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LadyNTrainer -> RE: Why? (1/12/2011 12:39:59 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Rule
Hm, Focus50 does have a very sharp mind, and LNT is attracted to fabian, and I do get the impression that he is submissive rather than slave, and I have just now taken a look at his photographs, and I do notice that he has not yet added that he is straight and not interested in males to his profile, so maybe there is something to Focus50's suggestion.
Maybe. My being attracted to a guy is only good gaydar a small percentage of the time. There's other traits that attract me besides that ability to be an object of desire rather than a pursuer, a trait that gay and bi men frequently have and purely heterosexual men overwhelmingly lack. My secondary partner is (alas) purely heterosexual, albeit genderbent enough to be able to relate to my own gender-bentness. He does not have the ability to be an object of desire, though he is learning. He does have other traits that interested and attracted me. Basically he's pretty, genuinely submissive, nerdly in most of the same ways I am (hardcore gamer geek, etc) and quite brilliant. And stone cold heterosexual.
The OP has none of the other traits that do it for me, and beyond that surface attraction, we'd be a lousy match. Basically, if you write for a peer reviewed journal, you'll keep up with us just fine and we'll have plenty to talk about. If you at least read peer reviewed journals, most likely we can find something to talk about. If you don't know what a peer reviewed journal is, you probably won't understand a damn thing we say to each other or get any of our jokes. Not a good fit for my poly family, even assuming he was poly in the first place, which I don't think he is. So no matches happening here; I have no personal stake in this thing.
Basically there's one single thing I find very attractive about the OP, and that is the ability to be a passive object of desire. I like the fact that he preens and primps and makes himself pretty in order to be seen as more desirable. That's a great attitude for a submissive man, IMO, much more submissive than a guy who calls himself a sub but who clearly doesn't give a shit what he looks like or go to any effort to make himself desirable or sexy or pleasing to a woman's eye.
So kudos to him, I really think he is doing that much right. Other people's tastes may vary, but for my tastes, he's tuned in perfectly.
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