MrThorns
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There seems to be a lot of negativity towards agression, but I personally think that its a wonderful tool in expressing dominance. I don't see agression as a basis for forming a relationship, nor is it the driving force behind dominance, but damn it's nice to come home, grab a girl *aggressively* by the hair, throw her on the bed, tear her clothes from her body and have my way with her. So in that scenario, aggression works for us very, very well. My definition of dominance is to have the ability to physically, emotionally, and/or psychologically affect another actions with or without their consent. Now, before the SSC safety police comes knocking at my door I will explain that I don't express my dominance in the BDSM arena without consent. I do, however, use those spooky dominant powers in day to day life and don't give a rats ass about consent. For example, if someone were to physically assault me, I have the physical ability to defend myself very well. In defending myself, I dominate another person physically without their consent. I can convince people to do something that I want them to do by pushing their perverbial "buttons" or by motivating them to do what I want them to do. Yes, I know it all sounds very manipulative and in many ways, it is. But then, what is leadership if not manipluation? Dominance, in the BDSM world, strikes me as a consentual and benevolent form of manipulation that leads to an end which is desireable to all parties involved. Need more coffee...will write more later. ~Thorns
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~"Do you know what the chain of command is? Its the chain I beat ya with when ya don't follow my command." "My inner child is a mean little fucker"
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