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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 11:21:13 AM

Focus50

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I think after a while the NO doesn't become an issue anymore because you do read each other well and know what somebody can take, but when you are starting out and getting to know each other, a no in time might be a good way to warn of treacherous ground that could cause a lot of damage.

I've always said that about safewords, actually. You never notice that it's become redundant with a longterm partner - it just dawns on you one day that it doesn't get used anymore....

Focus.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 7:43:49 PM

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it has been a very long time since i said no to my Mistress. my Mistress knows me and i trust Her. as a slave i always have the ability to say no but like others have said except for illness or being very tired i will do as my Mistress bids i am a masso slave and She a sadist so it is a balanced relationship. i am a morning person so i do fade out as the night goes on.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:28:50 PM

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What has it been, clip? How much time has passed that you have really had to say "no" to Me?

Eighteen months, perhaps? Maybe two years?

It is so rare that we are not in synch.

I do know that it has happened, but it is so long ago now.

A long, past distant memory.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:29:48 PM

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:35:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

If I say no, I have a good reason. I would hope that someone I'm involved with knows and trusts me enough to respect that. On the other hand, I don't take advantage and say no when it is a whim or tired or stressed or whatever. That's how the other person knows I have a good reason - because no doesn't mean "well, maybe." It means there is something serious going on and we need to deal with it.

Yes that. I don't often say no, even if I don't always feel like whatever he wants, which is rare. But if I am having my period or feeling emotionally withdrawn, I certainly tell him this, and because he prefers to make love or play with or whatever term you use, with a woman that is into it, he doesn't generally force it, because I don't use excuses, I have valid reasons.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:38:52 PM

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New slave here on this site.............

When I say no I expect all D/s play to stop immediatley.
I would frankly have any Domme arrested for assault and battery charges if play did not stop.

No means no - ignore it and face time in prison.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:56:05 PM

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Wow, SuperMaleSlave... hope your play-partners know what they're getting into before the play starts.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 8:58:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: SuperMaleSlave

New slave here on this site.............

When I say no I expect all D/s play to stop immediatley.
I would frankly have any Domme arrested for assault and battery charges if play did not stop.

No means no - ignore it and face time in prison.

LOL ... slaves do what their Owner wants ... no questions ... NO RIGHTS!

So please do share ... how on earth could you be a super slave?

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 9:01:42 PM

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~snorks~

I think whoever is topping him is the slave!

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 9:11:49 PM

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ROFL ... Your right! As usual ....

This is the third one today ... ROFL

Now I really am understanding why You Ladies get annoyed! I certianly am!

Newbies ... please READ before POSTING!

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 9:14:58 PM

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I think whoever is topping him is the slave!

Of course they are! Read his profile; I think he's attempting to 'make a funny' here, just as he is in his profile narrative. Except...it's not funny.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 9:19:51 PM

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<--- thinks this thread would have gone a lot differently if asked in Master...

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 9:24:59 PM

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yeah sorry about that omkfy. I thought about that and/or just posting in the General BDSM. But then again, kind of to be expected from a straight male submissive. Next time perhaps...

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/2/2011 10:57:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

But given the maturity of your reply, I think you'd agree this isn't the moody "no" the OP was asking of. And why any "no" isn't acceptable as a safeword as it defeats its own purpose.

Be well.... :)

Focus.

I get in those moods as well Im human, and all my partners past and future will know when I get moody to throw some form of an apple to me be it juice sauce or the fruit and send me on my merry little way to do as requested....

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 4:02:39 AM

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i think respect can happen w/o threat of prison time...
Blue's bitch

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 6:03:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SuperMaleSlave

New slave here on this site.............

When I say no I expect all D/s play to stop immediatley.
I would frankly have any Domme arrested for assault and battery charges if play did not stop.

No means no - ignore it and face time in prison.

Fella, if my sub safewords, it's my choice whether I stop altogether, change to another activity, or continue the same activity but less intensely. If she safewords again, I'll stop. If a sub did not trust me enough, prior to meeting, that I would respond appropriately when she safeworded, I'd have concerns about her past history or the impression I was making. And if she ever mentioned having me arrested prior to us playing, I'd get the holy hell away from her.

If she isn't willing to trust my sense of responsibility and honor, no play. And I don't like threats.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 7:57:45 AM

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SuperSlave's profile has to be a joke, if it isn't GOOD LUCK, LOL. You will need it. And agree with much of the advice given. I tend to be very honest so the whole "Just not in the mood" would never be said, if I said no, it would have reasoning behind it. Can't see it happening very often either way as emotionally and physically I stay on a pretty even keel. As I have never experienced being a sub, I can't say for sure but when it happens I am thinking I will be an easy keeper. As the saying goes, remains to be seen though....

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 8:10:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

I like being "told" to do something I feel like saying no too!

It actually is ... a kink of mine!

Me too. :)

I'm also a rape survivor but it happened so long ago that it hasn't impacted my bdsm experiences significantly, except, perhaps, to make them more erotic.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 9:25:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
If she isn't willing to trust my sense of responsibility and honor, no play. And I don't like threats.

I think I was more like SMS at one time. It was down to my being cagey and suspicious about femdoms - I couldn't relate whatever notion I had, back then, of female dominance to actual, living and human femdoms.

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RE: When a sub says "No" - 1/3/2011 9:28:47 AM

GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: kdsusa7894

SuperSlave's profile has to be a joke, if it isn't GOOD LUCK, LOL. You will need it. And agree with much of the advice given. I tend to be very honest so the whole "Just not in the mood" would never be said, if I said no, it would have reasoning behind it. Can't see it happening very often either way as emotionally and physically I stay on a pretty even keel. As I have never experienced being a sub, I can't say for sure but when it happens I am thinking I will be an easy keeper. As the saying goes, remains to be seen though....

sometimes, "just not in the mood" equates to 'no, there is a reason'
just sayin

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