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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 9:47:13 AM

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I immediately changed my profile after reading your post. Housework is no longer listed as a dislike or limit; I may still hate it, but I love to serve and please.

Um, subs are actually allowed to have "dislikes".

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 9:53:07 AM

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Thank you, meatcleaver. It is nice to know that not all Doms are looking for someone to do housework.

I guess the pont that I was making is that I had had an epiphany. I realized that even the most mundane and dislikable tasks could be seen in a whole new light if they were done in service to my Master. They could become pleasing just because I would be pleasing Him.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 9:58:44 AM

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Very true. Some of the best rewards in submission is in looking back and knowing you got through a struggle, that you submitted to something you find unpleasant or distasteful, big or small.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 10:06:05 AM

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Of course, but I had housework and no strings housework under hates and hard limits respectfully. I really don't like the idea of cages and gags (I am mildly claustrophobic and I have asthma) and they are listed as dislikes. If however, I meet someone who understands the fear associated with that and can push me past those limits then I would trust Him to take me there.

The same goes for housework and raves. I may not like it, but if He does not expect it of me all of the time and it is something that pleases Him then I would gladly do it. I would even venture to say that some of my hard limits might even be soft if the communication and trust were present and if it would please my Master.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 10:20:45 AM

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The original profile I posted a few months back ...started out with not a "I don't" on it...after some very interesting emails...." you have my permission to get naked and call me"...." I want you to be mine"...etc...etc...I began to add a "I don't" list...not for the sake of being "bitchy"...but more to reiterate what my original profile said....and to cut down on the unwanted emails...kind of a way to help with the "let's not waste each others time" thing....

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 10:28:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

Quit your fucking bitching already!!!

A profile full of whining and then ten pages of journal writing that could more properly called "shrieking" is simply not attractive.Yeah, it had to be said. Maybe I've said it before, I can't recall right now.

Deal.

Agree, absolutely. Except I only only say this (and say it constantly) to the male doms. I have never seen such a huge pack o' whiners in my life! I think it's a phenomenon of this website and the blog function. The dumb guys see other dumb guys whining, bitching, moaning and carrying on about all the terrible subs out there and they think it's uber cool or dominant to do the same? Why do people of either sex or persuasion think that others are going to be attracted to someone who spouts that sort of crapola?

In either a dominant or a submissive, it is utterly repulsive. :(

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 10:34:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

You guys pretty much suck at this. I guess we've just had more practice, huh?

I'll help.

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Bad slaves/submissives - don't write me if:

you want me to get rid of your husband
you need me to help you lose weight or quit smoking
you need someone to support your lazy ass
you want to watch soaps all day while I'm at work
you think you're going to get to eat out every night
you think I'm a human flogging machine
you want a maid to help with your chores
you are incapable of tying your own shoes
you think it's peachy keen to be a slave
you look hot in leather but don't want to mess up your nails scrubbing toilets
you think you can 'safeword' out of doing laundry
you are irresponsible
you need therapy
you like topping from the bottom
you're bisexual but won't do poly - what the hell is the good of bisexual monogamy?
you hate sex
you live for sex
you don't know what sex is
you don't think I can tame you
you act like you're six
you are six
you are 60 but say your six
you love pain but don't want to be hurt
you need new shoes every other week and think I'll be your sugar daddy
you want cyber spankings
you can't write a coherent sentence
you refuse to let go of past baggage
you take 4 hours to get ready for a 20 min trip to 7-11
you have creditors trying to hunt you down
you've never held a job longer than 6 months
you're pregnant and don't know who the father is
you're pregnant and don't know who the mother is
you think cages are 'kewl'
you think the world revolves around you
you want things done exactly according to your specifications failing to realize things will be done according to MY specifications
you have no idea what the word 'obey' means

Ok, guys. That should get you started. Try a little harder next time, will ya?

Celeste

Dear Mistress Celeste,
How are you today? How have things been going with your slaves/subs? Well I hope. I can certainly understand your agitation towards subs/slaves that are so demanding and self-centered. There is very little I ask for in return for my loyalty and devotion. Maybe I have lower expectations or maybe I just have more life experience, I am not sure exactly. All I want from a mistress is to be taught what pleases her. All I need is to receive kindness and respect. All I would like is some closeness, to hug and be hugged. I am a person who needs, no, craves closeness and intimacy. I am not afraid of hard work and long hours. I know what obey means and orders would be carried out to the letter. I have not had my limits tested on most things so I don't know what most of them might be, I would love to explore what my limits might be and have them continually tested. I have recently found out that pain and pleasure are closely related. Of course most people have some limits; I wouldn't have anything to do with minors, nothing illegal and so on, just common sense. I would always do my very best for a mistress. Now this all might sound to good to be true. There is a problem that seems to keep me from finding a Mistress. I am a male to female transsexual in the early stages of transition. This seems to be a stumbling block to finding a Mistress/sub relationship. It is a curse and a gift; I have accepted and embraced my uniqueness. It is difficult to find acceptance, but I will keep trying. I have my hope that someday I may find a Mistress who will appreciate what I have to offer and maybe even like the fact that I am TS.

Humbly Yours,
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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 11:26:07 AM

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For Angelface183
http://www.collarchat.com/Asthma_and_Breathplay%3F%21%3F%21/m_343459/tm.htm

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 11:35:20 AM

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Writing a profile about all of the things you won't do isn't really grabbing anyone's attention

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

LOL..this is why I have only ONE sentence on my profile.
*Grins* nella

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 11:53:32 AM

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Wow thank you for the link! What a wealth of information. Luckily, the person that I am currently serving has asthma as well and understands my predicament. Maybe I will be more willing to try a few different things now....

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 12:04:17 PM

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The very first email I received from a prospective Dom said, " 'I want, I want, I want.' You are not a sub. Go away!"

I just figured that I was not His sub and hit the block button after I deleted his email.

The more I talk with people the more my profile changes. I become more aware of who I am, what I want/need, and whom it is that I wish to serve. I think that I am fairly clear about what I am seeking, but I still get emails asking me to drop everything and put my past behind me to become a 24/7 member of a poly group. Hey if that was what I wanted, great, but it is not.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 12:14:45 PM

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Dear Mistress Celeste,
How are you today? How have things been going with your slaves/subs? Well I hope. I can certainly understand your agitation towards subs/slaves that are so demanding and self-centered.

Hi Nikki Ann,

You can leave off the Mistress part. I'm not a Mistress. I'm a slave with a very large sadistic streak so I don't have subs/slaves, I have targets.. and don't mistake humor for agitation. I was just trying to help out the dominants on here with their list. ;) ::they needed help!:: You sound like a treasure. Keep the faith and I wish you well in finding a Mistress who appreciates and embraces what you have to offer.

Celeste

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 12:33:19 PM

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Wow, another page and half of this bullshit, okay...

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ORIGINAL: angelface183
It is nice to know that not all Doms are looking for someone to do housework.

M'kay, Precious...You don't like to do housework?

I don't like to do it either. I was raised with servants and never liked it one bit - it's not that they did a bad job, it's that they were constantly underfoot and nearly constantly around. If you have a cook/chef, that person is around a lot! Theft can also be a problem with servants and I find that very tedious. What young American male wants to wake up to discover the housekeeper has disappeared with his Hot Wheels and Sizzlers collection? But someone's got to do the housework and cooking anyway.

So I do housework.

I also cook at a very high level of proficiency. I also sew well enough to make pleated curtains, alter a pant leg, or repair upholstery. I also do electrical and can run whole new circuits - just give me a drywall handsaw, fish-tape, and romex. I also do plumbing. I can rebuild a car engine and carburetor (fuel infection and transmissions I leave to pros but I could do it also). I can add a room onto a house. I can mow the lawn - but I don't like doing that either. I can clean and maintain a swimming pool and spa. I have retrofitted a wired gigabit network throughout a house via walls, crawlspaces, and attics. I am not rushing into anything, but within two years I am looking at some kind of digital home theater system that won't cost me a fortune and will actually run from a networked PC as does my house-wide music server setup with 7.1 speaker systems. I am sitting here trying to think of the things I can't do around the house - but there can't be much if anything...certainly I am capable of all of the basic cleaning, vacuuming, dishwashing, and laundry rituals required.

I am an adult. Someone has to do these things. I can pay to play or I do it myself sometimes actually saving money, time, and hassle. Sometimes I think I do a far better job of many things than do the professionals because I actually give a fuck how it turns out because I will be the one taking advantage of these repairs and improvements. Attitude matters in terms of results achieved.

So let's say you were my submissive. I might do the plumbing and you would therefore do the vacuuming (I have a Miele and hardwood floors so its not that hard). I might do all of the cooking but I might expect you to clean up afterwards (there's a dishwasher, but some things I like hand-washed). If I do all of the incidental home repair, spider and insect wrangling then I think it would be cool if you cleaned the bathrooms. Maybe you would keep the bedroom tidy for us and do the laundry just on my say so. There's a gardener, but I think it might be sweet if you organized an herb garden for me.

I am glad we got that out of the way...

Now shut the fuck up!

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 12:49:06 PM

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 1:09:55 PM

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Hey Chaingang....
First off, Angelface will never be your sub or anything else to you other than another unattainable woman to you..... You are only fantasizing (again).
A guy like you without even enough balls to put anything about himself in his profile has no right to tell anybody to 'shut the fuck up.'. And if you did ever get a ball implant and want to tell someone to 'shut the fuck up' come to northern Illinois and tell me, dude. I'm 6 foot 3, 210lbs. of muscle, and I kick box 5 times a week. You and I would have a lot of fun together, short stuff.

I'm also Angelface's protector. Fuck with her, and you're fucking with a guy who's never lost a kickboxing match or a cage-fighting match. If you'd like to spar sometime, just email me.

Sincerely,
SD

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 1:21:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: angelface183

...I guess the pont that I was making is that I had had an epiphany. I realized that even the most mundane and dislikable tasks could be seen in a whole new light if they were done in service to my Master. They could become pleasing just because I would be pleasing Him.

I read a lovely book that helps with that process, angelface: "SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools" by Guy Baldwin...well, actually his slave. It has little or nothing to do with 'erotic tasks'...but more with slavery and attitude of submission. I really enjoyed it...

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 1:28:51 PM

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Dear Celeste,
Thank you for your kind compliment. Do you think there are Mistresses who might be interested in a TS? I really hope so. It isn't easy trying to find one. Too many people think we are sexual deviants or perverts or we are going through transition because we envy women. Not many realize that this is not a choice. Thanks for giving me hope.
Submissively Yours,
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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 1:30:38 PM

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::yawn::

SacredDOM, do you know the difference between what is real and what is only hypothetical? I have no interest in your girl, that's why I am "conversing" with her here on the message boards, completely in the open. So get over yourself. Sheesh.

But anyway, I guess we know who wears the French maid outfit in your arrangement. I mean, if she doesn't do any housework...

FWIW, I've never lost a fight in my life either. What makes you think you can intimidate anyone over the internet with this unverifiable BS? Kickboxing? Is that with rules and stuff? Yeah, I think I know who would win already...

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 2:02:51 PM

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Do you think there are Mistresses who might be interested in a TS?

Oh yes, hard to find like any other good dominant but they are out there!

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Too many people think we are sexual deviants or perverts or we are going through transition because we envy women.

Girlfriend.. that's a perk not a flaw! :)

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Thanks for giving me hope.

I believe in hopeful not hopeless. ;)

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 5/10/2006 2:12:12 PM

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Chaingang...

You've already admited that you do the housework. Don't you think you're actually insulting yourself by implying that I stoop to your level? I'm curious, when you're mad at yourself, do you make yourself clean the toilet with your own toothbrush? You missed a spot over there sweetheart, get your brush...

And neither her nor I own any French outfits.

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