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PeonForHer -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:10:53 PM)
If a 95% of a woman's emails are from men who ignore and dehumanize her seeking sex I can confirm that I couldn't put up for very long with the proportions of bad mail to good in your profile to which I have access. The large bulk of them, so far, are just 'nothing' messages - 'hello's and 'hi's. People who don't know you wanting to be your 'CM Friend'. We haven't even got to the true nasties, yet. It's pretty dismal.

Icarys -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:25:18 PM)
Complaining about a bunch of "Hi's and Hellos" aren't going to do much for me..The nastiness is what I want to know about. If we're going to bring up dismal can we at least bring up something that is actually dismal. One word and one liners aren't the cream of the crop but they aren't the end of the world.. I've seen that for Pact but I'd like to know what LNT's count is. I guess I too should be upset by all the scam mail I use to get. I just can't bring myself to be.

LadyNTrainer -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:32:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer If a 95% of a woman's emails are from men who ignore and dehumanize her seeking sex I can confirm that I couldn't put up for very long with the proportions of bad mail to good in your profile to which I have access. The large bulk of them, so far, are just 'nothing' messages - 'hello's and 'hi's. People who don't know you wanting to be your 'CM Friend'. We haven't even got to the true nasties, yet. It's pretty dismal. Since you alerted me to a few legitimate and friendly emails, mostly from other dommes, I moused over a few of the others too. Here's a fun sample. Email reproduced in its entireity: "hey sexy...dom by nature..but crave to let go..exp things like rubbre glove strpon" This is to a "seeking friends only" profile. I mean, really. You can giggle, or you can get annoyed, discouraged, or tired of wading through it. And no, I don't get mad if someone just writes to say "hi".....but I do know from experience what happens if I write back to those people who are just putting the minimal effort into fishing for dommes who actually write back. Why don't I let Peon reply politely and positively to every one of those "hi" emails, if he is so inclined, and let him give you the percentage of explicit propositions that will follow within a few exchanges? In my experience it approaches 100%.

Icarys -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:34:58 PM)
quote: I mean, really. You can giggle, or you can get annoyed, discouraged, or tired of wading through it. Or you can choose to not let it affect you one way or another. You do have that choice you know.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:35:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twoshoes Well, your profile certainly doesn't give off the same vibe (as those couple of posts). I'm sure you can be nice. My my, you are rare. Most dont even read the profile. Some that do disregard much of it. Like leaving me alone if they are already attached. So just because you may be a decent sort, doesnt mean that you are the majority and not the exception.

LadyNTrainer -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 5:40:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: I mean, really. You can giggle, or you can get annoyed, discouraged, or tired of wading through it. Or you can choose to not let it affect you one way or another. You do have that choice you know. If you had the choice of several local restaurants to eat in, and in one of them the servers were rude 95% of the time and the food you ordered never arrived or was not enjoyable 95% of the time, would it really be reasonable not to let this affect you and to keep right on going to the same restaurant? [8\|]

samboct -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:02:48 PM)
LNT Depends on how good the food was. If the other choices were McDs or BK- probably.... Uh, oh, am I going to get slammed for another sweeping generalization? Someone is going to tell me that I shouldn't judge all McDs harshly just because every time I've eaten McSubstance, I find it dreadful, and that since so many people eat there, there must be something wrong with me.... Sam

Icarys -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:08:12 PM)
quote: If you had the choice of several local restaurants to eat in, and in one of them the servers were rude 95% of the time and the food you ordered never arrived or was not enjoyable 95% of the time, would it really be reasonable not to let this affect you and to keep right on going to the same restaurant? Maybe you should be answering that. You keep coming back.

WolfyMontgomery -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:14:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Wolfy, I'm not planning to ask you for either of those. But could you give me your mother's maiden name, just in case? [8D] Bahahaha! You made me gigglesnort =D I'll let you know that it's Irish, but unless you ever got to know one of my RolePlaying characters or met my mother (who goes by her maiden name again) I'll leave you to go through the very very long list of Irish last names in some database and try to make an educated guess. I might even tell you if you get it right ;P ....Edited cuz I got overwhelmed by my own use of smileys

RedMagic1 -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:17:30 PM)
PeonForHer: 1. About a year ago, I described on the Ask A Mistress board how I had gotten a femdom's phone number after sending a couple emails. The last question I asked her was, "May I send you my phone number?" You posted about how I had a "delicate touch" because I asked that way, instead of sending my number or asking for hers. I am able to do things like that because my starting point is an analysis of online dating that is very close to the one you just made on this thread. Grounded in that analysis, "gentle touch"-type things flow "naturally." I think every man would do well to take your posts on this thread extremely seriously. (On the other hand, those who insist on disagreeing with them, and claim the sun "ought to" rise in the west and set in the east, will continue to find themselves womanless and isolated.) 2. I believe that the day you are able to accept compliments directly, without feeling a need to be rude to yourself, you will be that much more able to connect with a high caliber woman.

Icarys -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:25:36 PM)
Well fortunately the sun and finding women have nothing to do with one another and there are more approaches to finding a mate and keeping one than a single sun's pathway across the sky. Can't speak for anyone else here but I am myself and there's nothing wrong with it. A woman will want that as they have before..Being single or going a stretch of time has nothing to do with that. Peon has his way and if the women on here are swooning over that..Well that's great for him..The kind of women I date aren't the kind Peon does unless your saying there's only one type of female out there with one type of personality...I don't think you are.

PeonForHer -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:27:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer Why don't I let Peon reply politely and positively to every one of those "hi" emails, if he is so inclined, and let him give you the percentage of explicit propositions that will follow within a few exchanges? In my experience it approaches 100%. Yep, I'm up for that. I replied to a few earlier; it won't be a problem to do them all. Versus Icarys - yes, I would find it dismal if those proportions remained the same, month in, month. Already, the tone of your inbox feels basically cold. I must admit, I have this urge to write back to one of those 'Hi!' people asking, 'Why did you say that, you bollocks-for-brains? What was the frigging point?' I don't know. Those sorts baffle me. But I won't write back saying that, LNT. Rest assured.

PeonForHer -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:32:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 PeonForHer: 1. About a year ago, I described on the Ask A Mistress board how I had gotten a femdom's phone number after sending a couple emails. The last question I asked her was, "May I send you my phone number?" You posted about how I had a "delicate touch" because I asked that way, instead of sending my number or asking for hers. I am able to do things like that because my starting point is an analysis of online dating that is very close to the one you just made on this thread. Grounded in that analysis, "gentle touch"-type things flow "naturally." I think every man would do well to take your posts on this thread extremely seriously. (On the other hand, those who insist on disagreeing with them, and claim the sun "ought to" rise in the west and set in the east, will continue to find themselves womanless and isolated.) 2. I believe that the day you are able to accept compliments directly, without feeling a need to be rude to yourself, you will be that much more able to connect with a high caliber woman. Thank you, Red.

RedMagic1 -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:42:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys I am myself and there's nothing wrong with it. I am myself and there is plenty wrong with me. I fail to accomplish objectives I set myself every single day. I am years away from improving myself to the level I would like in multiple areas. The day I stop learning from the world is the day I will be emotionally and spiritually dead.

WolfyMontgomery -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:49:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 The day I stop learning from the world is the day I will be emotionally and spiritually dead. Or physically dead. That would make it sorta difficult to learn new things and improve yourself too ;P I know there's plenty wrong with me, I'm too emotional, I'm too clingy (Master only allows me to tell him I love him a certain number of times a day cuz I tend to say it too much lol), I take things too seriously, I'm a doormat and leave myself open for people that shouldn't be able to to use me... list could go on. Do I actively try to improve my issues every day? Hell yes. And I've grown in leaps and bounds from when I started admitting to these problems, and there's still a mountain and a half for me to climb. If someone thinks there's nothing wrong with them, or nothing that could be improved in themselves, I would be very afraid of associating with them. There's nothing wrong with accepting yourself and your faults, so long as you're willing to improve upon yourself and still be willing to grow as a human being, as we are all subject to change as the world changes around us.

VideoAdminAlpha -> RE: The need to be rude?!? (10/11/2010 6:52:18 PM)
No offense, folks, we have been around the bend, through the woods, and again have strayed from the OP, but, in truth, I think that the OP has been discussed as thouroughly as possible, and all view points have been expressed. This thread bids all of you adieu.

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