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Play Partners - 10/15/2010 2:12:46 AM

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Do you switch with the same person or play with different people when submissive than when dominate?

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RE: Play Partners - 10/15/2010 7:01:37 AM

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Personally I tend to be one way with someone, either strictly Dom or strictly sub.....well, used to be. :D

These days I found a great partner for my switchy self. He didn't know much about BDSM when we got together, and was willing to explore both sides of the kneel to see what, if either, he preferred. Great thing was that the things he liked to do as a Dom are the things as a sub I completely adore, and the things he liked/will tolerate anyway as a sub are the things I like to do when in control. For me, I'm a lot more sub than I am D-type, and this works out really well for the both of us.

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RE: Play Partners - 11/11/2010 4:55:36 PM

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Actually my wife and I switch back and forth however our mood suits us. It doesn't matter if we are in the middle of a scene or not, it just happens.

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RE: Play Partners - 11/13/2010 3:21:39 AM

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For us, it's usually different people for the different roles, and it's the same way for most people I know. The exception that applies to me and some friends is a Dom who has a masochistic side will have his/her sub inflict pain sometimes. When I am told to do this, I am not in charge. I am aroused in the sadistic role and I generally prefer not to make the decisions, so this works very well.

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RE: Play Partners - 11/26/2010 11:03:26 PM

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Me and my partner started out in a Daddy/littlegirl dynamic and it has evolved into a more switchy dynamic with me being the Dom more often and I can switch back into sub mode very easily. We are currently not with anyone else but each other and neither of us can be sexual with anyone we don't have feelings for so since we both liking being Dominant and submissive it works well for us. And he has found out he likes to be more submissive than Dominant and I can usually help him with that.

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RE: Play Partners - 11/26/2010 11:43:54 PM

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Excellent! How nice to hear so many people have evolved beyond the tyranny of labels:)

I like to think of myself as a label-free zone. And i so appreciate the same in my partners.

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RE: Play Partners - 11/29/2010 9:26:25 AM

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It's very much about chemistry. Usually when I first get to know someone I will feel a certain toppiness or bottominess to them. That's hard to shake. I only have one or two partners I feel comfortable switching with and that usually makes for the hottest scenes.

It's great to actually fight for control. Going beyond just brattiness to actually trying to flip a scene. Certainly doesn't work all the time, but when it does it is amazing.

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RE: Play Partners - 2/22/2011 3:28:24 PM

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chemistry between me and my wife is great . However we are open to new experinces. Can anybody give us info on parties in the uk.

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RE: Play Partners - 2/26/2011 10:43:41 PM

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My husband and I switch back and forth, though rarely. It's like a mini vacation for him to sub occasionally. It's not easy for me, and honestly, I feel like I'm still subbing even in these situations. Only instead of my being tied and whipped it's him. I only do it, because he enjoys it occasionally. I try my best to take command, but it's not really in me.

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RE: Play Partners - 3/23/2011 3:19:49 PM

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It depends on yourself and the people you play with. I am a slave and love being a slave for my Master but I am dominant in every other aspect of my life so naturally when we have play dates I ask permission to dom. Again really depends on you and the other person or people

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RE: Play Partners - 4/6/2011 7:30:27 AM

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Well myself and My Dom only have me as a sub but I can be a domme to a girl.

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RE: Play Partners - 4/19/2011 10:07:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Discreetnsensual

Do you switch with the same person or play with different people when submissive than when dominate?

I have in the past played with different people myself but in a live in poly situation. I do not generally like to play with just anyone, and am rather picky who I want to submit to or dom + I dont like to fuck around unless its just something that is wanted or preferred by the lady/ies I am with. I think its difficult for me to switch with the same person, but I am sure its different for other people.

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RE: Play Partners - 5/22/2011 3:51:05 PM

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I usually switch with the same partners, but occaisionally I am 1 way or another with 1 person, the main times being with my ex who was a dom.

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RE: Play Partners - 5/22/2011 3:53:17 PM

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Daddy isn't interested in switching at all, so I'd have to switch on someone else. If we were allowing other play partners in the relationship, and for right now he doesn't wish to do, so I am not allowed to play with others very much.

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RE: Play Partners - 5/23/2011 12:11:24 AM

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for me it would purely depend on the person. with my ex i was Domme because i didn't want to sub to him. with my current playmate, well we have developed into a boiling pot of everything all in one go. even within a controling role we can feel subbie and vice-versa. on here i'm labled as switch but really i don't need a lable. as i said elsewhere, i'm nothing and everything.

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RE: Play Partners - 5/23/2011 11:32:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tweakabelle

Excellent! How nice to hear so many people have evolved beyond the tyranny of labels:)

I like to think of myself as a label-free zone. And i so appreciate the same in my partners.

What is so tyrannical about labels? Do you think that just because someone would never switch and desires to know what the other person is into makes them non-evolved?

I like labels to the extent that if a guy contacts me and labels himself a bi-switch, it is good for me to know that so that I don't engage with him only to find out later what he really wants.

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RE: Play Partners - 5/23/2011 12:26:12 PM

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Well I'm only ever considered a sub/slave to My Master he is only ever a Dom he is not a switch but with women I am normally a sub I did get a good spanking a while ago from a few girlfriends a then just from one woman too I'm actually picky when it comes to me being a sub/slave to a girl!

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RE: Play Partners - 6/8/2011 11:58:33 PM

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Switch half way through... keep them on thier toes.

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RE: Play Partners - 6/26/2011 11:50:42 AM

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No only I'm only either my Masters sub/Slave I could never Dominate him but I do sometimes Dominate other girls!

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