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RE: advice needed - 12/25/2010 8:29:48 AM

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I don't get it.

Why do you need to tell anyone anything at all???

that

My parents would be the last one on the planet I would be telling stuff like that and I don't mind that I know that they could never ever imagine me being obedient

Unless of course shocking your parents could be part of the reason for your choices.. *a possibility*

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RE: advice needed - 12/25/2010 9:38:46 AM

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hi everyone i need advice i want to tell my friends and family about my preferred lifestyle but i dont know what to say so that way everything will go smoothly exspelly my parents i live with right now and i love them and i dont want to lose contact with them but want to wait until after the holidays and should i wait until i get a misstress

I think it is perfectly acceptable for us as adults to have some aspects of our lives that we keep as private.
Not necessarily actively hidden but private.

Do you announce to your parents your preferences for jacking off or how many times a day you get a hard on?
My guess is probably not.

It is not much different than closing the bathroom door.

Once you have figured yourself out a little bit and have gotten yourself established in a relationship then maybe you may choose to let them know parts of this...but again, I don't think it is necessary to spill all to everyone.

Finding people who are local to you perhaps within a TNG munch group may take the pressure off wanting to be accepted by others... as they will be on the same page.

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RE: advice needed - 12/25/2010 11:56:04 AM

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Here's one piece of advice I have for you, should you spring the news on family members. "Avoid going into long winded specific details" <--- this might be TMI for them to deal with.

When I broke the news to my own mother, she was cool about it. Her response was that how two consenting adults wish to live is their business and choice. Then again, I have a fairly cool mother (not everybody does). However, I did not go into long winded details about what I'm into. Sure, she knows I'm into S&M play and D/s and the basics. Hell, she even knows I'm into a few things such a Wax play, Bondage and Temporary body art. I don't have to worry about having to hide a few things such as floggers. So yeah, there's a certain comfort zone.

However, I know without a doubt that if I were to go into specific details about certain activities, she would have a hard time mentally processing a few things.

Some of my close friends know that I'm in BDSM, and they are accepting of it. Seems like most people I know tend to judge me for my Character and who I am as a whole. Then again, I prefer to be around more open minded people to begin with.

Some people do and don't have family members or friends that will be understanding and all that accepting of things. Best word of advice, is should you break the news to anybody... take it slowly... limit the amount of information you share with them. TMI can be a bad thing.

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