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when first meeting your domme - 4/25/2006 4:28:17 AM

mons

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Greeting to all

I wrote a post not long ago, when I wrote it I had wanted
to ask the submissvie males what it is that a domme can do
to get you attention? But you see I did not write it in the right manner for some!
Something when really wrong with what i wrong and how it was
recieve but all who wrote it or read it.

If someone can tell me what was the prolbem with the post, was it how it
was word it or was it insulting to some? I was asking something many would
ask i thought it was a great post? Some males please give me an answer '
to why it was not well received, and if we can start over I would gladly want to
hear what can a domme do on the first meeting to really get your attention?
no this is not to get anything other then a reply no picking at anyone mind

moms/jane

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RE: when first meeting your domme - 4/25/2006 5:22:20 AM

JohnWarren

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I think you are concentrating on the wrong end asking how a domme can get the attention of a submissive. In vanilla terms, that's like asking how a turkey leg can get the attention of a starving man.

Simply, showing up at most events with some indication that one is dominant is enough to create a constant influx of anxious submissives.

The more difficult thing is determining which of the oort cloud of human bodies revolving around you is worthy of your attention. There, I can't help much because I don't know what you want.

A little play? Reach out, grab a collar, look into his eyes and say "wanna play?"

However, for a more complex relationship, you are going to have to talk to a lot of people, find out about them and narrow down your list. What really helps here is to have a clear view of what you want in a submissive before you begin the hunt, while keeping a willingness to add or discard items as you get a feel for the population.

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RE: when first meeting your domme - 4/25/2006 5:35:26 AM

petcerina

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i would have to agree with John on this one. The fact that you are there, and they know you are a Domme is usually enough to make their heart melt. When i met my Master for the first time, i was so nervous i was shaking. He impressed me by helping me calm down with little light touches and a soft voice. i was sold.

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RE: when first meeting your domme - 4/25/2006 5:44:19 AM

subrob1967

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Well, if you want to attract more male subs, first thing you might do is fill out your profile a little more.
Second, why not contact any subs you might be interested in? I think most, if not all male subs would love to have a Domme make first contact... I know I do.
Third, attend local group outings, go to a munch or two.

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RE: when first meeting your domme - 4/25/2006 12:21:44 PM

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Hi mons, i did reply your original post and did not find it insulting ,but from reading this re-post perhap's you could make it a little clearer if you are asking the question in "general" or asking how "you" can attract submisives males, if that is the case i would agree with subrob1967 and possibly put a little more detail in your profile and maybe a photo if that's possible

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RE: when first meeting your domme - 4/26/2006 12:56:24 AM

mons

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greeting to all

I see many thought this was for me I have
someone, I wanted to know in general not for myself.
But thank you all for answer, I wanted to know how it
was on the first meeting. I remember the first meeting,
it was so intense, wonderful that look in his eye something
like a lose puppy who had found an owner and it did melt my heart.

mons/jane

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