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knees2you -> Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/28/2004 6:22:32 PM)

Domms or Dommes Subs, Slaves[:)] do You {if You ever where vanilla} ever miss being vanilla???
What has Bdsm done for Your lifestyle, how has it in~hansed it??[:D]

Sincerely, eyesofAslave[;)]



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Suleiman -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/28/2004 9:51:33 PM)

Considering I lost my virginity after a several hour long scene involving shibari bondage and medium level flogging, I don't think I was ever really vanilla. That being said, I've never understood why some people say "vanilla" as if it were a bad thing. It's not how I'd want to live every day of my life, but then again neither is chains and shackles. I can't really say how the scene has enhanced my life, because I don't know what my life would be without it.

Come to think of it... I'm kind of curious too. How about it? I know there's plenty of folks here who "left" the vanilla lifestyle. How are things different? How has the scene enhanced your life? Do you ever wish you could go back?

~S



MistressMiranda -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/28/2004 10:45:48 PM)

I haven't stopped doing vanilla things, so I don't need to miss them.



Nuitarisalyssa -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/28/2004 11:03:39 PM)

alyssa has not yet missed being vanilla. she has found so much more happiness, freedom, and joy in her slavery than she ever felt as a vanilla. being a slave is very difficult, yes, and being vanilla, you could slack off whenever you wanted and not have to pay the price for it.......but i would never change this girls slavery for the world. it makes her complete to know she has done everything in her will to please her Master.....never want to go back! am a slave for life and loving every minute of it!!!

lovingly-
His alyssa



LadyShoshin -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/28/2004 11:09:08 PM)

I left vanilla behind 5 years ago, wouldn't go back for all the tea in China, I now have good friends, fun, acceptance, a social life, lived out my fantasies, role played, did I mention the good friends? 3 boys who part time pamper me, play partners, a collection of implements, did I mention the really great friends?, respect of my peers, strength, purpose, goals and of course, wonderful friends



LadyAngelika -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 4:15:24 AM)

quote:

do You {if You ever where vanilla} ever miss being vanilla???


Even though I have and more then likely will again participate in vanilla type activities, there is not a thing about me that is vanilla. I had kinky thoughts for a very young age and they just keeping getting more intense.

When you ask if I've ever been vanilla, I interpret this as you inquiring about my state of mind, not whether or not I do a sexual activity. In terms of determining whether or not we are kinky or vanilla at the core, we need to ask ourselves whether we do BDSM games for the thrill or for the need. Another way to put it is, could we live in a purely vanilla relationship and limit myself to that purely vanilla relationship and be happy. I know I couldn’t.

- LA



sub4hire -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 8:36:27 AM)

quote]Subs, Slaves do You {if You ever where vanilla} ever miss being vanilla??? [/quote]

I still eat vanilla ice cream with caramel on it. Technically would that be considered vanilla?

Anyway I'm in agreement with what everyone else has said. I am submissive to a single person in my life. It balances me. Other than that. I do things the way most would in any relationship.
If we are speaking on a sexual level. Would I miss bondage? Perhaps but then perhaps not. If you look at the statistics most couples have dabbled in bondage/spanking, etc in most relationships. Yet still consider themselves vanilla. So, even then it is doubtful I would never play again. I imagine even within a mental capacity. If considered vanilla someone would still be controlling the majority of the relationship. Roles would be defined.

Is anybody truly vanilla?



LadyBeckett -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 9:26:35 AM)

I'm not convinced that there is truly such a thing as "vanilla". [;)]



Mercnbeth -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 9:34:44 AM)

I miss being vanilla like I miss being a virgin. Only for the experience of doing it all again for the first time.

Merc



kiki blue -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 1:05:40 PM)

I guess it depends on what you mean by "vanilla". Vanilla sex, vanilla relationships, activities?

It's all part and parcel. I can't separate "vanilla" stuff from my life, because it's all there. My lifestyle includes a variety of different activities.

If you mean would I go back to a relationship that doesn't have a recognised power dynamic, then no, I wouldn't.



Synocense -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/29/2004 1:33:32 PM)

yes yes yes, what the lovely kiki said! Well done.

Syn



cheeba0228 -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (9/30/2004 7:20:28 PM)

Do I miss being vanilla? NO. That being said sometimes I do wish that I had not discovered my D/s side as I think life would be much easier to find a soulmate if there is such a thing if my selection were a little more open. Maybe I'm picky, but I really hate that I have had some quite wonderful women walk out of my life just because in the bedroom they want roses, candles and perfume all the time, and me I want the blood, sweat and, tears. The whips, chains, and shackles. The screams, the toys, the leather straps. You get the idea.



basiasubrosa -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/1/2004 3:14:42 PM)

Since i am currently without a partner, and am not actively seeking either, by all behavioural standards i am vanilla right now. It's not so bad. [:)]

Somehow i think it is a lot better to have an otherwise fulfilling life and miss having a bdsm relationship, rather than have a bdsm relationship that is otherwise unfulfilling. But that's just my take.



Sundew02 -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/1/2004 10:33:55 PM)

Since I strongly believe that D/s is a mind set more than a location or an activity I have never been vanilla. I never wanted a male to lead and me follow. I don't enjoy nodding my head to what anyone says, nor have I ever liked straight vanilla sex. So like my chocolate allergy, you can't miss what you never have. I also agree with Beckett, whats vanilla? Again for me its a mind set, I can't see anyone wanting SSDD. Everyone needs variety. Sundew



sting516 -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/2/2004 5:17:13 AM)

in many ways, i think life would be much easier if i hadn't discovered this side of me...that said, vanilla, while fun, is not the way my mind works...and what really gets me going is submission...plain and simple, ok...sometimes complicated and hard...but i'm sure you all get the point.


sting



smile2cu -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/2/2004 8:34:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressMiranda

I haven't stopped doing vanilla things, so I don't need to miss them.

I'm with Miranda (or at least wish I was!) [sm=lol.gif]
I couldn't agree with Miranda more. Why stop vanilla? It's all nice, so why would one want to put arbitrary restrictions oneself. After all of the efforts, mostly successful, to try everything, the last thing I'd have in mind is to put myself back in a "can't do THAT" frame of mind. I'm having too much fun![:)]

~smile~



ThornBlood -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/3/2004 12:57:03 AM)

Just grins,

Kinda like some vanilla.

Is watching a baseball game vanilla?



Laura -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/3/2004 9:45:03 PM)

I don't make BDSM a focus in my life. I don't label things I do like my job or my interest in art as vanilla. My life is not black and white, chocolate or vanilla. I don't limit myself that way. I am me.

One thing I especially like about being a Switch is that I am Domme, I am sub and I am me. I clearly understand and know each one. Most of the time I am me. I'm not forcing myself to fit into some role.

I think those who label things vanilla (unless it's ice cream, etc) have lost touch with reality. Or at least, have lost some of themselves and what made them unique. Maybe they are trying too hard to please someone else or what they think they are supposed to be.



IservBlkKingPaPa -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/24/2004 1:43:27 PM)

This slave was married 10 yrs to a vanilla. this slave's Master is not very family oriented. This slave has been owned by her Master for almost 8 years. This slave has 4 children who most are teens now and during the time raising them Master didn't do many family things together with us, like vanilla men do on the weekends...etc. When it comes to socializing with family and vanilla aquaintances, this slave goes alone. That is the only thing about the vanilla world this slave misses.


@}PaPa's}slave}--
Every Rose has her Thorns...



sterlingsweet -> RE: Do You miss being Vanilla? If You where? (10/25/2004 12:24:57 AM)

I agree with Laura, hate the labels too.

As for Vanillia...I don't think I can even claim the label, I grew up Lesbian, I always had a kink going on...But in meaning have a realtionship with -out power dynamics, no I do not miss it, I am soooooooooo much happier having found I can openly and with-out shame share my Kinks with others. That there are More like Me!! YAY!!![[8D]



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