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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

don't think a dominant woman can be in any real competition with a woman that is primarily interested in some wild kinky fun and less interested in actually being the leader of the relationship, and all that entails.

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ORIGINAL: YSG

ok, so, I figured this was newsworthy, and would fit in with this thread.

I went out on another date with this vanilla girl last night. Ill spare you the boring details, like where we went to eat, etc. I take her home, and we're sitting in my car talking for a few minutes. Anyway, she reaches over, kisses me, and tells me, "you make me very happy". I dont know if she somehow sensed my heart leaping, or the big goofy grin on my face after she said that, but a moment later she reached over and pulled my hair (instant melting point for me). The next words out of her mouth were "I KNEW it! You're submissive!". Long story short, she says she's always had this fantasy about having a submissive boyfriend/husband, wanting to be in control of the relationship, etc. So, it looks like a pretty interesting time ahead for me

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Femdoms, do you consider "vanilla women" as potential competition (not in a bad way, just from a numbers standpoint) if you consider a man to be highly desirable?]
    Not at all - they tend to be less OUT and not Kinky the way those of Us who are on this site.  The men they attract tend to be less self knowing as well.
We acknowledge Who/What we are that the vanilla females have not.
About as much as I fret about gay guys taking up all the non gay guys out there.

[Have you ever felt you had a submissive man that you were deeply attracted to but that he was also interested potentially in a vanilla woman, or vanilla dating, or that he probably wouldn't been keen on you being "in the lifestyle?"]
No, the main issue seems to be setting up clear communication from the start.  If the males don't show  real interest in My kinkiness as part of getting to know Me, they won't be what I am looking for.

[Have you ever had to "tone down" your involvement in the "bdsm community" because you felt a guy may think it a little weird?
No. sheesh. pfft!  'Weird' is only the tip of My iceberg.

How many men do you think are dating mainstream and successfully identifying kinky women or converting kinky women?
Not so clear that - I mean, '42' comes to mind.

Are femdoms not as "rare" as some dominant women would like men to believe?
Not in the sense that some women are bossy and in charge.. sure there's lots of those - they just don't seem to be able or willing to make it a mission statement like I have.   My little sister is hella bossy and really an Alpha Female - but doesn't feel it is a attractive for a LTR to a vanilla male so doesn't push that self image.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

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Femdoms, do you consider "vanilla women" as potential competition

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

In the past few years I've met a few older men who found out I was kinky later, and confessed their kinky sides also -- and in talking to them, I found out they had no idea really any "bdsm community" existed, but they dated plenty of wildly kinky women and weren't lonely by any stretch of the imagination