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how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 12:09:44 PM

MistWalker

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Ok i suppose this is the best place for this question. let me fill in a few key points before the question its self. in day to day life i am a sub, collared , and married to Mistress, though we both identify me as a switch, with her, unless its in play i stay stricly in my place as hers. recently though we have begun the process, of considering expanding our home. beginign with a male sub to be placed under me. ive allways had a dom streak, and She is letting me begin to grow in that side of things. as she seeks a female to add to the house under her. Curently in all my profiles/ads, im identifying as a switch, and for the case as it is, while it fits im not sure if its the corect way of putting things. for the male i take, there will be no switching, as far as hes to be concerend in any dealings with me, i will be Dom and nothing else, no matter my role with Mistress.

i guess the question in its simplest, should i simply say D or keep things as they are with Switch, it seems to me harder to find a seriouse partner, being labeled as a switch.. the majority ive spoken with thus far, despite all profiles saying im not looking for a plaything, or sex toy, but a seriouse D/s relationship base. ( yes there will be other things involved but thats not my base)

im a little torn on how to go about this best. and its been left in my hands to find mine.

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 12:21:36 PM

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I say stay as a switch- because that's how you identify. It will make it harder to find a partner- but easier to find exactly the right partner.

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 12:44:28 PM

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You say you live with your Mistress as her husband/sub. But you do plan to dominate the male you bring in. I think your best and most honest label might be "Dominant couple" and in that you can say you're submissive only to your wife. You say you're expanding your home? so the new subs/slaves would then be in your home (at least part-time)?? If so, I'd label your selves as a Dominant couple. Since I assume if she had any interaction with your sub (even just in passing aka keep your feet off the coffee table), she would have to be reguarded as an authority.

You can still go by "Switch" since that is what you truely are. But if you're wanting someone to fill a house, and make into a poly-esque relationship.. I think Dominant couple might be a more accurate title, and bring you more fish that are looking for that type of arrangement.

Just my thoughts

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 12:58:26 PM

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I agree SmiplyV

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 2:15:17 PM

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I don't know how to identify myself-my whole life, outlook etc. changed when I was nearly electrocuted. Now, I want to have a slave woman. I want to have a passionate affair with a TG (MtoF) and learn some of that life. I have a desire to be force femmed, to be bound and gagged and blindfolded while a room,ful of m 7 f rub all over my face. I want a TG to seduce me and take me like a woman. NONE of this had ever ben in my head before. The irony is, 12 yrs ago I lived in CT and surely could have found all this and more. Now, I'm in the wilds of VT-and you know the Python Lumberjack song? like, there's no alternate lifestyle up here except for a Jesus cult and a Bhuddist monestary. And cattle doesn't turn me on. Women I've met run away if I ask if she'd like to try a butt plug-faster if I say she can do me. Just venting, and sure that I'm not alone in a stiuation like this

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/26/2006 3:54:29 PM

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well i can see both points, and that is the problem im having in deciding. as far as any others that come in the house, and yes it will at this time not be live in due to space contraints, but as close to a full time thing as possable for us all. and though she would not be the primary dom for the male, she would still be involved in some part, and defently to be treated always as a Dominent partner.just as i would for any female she brings in,in most cases anyway. and yes it will be a poly-esqu as you phrase it situation. though i curently list myself as a switch, looking for one of my own, i clearly note the dynamics of the relationship..i just trying to make things as clear, and i dont know why, those that read only the first few lines, wich is what would realy be changed, and not the rest dont seem to be so much seaking anythign seriouse anyway.. but that said..

my thanks to you both for the oppinions on the mater. it has given me some ideas to work with in tweeking things, i look forward to any aditional comments any might have..

blessed be ..

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/27/2006 3:26:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistWalker
and though she would not be the primary dom for the male, she would still be involved in some part, and defently to be treated always as a Dominent partner.just as i would for any female she brings in,in most cases anyway.

In this situation, I think the most accurate title would be Dominant Couple.

Good luck in your search.. I wish you the best.

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/27/2006 6:48:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyV

You say you live with your Mistress as her husband/sub. But you do plan to dominate the male you bring in. I think your best and most honest label might be "Dominant couple" and in that you can say you're submissive only to your wife. You say you're expanding your home? so the new subs/slaves would then be in your home (at least part-time)?? If so, I'd label your selves as a Dominant couple. Since I assume if she had any interaction with your sub (even just in passing aka keep your feet off the coffee table), she would have to be reguarded as an authority.

You can still go by "Switch" since that is what you truely are. But if you're wanting someone to fill a house, and make into a poly-esque relationship.. I think Dominant couple might be a more accurate title, and bring you more fish that are looking for that type of arrangement.

Just my thoughts

that's a really good idea. I've known more than a few Dom/Dom couples where one is submissive exclusively to the other... it doesn't make you less of a Dom to sub to your wife, and it doesn't make you less of a sub to Dom others. The right sub for your household will understand that.

Good luck!

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RE: how to identify ? - 4/27/2006 8:15:25 PM

MistWalker

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My thanks for your added responce. While intelectualy i do realize there are probely many others that are in or have been in the same set up we chose to use. I have not had the pleasure of metting with any though. Thus have not been able to learn from there examples and experence. The most recent comments, and all before, are most appreciated.

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