KnightofMists
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To be a little more specific on my question regarding children, I was thinking in my OP that the 3rd sub that joins is not bringing children into the relationship. She has never had children and never will at this point in her life. So she has no experience in raising or dealing with them. I suppose a bigger concern that would have to be addressed if the situation ever came up would be does she even have a desire to be a parent. I think it would just take a lot of adapting for everyone. Well... the person you describe as the 3rd would be Kyra. She has never had chilldren, no experience raising children or ever desired to be a mother. I would say the fact that we had children was a serious concern for her. Coming into a ready made family of kids was not something she exactly envisioned. However, she loves kids... there are more than a few much younger cousins that are special to her. But her affection for children never equated to wanting to be a mother. Even today, sometimes the role can be stressfull for her. However, she has our support and doesn't carry the load or the sole responsibility. I would also add.... she is an incredible mom in her own right. You are right that it takes alot of adapting... but it also about understanding what each person's strengths and weaknesses are. We approach the responsibilities as a team. Certain problems and issues require certain strengths..... in those situations or issues the one with those strengths that are best suited will be the person that takes the lead.
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Knight of Mists An Optimal relationship is achieved when the individuals do what is best for themselves and their relationship.
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