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disretion7 -> RE: Faith and custom? (5/1/2006 8:54:36 PM)
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Dear Stef,
Thanks for the kindness of your thoughtful and sage reply!
Aside from commiseration, I was seeking to learn if MOST folks really thought the practice IS dishonest, as obvious as the answer seems to you and I. Since nobody said much about that issue in initial reactions to my first thread, on the topic, I could not help wondering if a sizable percentage of members thought that, since a fool deserves what he gets, the deceiver justly earned and deserves the fruits of her deception?
As I am comforted to learn that almost nobody believes the latter, that is what my thread achieved aside from the commiseration. For that, I am more grateful than I can say! As to the money, I lose that with a glad heart! That (and much else I've lost) is nothing compared with the sorrow I brought back from Vietnam.
As a public service to others who might blind themselves sufficiently to follow MY bad example, I'll share my theory as to what I think transpired and the ultimate outcome. To wit, I disagree with those who theorize that I was had by a by a hairy old gent posing as a beautiful young pro-domme, because I can't see how he would sustain the con with no stock in trade? An avalanche of complaints would drive him off of this stie in short order.
More likely, it seems, this beauty is the pro-domme she claims to be and, very likely, honors MOST of the good faith tributes on the basis that most of her clients are acceptable to play with? I may have been the only (or one of few exceptions) one who is not acceptable, but whose money was? On that basis, Collarme is unlikely ever to find against her. I've lived long enough to know that MOST organizations prize stability and serenity above all (including justice) and that complainers are just bad news whose necks get chopped off. I am reconciled to that dynamic, certainly, together with kissing the money off, and expecting no further commiseration or support. No one got really hurt and the lady, in question, probably does great work for others which redeems her treatment of me.
The only real casualty in this incident, is "good faith" and I am convinced that will quickly rebound with so many wonderful members of your caliber here!
Cheers!
disretion7 (Phil)
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It DOES beg another question that I am less clear about majority opinion on. Does a pro-domme who requests good faith financial tributes here, in advance, have no obligation to respond?
You can't force an obligation upon a stranger, and attempting to do so is a fool's gambit. It's almost as foolish as sending money to a complete stranger and expecting anything other than never seeing that money again.
It truly does suck that there are people here with no goal other than to fleece the trusting/desperate/unworldly of their hard earned money. As much as that does suck, people ultimately have to understand that when engaging in this kind of arrangement, they stand a good chance of getting taken and they can't expect anyone other than themselves to protect their interests. Scammers have become so common in the online world that TPTB have put this disclaimer at the top of the page when you read email:
"Any messages involving Africa, Ghana, Nigeria, Singapore, wiring money, online escrow services, or cashiers checks are scams and should be ignored. Be wary of requests for your personal email address or money from people you just met."
I don't think you're going to find many people here who don't view the practice as anything other than dishonest, but I'm not really sure what you're hoping to achieve with this thread aside from commiseration.
~stef
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