as to be almost synonymous. A good Dom will continuously work on making you feel better about yourself than you ever have before. In the US, much of this will probably be related to correcting your body image, since many (if not most) women in this culture are overly self-critical about their looks. Something about shyness which is interesting, and a weakness through which shyness can be attacked, is that it can coexist with exhibitionism. As others have said, it's hard to be shy when you're naked in front of 100 people. That's probably miles beyond your comfort zone right now, but with a few years of work it is very likely that you could get there. As your self esteem improves, it will be easier to do things like dressing more daringly, and positive reinforcement from that will give you the nerve to go farther in the future. In some regards I view this as a sort of crusade for those in this culture who have female submissives. Girls and women have been told in so many ways, subtle or blatant, that they will be unattractive unless they lose more weight (or whatever), and that they aren't supposed to be/act as sexual as men. Reversing this brainwashing is, in my opinion, as satisfying for a Dom/me as it is life-changing for their submissive.
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