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crazyml -> RE: Disappearing Masters? (12/10/2010 9:31:05 AM)
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Hello entrigued,
First - welcome to the forum! You're going to see lots of different feedback, from lots of different perspectives - if some of it seems harsh, don't worry - We all bring our own perspectives and if some of the replies seem cynical just look at them as the result of one person's experience.
You're going to get this happen to you from time to time. You strike up a dialogue, and feel as if there's a connection then 'poof' - nothing. There are tons of reasons -
- maybe he just didn't feel a connection
- maybe he was just passing time
- maybe he's got a wife'n'kids and was worried that you were turning out to be more than just a cyber fuck
- maybe he's talking to a dozen possibles and one of them just got serious
- maybe he's got a genuine reason for going awol
There are quite a few people online (from both ends of the D/s spectrum) who are just online to experiment, play - the obvious ones will be the dudes who ask you to take your knickers off and assume the position within three messages - but others will play the role of a genuine type looking for a real relationship. Neither type makes sense to me (what a lot of wasted effort...) but they're out there.
I've stated conversations in the past and had them simply stop. Naturally my assumption is that they must be fake - I mean - who could possibly tire of my wonderful prose... but in retrospect, I have to embrace the possibility (as absurd as it may seem to me!) that they just weren't that into me.
But then, you bump into someone who you connect with - and you find yourself chatting to them on a fairly regular basis - sometimes you wont feel a particular "hot connection", but over time they become friends, and maybe you'll go for a coffee - they're good company after all! And maybe you'll end up having a lot of very naughty fun with them....
I can't make any promises - but the chance encounters are often where the best relationships come from.
So, don't let this experience deter you - perhaps it might teach you not to invest too much too soon - but roll with it - there are lots of really, really, great people here - and even if they don't all become sticky friends or lovers - many of them will become really good friends.
And - you've had some superb tips about the offline lifestyle in Georgia - take a look, be yourself, don't expect too much, have fun and if some of the experiences you have aren't "enjoyable" at least you'll learn from them.
Good luck!
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