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would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 9/28/2004 4:45:53 PM

Goodmix

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Hello E/everyone and thank Y/you for Y/Your time.
i am a submissive and recently met a switch on line with whom i am becoming more and more interested in. W/we share a lot of the same intersts, except that i do not want to switch. i am bi curious and do not have a problem bringing a Domme into our relationship every so often so He can satisfy that part of Him.
We live in differnt states and at this point have only had an on line relationship. W/we both would prefer RT, and he says he would relocate for the right situation. (which i'm sure will take a lot of time to esablish, but i'm not in any hurry) i can not relocate

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i am wondering if he will become bored with me becasue i do not want to switching

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RE: would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 9/28/2004 5:22:00 PM

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Check the general BDSM forum for a topic called "compatability". It essentially covers the same general question. Short answer - as long as there is more to your relationship than just bedroom games, you can always work things out.

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RE: would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 9/30/2004 6:29:30 PM

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If your relationship is limited to just BDSM chances are it will get boring anyway. There is so much more possible between two people. That's why I'd never agree to anyone looking for a 24/7 deal. I'd find that really limiting and constrictive.

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RE: would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 12/30/2004 5:48:52 PM

Sweeticing

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Yes I would and fast. That is why my dom allows me to express my domme side when I feel the need with sub's. He knows this is something I enjoy and if i wasent allowed to do it most likely the relationship would end.

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RE: would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 12/31/2004 5:51:04 AM

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Some switches would, some wouldn't.

The person you need to be asking is the one you've met. Just be sure to leave the answer up to change later on, as sometimes people don't know themselves as well as they think they do.

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RE: would you get bored if you didn't switch? - 1/4/2005 10:15:22 PM

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There are a lot of people out there who subscribe to the idea that it's not a good idea for a Dom to switch with his sub. If that is not the dynamic of your basic relationship switching can create a corruption of your view of him. I've heard that if a Dom has those tendancies, be them submissive or masochistic..he should find someone other than his sub to satisfy them. In my situation...that was not the case. I had a relationship with a masochistic Dom..and I learned to switch on an s/m basis as a way to please him. I wont say it didnt have any effect on the way I viewed him...I had to give it some serious thought and get it into a good place in my mind. Bottom line...different things work for different people and you need to find out where you stand on that, but keep in mind that some relationships have been fatally damaged by a Dom offering submission to his submissive. Myself...I discovered a sadistic streak I never knew I had:)

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