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sophiesback -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:38:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist quote: ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist I thought straight female subs had it pretty rough. It's slim pickins' (in real life) for straight male Doms that aren't already taken. If the Dom is YOUNG, HANDSOME, PROFESSIONAL, INTELLIGENT, and looks like he just walked out of GQ, he will have no problem getting a sub female. Even if he is old, handsome, professional, intelligent and well dressed he will have subs and girlie vanilla types jumping into his lap everywhere he goes. jumps in RS's lap shhhh nobody tell Master [;)]

Twoshoes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:42:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas If the Dom is YOUNG, HANDSOME, PROFESSIONAL, INTELLIGENT, and looks like he just walked out of GQ, he will have no problem getting a sub female. Oh goodness, I am so screwed. Well, that's why I'm learning how to dance. It'll take longer (if I don't have to talk) to figure out I'm the guy who ends up with an unstable underpaid job involving something intangible and dies poor and alone, wrapped up in a bedsheet. Where's VC's reply to make me feel better... Ah there it is! [:D] OP, so the womens have options and they flaunt it in our faces from time to time for good measure. "Oh, we can get laid tonight, if we just trade in some of our patience", they say. Granted that is annoying, but if you like having things your way, there is a solution. All you really have to do is dial up your patience some, tap the "Quality button" and live life with the philosophy that you don't really need to have lots of sex with lots of women, just good sex sometime. It's not about pretending to not care, it's about what you care about. This involves both self-improvement and using their patience to your advantage by figuring out what it'll take to make them die a little bit inside. (We're all dying anyway, might as well try harder.) After that, just let their womanly instincts do the work. How do you know it's working? When you get attention from lots of gay guys. :) I promise. How many women would trade their ability to "get laid tonight" with the ability to have better sex by just using something as simple as patience? Yeah... [8D]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:50:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Yay! I haz a fanclub! Of 1 whole entire person! [:D][:D][:D] I may now retire from CM-my work here is done [8D] HEYYYY I iz in your fanclub!! [:D]

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:52:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus HEYYYY I iz in your fanclub!! [:D] Does that mean I get to retire twice? [8D]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:54:09 AM)
Yep!! AND collect extra cupcakes!![;)]

leadership527 -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:57:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas If the Dom is YOUNG, HANDSOME, PROFESSIONAL, INTELLIGENT, and looks like he just walked out of GQ, he will have no problem getting a sub female. Or, if he is old, regular looking, of moderate means and intelligence and he can responsibly connect love with dominance. Honestly, I think if someone gave me 2000 male dominants who fit that description I could have them all paired in about... a heart beat.

Twoshoes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 10:57:15 AM)
Can I join? I have signature space you could use for ADVERTISING. Edit: This GQ magazine seems ... (I'm distracted.)

lally2 -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:08:23 AM)
for some reason i cant stop trying to argue the toss with the title of this thread - it bugs me - ive deleted about five posts and i shall probably delete this one, or not and probably wish i had too late. worst?? - why worst - in the end its a choice we make to find the right person for ourselves or not, settle or stay single. if i was prepared to settle id be with someone now, but i dont chose to settle. that doesnt make it 'worst' for me, im ok as i am and ploughing through cmails and fetmail and all other sorts of mail along with being active in my local BDSM community is just part of taking part or chosing to fade out and away, curl up with the cat and my vibrator and put my dreams away. im not going to do that. im not prepared to give up on him, whoever he is. that isnt having it 'worst' its just making a choice.

domiguy -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:14:19 AM)
I wouldn't use "worst" as the appropriate terminology. I think it is more that people that are probably the most unhappy with their lot in life.

DomImus -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:15:50 AM)
I think that across the board your observations are fairly spot on.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:20:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Voodali As a straight Domme (or very possibly a straight woman of any kind), I have to agree with you. Its very rough. I don't know if its just me and some negative vibe I'm emanating, but I can't seem to find a real live, physically present, decent compatible boy to save my life, and its a horrible, depressing exercise in frustration. Oh I get promised the moon every week, but no one seems to want to deliver what they swear they want. Ever. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, the loneliness, the rejection, the frustration, the use, the tremendous cocktease of it all, and if I could stand the idea of sucking cock or cleaning some guy's house, and sharing him with other girls, I might consider going sub. Best of all would be if God would strike me GAY ! QFT!! I had to go back to read this for the third time, and it just stays true! WHY am I not a lesbian??

LanceHughes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:27:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Voodali As a straight Domme (or very possibly a straight woman of any kind), I have to agree with you. Its very rough. I don't know if its just me and some negative vibe I'm emanating, but I can't seem to find a real live, physically present, decent compatible boy to save my life, and its a horrible, depressing exercise in frustration. Oh I get promised the moon every week, but no one seems to want to deliver what they swear they want. Ever. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, the loneliness, the rejection, the frustration, the use, the tremendous cocktease of it all, and if I could stand the idea of sucking cock or cleaning some guy's house, and sharing him with other girls, I might consider going sub. Best of all would be if God would strike me GAY ! Lance (the resident Gay, Male, Dom) weighs in....... oh, hell, just bold and color it.... The good 'uns are taken... both sides of the knell, both orientations, both sexes.... Oh, wait.... there's one or two out there but that distance thing is killing me.

LanceHughes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:31:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Orientation and gender are really stupid ways of deciding who's drawn the short straw. You know who draws the short straw? Boring people. Unattractive people (I'm not talking about the physical here). People with no social skills. People with grating laughs. People with no perceptible sense of humour. Feel sorry for those people.I know straight sub males who are chased by the women around them on account of their sheer awesomeness. People who lack awesome have it the worst, and a lack of awesome is an affliction that does not discriminate between genders or orientations or sexualities. So can the self-pity, OP, because it is decidedly un-awesome. QUOTED FOR TRUTH AND WRIT LARGE.

LanceHughes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:35:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself I was going to write a long reply to this, but I have a date tonight and need to get ready [:D] Even us older, edumicated feminist sub-type girlies can find the right guy if we refuse to settle, and get out there and get ourselves known. Now...short black skirt and blue silk shirt, or longer khaki skirt and white shirt? I got it hard, dammit! [:D] And you didn't ask Lance, your very own Fag? What good is being a Fag Hag then? Answer (way too late) depends on date "type." Tell what's planned and I'll tell you which to wear. :::SIGH::: Even the Fag Hags need traing. I thought maybe it was just the boys (and some of the D-types for mentoring.) :::SIGH:::

LanceHughes -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:48:29 AM)
AND..... seeing as how tonite is 5 years exactly.... I walked into a Leather Bar. He was standing chatting with a friend of mine. I walked up and said "Larry, introduce me to this hot man." Larry: "I just met him. We're talking Frankoma Pottery." Me: "Larry. Thanks. You can leave now." (Lance is so damn shy.....but I do know Larry well enough and Larry knows me well enough that it was 'cool' with Larry. ) I was with Rick for 3-1/2 years. He was BDSM-love-of-my-life, and no, I'm not telling what "happened." So, sometimes it's TOTALLY chance.

Voodali -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 11:50:53 AM)
Honestly, I think that anyone with standards had better grease up their lips and pucker up, because they've set themselves up for what could be years of frog kissing. And they may never find what they seek, but at least there is a certain integrity in staying true to yourself and what you want, even if that thing only exists in very remote countries and in the imaginations of already married men and illegal young boys on the internet. And as for being whiny and negative, I think that although you probably won't benefit from wearing your negativity as a badge of honor, there is something to be said for being authentic. If we can't bitch to eachother and find support, we're kinda screwed.

myotherself -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 12:05:38 PM)
Lance - I have failed. I have failed in my fag-hag-ness...I stand before you ashamed. Distraught. I need to be spanked. cough

DomImus -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 12:24:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Voodali As a straight Domme (or very possibly a straight woman of any kind), I have to agree with you. Its very rough. I don't know if its just me and some negative vibe I'm emanating, but I can't seem to find a real live, physically present, decent compatible boy to save my life, and its a horrible, depressing exercise in frustration. Oh I get promised the moon every week, but no one seems to want to deliver what they swear they want. Ever. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, the loneliness, the rejection, the frustration, the use, the tremendous cock tease of it all, and if I could stand the idea of sucking cock or cleaning some guy's house, and sharing him with other girls, I might consider going sub. Best of all would be if God would strike me GAY ! quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Orientation and gender are really stupid ways of deciding who's drawn the short straw. You know who draws the short straw? Boring people. Unattractive people (I'm not talking about the physical here). People with no social skills. People with grating laughs. People with no perceptible sense of humour. Feel sorry for those people.I know straight sub males who are chased by the women around them on account of their sheer awesomeness. People who lack awesome have it the worst, and a lack of awesome is an affliction that does not discriminate between genders or orientations or sexualities. So can the self-pity, OP, because it is decidedly un-awesome. There you have it, Voodali. You are either boring, unattractive or have no social skills. Perhaps it's that grating laugh of yours. "People who lack awesome". What a crock of shit. Like only the awesome can be attract others.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 12:35:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomImus There you have it, Voodali. You are either boring, unattractive or have no social skills. Perhaps it's that grating laugh of yours. "People who lack awesome". What a crock of shit. Like only the awesome can be attract others. No-I didn't say that not having a partner stopped you from being awesome, or that being awesome automatically meant you would have a partner, or that not being awesome would stop you having a partner. I said that if anyone has it the worst it's the un-awesome, not straight male subs. The first three do not follow from the last. That's basic reading comprehension. Do not twist my words, DI.

juliaoceania -> RE: Who has it the worst? (9/17/2010 12:45:48 PM)
quote: I said that if anyone has it the worst it's the un-awesome, not straight male subs. The first three do not follow from the last. My awesomeness is well known, why am I still alone?[:D](if you can't detect my sarcasm, oh well)

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