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CherryNeko -> RE: What makes you want to submit? (12/30/2010 12:03:52 AM)
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Of course I very much like him as a person, but well... submission alone?
First of all, I have to say I usually submit to whom I really like. You have this feeling, like you really want to fit in, even if you know you already do. It's easier to submit when you can't get tired of that person and the way they interact with you. Also, I find it is a better choice for me to submit and concentrate in order to reach deeper meaning, than just to keep reminding myself not to act submissive, and lose thread of the relationship, and end up frustrated and tired. I am submissive by nature.
Of course, he does not only have to inspire me an 'I want to be with you' feeling. He has to prove he is capable of handling US BOTH. So I really made an effort while thinking it out, and I think it is mainly that when he proves to be in charge, he makes it good for both of us. I can decide not to submit, but then I wouldn't be able to (insert amazing experience here).
Often, he reads me perfectly, so he must pay extreme attention, or how else would he do that...
He provides charming aftercare.
He never annoys me, so he reinforces my need to please him.
He doesn't lie to me.
He is respectful.
He knows our places.
He stops when I ask him to.
He is sincere and open about himself.
He listens if I think he is mistaken.
He has worked to earn my favor: I am certain that if he insists on something I am not convinced about, it will be fine. Why else would he insist?
I want to submit because I know he is the one I can trust with this. He is qualified, in other words. It's going to feel amazing, he will stop if I ask him to, he will give us a good show, and he can handle it. It will be fine.
If not, there wouldn't be a next time. Now that, would be unfortunate for both of us.
(I wrote it trying to be objective, but he's my boyfriend, so... I warn you).
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