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cariad -> RE: Hoods and Chains (5/20/2006 7:59:08 AM)
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A first time meeting should not include play of any kind, it should be a time of getting to know each other and you getting comfortable. In time after many times meeting and casual play, enough trust should be built for the next step. Hoods, blindfold, and sensory devices take time to get used to and tons of TRUST.
girl did not play the first day she got here, but took her time getting to know Them and Others that were here at the play party, watched a demo on mummification and talked about it afterwards, letting Them know girl was scared to try it and the subject was dropped.
girl has tried the hood and while it did startle her, she is not ready to toss it aside as a limit just yet, but will try it again later on. she did tell Them that she was scared and why, but as she said she is not going to toss it aside just yet as a limit.
girl also did not play for a few days after the party as things were a bit crazy around here, and she was trying to catch up on her sleep that she missed on her 3 day bus ride to get here. Sir did say that because she had a rough trip to get here, that He would perfer her to get some rest and talk about things before we played.
girl has a list of things she wishes to try and some things that she wishes to work on while here, and when we did play Sir asked which of them girl wanted to try and she left it up to Him and His girl.
girl was then able to talk about things afterwards and tell Them what she liked, what scared or startled her, what she wishes to work on once again.
the next time we play girl will have a better idea of what she wishes to try, hoods being one of them, so that she can decide if it is a limit or if she likes them.
girl has been careful not to overdo things and Sir knows of girl's knees being bad so that she can not sit or stand for too long and if her knees start to bother her, she knows that she can say something and be allowed to rest for a period of time.
girl understands that she will get a wide variety of opinions on playing for the first meet, but she knows that is out of concern for her safety. however, girl has safecalls that she has been calling and that includes a cousin who lives 3 miles away.
girl has been diligent in making her calls and sending emails to those whom she can not call, so that they know she is okay and is safe. if girl did not feel safe or cared for while here she would as she has said afore "get the hell outta dodge."
Blessed Be
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