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bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 7:13:42 PM   
HitMeInOhio


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Status: offline 		So i  enticed a couple of strippers to beat me up on Friday night. I was very drunk and thought I was having fun.  But they were amateurs and now I'm scared.  I have a very embarrassing black eye.  But I have bruises on my cock. Will it heal? Suicide is not an option but man am i feeling low. 


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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 7:36:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Probably, but if you are concerned going to the doctor wouldn't be a bad idea.  Yes it would be a humiliating experience, but it is far better than other alternatives.  While you are evaluating what to do about your injuries, you might want to also consider your drinking and judgment.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 9:11:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is why the rule in our house is no drinking and then sceneing. If you can't drive while drinking what makes you think you can accurately judge if you are being seriously hurt or not??

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 9:22:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you think of suicide for something like that, you have bigger problems than a bruised eye and cock. I would seek professional assistance.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 10:33:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

If you think of suicide for something like that, you have bigger problems than a bruised eye and cock. I would seek professional assistance.

Good luck to you.



What my girlfriend Lockit said, but more emphatically and with a deeper voice.

Dude - you got drunk and got two strangers with no training to beat you up.  That raises all kinds of red flags right there.  Then you overreact to the predictable results.

If you're going to overreact to things like this, then quit getting yourself into questionable situations in the first place. If you want to get beaten, put yourself in the hands of people who know what they're doing.  And stay sober when you do it.


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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 10:38:38 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		My Dom bruised his penis inadvertantly once when we were having sex....it scared the heck out of me but he said he was fine. It didn't seem to bother him much and overall it seemed to look worse than it was. It was about the size of a quarter and really dark. I don't even know how we did it- there wasn't like a certain time when he felt himself get injured. We were done and just noticed it was there.
It went away in a bit and had no lasting ill-effects. 

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/29/2010 10:42:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can only suggest that you look at my tag line.  Since tag lines are not permanent, I'll cut-n-paste it here.

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

And BTW, I wonder if you scared the fuck out of the strippers?  Maybe they realized they were in over their heads.

P.S.  Yes, in general, a bruised dick will heal.  If it goes yellow, all the better.  If not totally gone in, let's say 4 days, off to your medical care provider.  YOU might be embarassed: They won't be.

ETA:  Oh, I just had to come back to add:  Do NOT dick around with your dick.  LOL!  As in: Weigh permanent, unresolved dick damage against some slight embarassment.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 2:32:52 AM   
YoungBlondeSlave


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Status: offline 		As everyone has stated already, go to the doctor. If you want go now, go now. If you want to wait a couple days, then wait. Doctors have heard and seen almost everything under the sun, your situation is most likely not new to them.

You should probably also think about seeing someone re: drinking and decision making, and also the whole "suicide is not an option but man am i feeling low." statement. A lot of people feel dumb about decisions they've made under the influence of alcohol. You're not alone. Its in the past, you can't change it, instead worry about what you will do different in the future because you *can* change that.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 8:54:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: babygurlangel

This is why the rule in our house is no drinking and then sceneing. If you can't drive while drinking what makes you think you can accurately judge if you are being seriously hurt or not??

I was actually under the impression that this was a pretty universal rule. Never seen a club that wasn't dry.


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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 9:02:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HitMeInOhio

So i  enticed a couple of strippers to beat me up on Friday night. I was very drunk and thought I was having fun.  But they were amateurs and now I'm scared.  I have a very embarrassing black eye.  But I have bruises on my cock. Will it heal? Suicide is not an option but man am i feeling low. 


1) You enticed strippers, not tops and you come to a BDSM forum about this?
2) Of course they were amateurs. They were strippers - why the hell are you surprised about this?
3) I have no idea if your cock will heal. Man up, accept that you made a very bad decision while drunk (I've been there too so I do feel for ya) that has more to do with you being drunk than BDSM and go to the doctor.

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ORIGINAL: babygurlangel
This is why the rule in our house is no drinking and then sceneing. If you can't drive while drinking what makes you think you can accurately judge if you are being seriously hurt or not??

What does scening have to do with this? The guy got drunk and paid/otherwise enticed strippers.

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ORIGINAL: weaselwelder

I was actually under the impression that this was a pretty universal rule. Never seen a club that wasn't dry.

It's not actually, though it does seem to more common than not. I have attended play parties and clubs where drinks were served and/or sold. Amazingly, they did it without incidents like this.

But again... this doesn't sound, in any way, like a BDSM strip club but some strippers who went "Ok... whatever you want it's your dollar man" and some guy who drank more than he could handle. I don't see much difference in this and if he'd picked a fight with a Hell's Angel. I feel for the guy but don't see how this relates to BDSM.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 9:13:45 AM   
Atropos19


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Status: offline 		Well presumably he was expecting to get some kind of sexual charge out of being beaten on, which would line up pretty well with the "M" in "BDSM," I would think.  Not saying he went about it in a competent or "acceptable" way (to society in general or the folks on this board in particular), but still. 

Also, it's not unreasonable to assume that, among a community full of people into bondage, masochism, etc. that there might be more than a few who are accustomed to dealing with the issue of an unexpected, potentially embarrassing injury.  I mean, there's probably not that many "guys who've had their asses kicked by strippers" message boards out there, after all...

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 9:18:13 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		And he could have gotten same thrill from pissing off a biker. Doesn't make it a scene which is what I'm truly questioning  with the others as well as attempting to drive home the point to the OP that one is responsible for their own safety and injuries. I'm sure he's not the only guy to be beat up by strippers, vanilla, kinky or otherwise. In fact, I'm positive.

He made a bad choice and now he needs to man up and visit the doctor. OP, trust me. They've seen worse. My Dad spent years as an ER doc - he's got some of the best party stories and getting beat up by strippers doesn't even make the top ten.



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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 9:28:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps you should decide what constitutes being "beaten" before inticing a couple of strippers to do that to you? What did you think they were going to do, tickle you with feather boas and do pole dances on your leg???

Leave the fantasies online, please, for your own safety.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 10:19:10 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I feel for the guy but don't see how this relates to BDSM.


It doesn't, Aqua, but if he posts here, he can at least get the ear of people who somewhat understand his desire to get beaten.  Any other place, he would be taken as unsafe AND weird as well.

Edited to add: posted without looking at previous posts closely enough.   Atropos19 made the same point, albeit more gently.


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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 10:49:10 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Depends on how he worded it. Could just say he was out at a strip club and got beat up. Who and why doesn't need to play into it.

My concern is if he thinks this is BDSM and will repeat this hoping for better results.


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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 1:19:46 PM   
takemeforyourown


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry for what happened to your junk, but it does somewhat relieve the relative embarrassment I felt the time my doctor noticed the bite marks on the back of my hips and wondered why that was, "ok" with me.

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RE: bad experience - need advice - 11/30/2010 9:34:15 PM   
bemyslut


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Status: offline 		if the bruises on your penis are the result of a fractured corpus, it will need to be surgically fixed; otherwise, you will never have a normal erection again.  the only way to determine this is to have a physician examine your penis.....be careful, ever heard of safe,sane and consensual??

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