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Awareness -> RE: Neutral Overtures -- via CM PM (11/21/2010 9:15:40 PM)
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The problem is that men generally pursue. We initiate contact. And many of us aren't the slightest bit selective.
This has several outcomes. One is that women can often end up with a vastly inflated sense of entitlement. Hey, they're receiving 100 emails a day - they must be hot shit, right?
The second is that they become jaded pretty quickly. Men pursue women for sex - women aren't stupid, they know this. If a woman just wants a fuck, she'll generally take the hottest guy available. If she wants something more, she'll be fairly selective and look for a guy who not only makes her wet but also intrigues, interests and excites her. Someone who messes with her head as well as her desire.
The problem is that a huge percentage of guys are looking for a straight hit pretty quickly. If they don't get that, they'll move on to the next one. To many, it's a numbers game. If you think of a high school jock, those guys will aim at the hottest chicks they see and move on if nothing eventuates.
Then there's the horny net geeks who think that emotional comfort and honour is a way to get their dick into a woman. They're all emotionally supportive and want to be friends first, but ultimately they think trying to take the slow way into a woman's knickers is going to work. Their ultimate aim is the same, they're just far less confident and less honest. They're usually bright and can keep up with a smart chick, they're just uninteresting and totally lack sexual aggression.
Finding an alpha with sexual aggression and intelligence is a needle in a haystack search. For some reason, many women seem to want this, although their ability to detect it varies to a greater or lesser degree.
The problem is exacerbated by the fact that such men will have attributes of the horny asshole. Hey, we're guys. We like to fuck women. Nothing - bar age or infirmity - is going to change that and I for one am not the slightest bit ashamed of it.
The kicker is that fucking random strangers doesn't do it for me. I'm interested in getting inside a woman's head and fucking her. Jungle-fucking is great, but fucking with a chick's mind and her body is a combo that can't be beaten.
Thing is, the possession of a vagina does not automatically make a woman worthy of respect or time. So if I email a woman, I'm rarely going to compliment her unless I'm completely uninterested or the distance makes the whole thing impractical. I'll more likely provoke her because I want to see if there's fire, intelligence and passion lurking beneath her visage.
The other issue is that insecure women or those recovering from a bad relationship can't tell the difference between an asshole and a dude with self-respect. Some overreact and take everything seriously - or they're so conditioned to expect compliments that they see the absence of compliments as an insult. These women shouldn't be trying to hook up anyway, but they do and the results are less than inspiring for both parties.
So - bottom line - women are often looking for a rare combination, many of them aren't in the head space to deal with it and many have trouble detecting it when they do find it. Consequently, many of them are frustrated and cynical.
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