LadyRian
Posts: 486
Joined: 9/5/2010 Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: LadyPact Sort of back on track here. For anybody who's been reading the thread, we did run an experiment of sorts. I created a new profile so that Icarys could see what the email experience was like for a woman opening up a profile here. Without revealing any contact info or names, I shared with him the incoming mail that was received. The profile was made very much like My own, with the same things checked off on the interest categories. The two major differences that I had put on it was 1) that I was single and 2) I listed a different location, In the text, I had mentioned that I wasn't interested in anyone too old or too young and that I was interested in getting involved in the local community. I also put into the profile that I had certain "hates" on My interest list that would make Me incompatible with anyone who "lives for" those activities. First, let's talk about volume. The profile was up roughly eighteen hours when it had received over sixty emails. That was without any 'extra' attention being called to it. No chat room participation and no forum posts. I had posted a picture of Myself on it. (I gave Icarys the decision between a headless torso shot or one of My feet. He chose the torso.) It had no journal entries and no friends listed. No additional participation other than just creating it. At that eighteen hour mark, he and I agreed that the volume is more than any person could keep up with. It was a huge time investment just to forward the content. Where we disagree is in what we determined "polite". A large majority of the initial contacts weren't overtly rude in the text. I did get some dick pics and a couple of other rude poses, but not nearly as many as when I first joined up here. Still, over 35% of the initial contacts fell outside of what I had said in the text in the profile. (Based on age range, location, or orientation.) Over 10% of the initial contacts were Dominant males. About 15% of the initial contacts wrote multiple times before I ever responded to them. One male submissive wrote seven emails in that eighteen hour period (the highest repeater) and one male Dom wrote five times. None of the people who initiated contact were women. I got no "scam" type emails. I also didn't receive any obvious form letters. (This tells Me that the spam filter is making an improvement.) I did receive quite a few that were only one or two lines. Out of all of the emails that were received, there was only one that actually impressed Me. That person read My profile and sent Me an email to give Me information that I had alluded to in the text that I might want. (Very much like some of the folks did when I moved here.) In My view, that was the email that was exceptional. LNT mentioned earlier in the thread about the difference in the regular fare and those that deal with you like a person. That guy did that. Most of the stuff wasn't too bad. There were some that we both agree that we really wouldn't have wanted to receive, but most were tolerable. However, when we got to the point where it was time to start telling people that I wasn't interested, that's when we got some things that I would consider downright nasty. All of the rejections that I wrote were very simple notes. The 35% that were outside of the profile interest, I specified that interest. The rest, I said that it was because I didn't think we were compatible. I said thank you in every response email. Once rejected, a significant number sent Me another mail that included a personal insult or included name calling. It wasn't very encouraging for the "it's polite to reply" stance. Even without My preconceived notions of what can happen (I didn't get any that were as bad as some I've received in My time here) I have to admit that, in that one day, if I really was a new person here, the experience would be enough to teach Me not to respond to people that I wasn't interested in. Wow. This was an excellent and enlightening experiment. I have to say that the rudeness encountered hasn't been my experience yet. No name calling, no insults. I'm not sure why it hasn't happened, but I'm not going to be so naive as to think that it never will. My profile is specifically set up so as not to show most of my kink interests, I wonder if this is a factor? I'm sure my newness here is.
_____________________________
"Dodging bullets since 2010"
|