crouchingtigress
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Joined: 3/19/2006 From: Maui Status: offline
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Ok I see a red flag here, *winks at LA* my definition of a red flag is something to pay attention to, not that you are in immediate danger. In your profile you say you are not a sub, you are more just about spanking, and this guy sounds very dominant. Dominants are very hard to deal with even when you are a submissive and have had experiance with them before. I think you might be over your head because you were not expecting a Dominant and this one especially is not respecting your values. Values are as important as hard limits if you ask me, values make a person who the person is, and trying to change that is very unsettling. He sounds really pushy...are you ok with that? If he is pushy on this he will continue to be pushy on everything. I have some advice, tell him straight out No you are not willing to do this, even if you are, and you can then see if he values you or is just in it for the sex right away. If he whines or cajoles or storms off or becomes demanding I think you have your answer. And the fact he has not gotten tested yet tells me alot about his motivations as well. You use the word "combative" not hesitant, not sluggish, not resistant. Combative to me means he at first was not even willing to get tested, you had to talk him into it, why would anyone that cares for you have to be talked/forced into protecting you? Anyone in todays day and age who is "combative" around getting tested is telling you very clearly they dont value you, your values, or even themselves. He sounds like a dog to me.
< Message edited by crouchingtigress -- 4/26/2006 8:16:33 AM >
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Service slut, durable plaything, and ponypenquincatdogpig, to Lee Harrington This is him "Its none of my buisness what other people think of me."
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