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wandersalone -> RE: love and hugs for those who need it.... (12/22/2010 6:51:13 AM)
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sorry for not getting back to this thread earlier ...I will try to reply to everyone now [:)]
smiles ... thank you GT for your care and friendship, it means a lot to me
Linea - the virtual hugs, love and prayers are very much appreciated
PA you sweetie, thank you (why aren't you posting on FL any more, aren't you a sensitive and tremendous lover now?)
Subinlife - I am sending you hugs across the miles as well. It makes a difference to know there are others who know how I feel
Shahar and Phoenix, yep life certainly has it's up and downs and I am sending you guys hugs as well
Sorceress, big hugs right back atcha [:)]
Hlen, my thoughts will also be with you and everyone who loved your mom and I am sending you some extra strong hugs my friend
JstAnotherSub - yep the ten years has passed so damn quickly in some ways but in others it feels like every day has dragged on soooooooo long. I think I do exactly what you do which is pretty much just do my best to get through the day and the holiday season and then start afresh in the new year. My thoughts and warm wishes will be with you and all of your loved ones as well.
Aynne, I will confess that your post made me cry as I understand exactly what you are saying. For the first few years I sobbed and sobbed for the whole day but eventually my family and I started to do little things. First we went out to a restaurant and had christmas lunch and then my mum did the lunch at home, just with our immediate family and then later she started to invite others over for a bigger celebration. She would tell us that she was doing this in honour of Nicky as he would have liked to see everyone enjoying the day.
The catalyst for us was my own serious illness about 5 years ago and I was in hospital through the Christmas period and was awaiting major and risky surgery early in the new year. After that mum had a dual celebration of thanks I guess you could say, for my brother's memory and for my being ok.
None of us wanted to do anything this year as we are all feeling very fragile so it will be a very quiet day with just us at home. Like you I am thankful as I have so many happy memories and I have a beautiful niece who is so similar personality wise to her dad so it really is as though he hasn't left.
Thank you for posting that link to the song as well Aynne
I was talking with my best friend the other day about the sadness I still feel. People have said to me things like - oh it is x years now, it mustn't be as sad and crazy things like that. I would rather still feel some sadness and grief for Nicky as it shows just how much he was loved, even if he didn't quite realise the impact his leaving us would have at the time.
I feel sad thinking that there are people in the world who have died and they don't have anyone that smiles through their tears as they recall things about them days, weeks, months and years later.
Thank you again everyone for sharing your own memories and for your support. I know that there are a lot of people who find this time of year difficult and I hope you know that when I burn my candles and incense I am sending out healing, strength and comfort to you all
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