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I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/11/2011 12:53:48 PM

Dmon

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I've reworked my profile to state that I'm only interested in something that could lead to LTR.

I'm not very interested in subs. My focus has mainly been on switches and Dommes. As well as some on who can be moderate about all things D/s related. I won't even get into looks, as i haven't even made it that far... suffice to say, there are attractive and unattractive girls, same as boys.

Now am I asking too much? I find most switches are older, way over weight, and or already in a relationship.... others barely frequent the site.

And the Dommes... most are looking for hard core obedience. The half that seem lifestyle seem primarily interested in making a poly house. Often they already have partners. Then there's the pro's who are all about the tribute... I'm looking for a life partner here, not a quick fix for my masochist urges.

Then there's those pro lifestyle Domme... Well they're both closer and infinitely further away from what I"m looking for.

Oh well.. glad this isn't the only site I'm on.

Just wondering what anyones thoughts are... NO HATERS PLEASE

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/11/2011 2:00:23 PM

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Now am I asking too much?

This is the only question I see in the original post, OP, so this is all I'm going to address.

Are you asking too much? I don't know. For me, yes, because I'm an older fat female switch who isn't a kinky gamer girl (you mention the kgg part in your journal). For that reason, we wouldn't be a match.

I know...hard to believe we'll have to go on without each other.

Honestly, if you think you're asking for too much, take some time to redefine your wants/needs from a partner and a relationship. I'd also suggest you accept that what you want probably won't be found online.

If you want a hot little kinky gamer girl, go to where they would be found.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/11/2011 4:54:50 PM

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If you want a hot little kinky gamer girl, go to where they would be found.

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This is a good start. Not sure what game you play mostly, but there are some fun kinky WOW guilds out there. A few years ago I started a femdom specific guild in WOW for a few laughs, and saw a few hookups occur as a result, including me personally procuring a delicious boytoy. We did eventually meet in real life and are meeting again (yum!) next week in his home town -- all as a result of WOW, of all things. Of course he worked his ass off being my bodyguard in PVP, dragging my poorly geared toon through raids and heroics and not making fun of my laughable skills, and buying me presents (in game, of course).

Nowadays lots of kinky folks can be found in WOW - email me if you want info on the server I'm currently on. Granted, I'm not single and fit your criteria for a relationship, but I strongly believe that there are some kinky love connections to be made if you hang around socially. For those kinky gamer types, chemistry just evolves when you spend time on vent, chat about things outside of kink and get to know each other as people.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/11/2011 6:11:29 PM

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I took off my journal about gamer girls... I wasn't very serious about it.. as long as she lets me get my gaming fix in.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/12/2011 4:04:32 AM

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I'm not a switch, but your question was interesting to Me. I'm going to answer from a Dominant woman's perspective. You say your focus has been on either one, so I figure it's fair game.

Your question was are you asking too much. Not necessarily, but you also have to realize that you're not fishing in the biggest pond. Between the post and the profile, I'm honestly confused on how you expect your potential relationship to work. From what you're writing here, you don't sound especially happy with the idea of poly, so I'm guessing that you want one person who will be willing to have both roles. Not all switches are willing to do that with the same person, so that may be limiting your options. For Domme's, you say you are only interested in moderate D/s. That's going to limit you as well. You're not a bad looking guy and I expect you want someone who is on the same level of physical attraction.

Now, take all of that and considering your age, guess how many available women fit that bill who aren't already in a relationship? Then, I want you to think about how many other males just like you want the very same thing. The numbers aren't great, so you definitely have to be proactive in your search. You're also going to have to put your best foot forward.

You say you've reworked the profile, but I would suggest that you tune it up a bit. Your profile mentions the financial issue, so having it in your journal as well is overkill. Having it in the profile is enough and remove it from the journal entry. Also, I think you would do better if you defined the type of relationship that you are looking for. Do you want to take turns with authority? Do you want someone who is willing to switch in the bedroom? Would you be content in one role (I'm assuming you as the sub, since you are also looking for Dommes) for a relationship? Would you be asking if you could stretch you Dom legs with others if that happened? When you say moderate D/s, does that mean bedroom only or are you talking about from a protocol standpoint? There's just a whole lot that isn't clear and that could be leading to your difficulty.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/12/2011 10:43:08 PM

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another thing to consider in the things that your serching for is how hard and fast are they and what are able to be chanced. when i was looking i did not have any real hard and fast limits more guidelines and with that outlook i found my Mistress. if She and i had stuck to the guides that She had in place at the time it would not have happend as my Mistress was not looking for a older sub than Herself nor a married one. i had chatted with Her online and after a few days was invited to the dungon in atlanta some 3hours away to meet, and i have been Her collared slave for over 3 years now.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/13/2011 5:41:51 PM

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I think the question isn't always "am i asking too much?" but more "how long am i willing to wait to get what i want?" If you really have parameters that you feel you need in a relationship, then chances are compromising may not be fulfilling for you. I think that is something everyone who is looking for a ltr has to think about and decide.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/18/2011 2:55:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dmon

Now am I asking too much?

You sure as hell don't need to be asking anyone here if you are asking too much. That blunt little instrument needs to be pointed at you. I am sure a dozen or more people could answer that question, at you but not for you. Draw your lines, get right in your head, heart and what ever else matters to you, and get to the bottom line: is what you are asking for enough to satisfy you?

You can concede and settle for less, but what kind of happy are you going to have? In the back of your head the nagging bitch of desire is going to goad and mock you and compel you to reach for more, and that hedonistic bastard is going to listen to her. There is only one solution if you intend to find a partner or partners here, and not wait to see who has the courage to contact you and find out who the hell you really are: Write a profile that is brutally honest and specific. Hammer out all the nasty little details and get your fukin monsters all lined up for introductions. If they like your little monsters, maybe their lil monsters will want to have kinky fun with your lil monsters, then you are all aces. Let them come to you with eyes wide open, with all the freaks in the spotlight, down to the nity grity of how you like your dishes washed. Remove the surprises, lay it all out cuz this is a world wide connection tool. No matter how freaky you think you are there is some other freak that likes it.

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/18/2011 5:56:58 PM

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I`ve never put alot of salt in someones *profile*

Only YOU can answer that question...

People have a fantasy how they are gonna find ALL these ladies online...

Well...some have b ut the majority have not<including me>

Though have met special people here on the boards.

So at some point you may need to come to thr realization if this is what you want and take a chance on moving to where local munches/gatherings are...a big risk...I had to do it and had a blast and learned BUNCHES about myself and others...

Dude....there are dues to be paid...

Good luck!

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 1/28/2011 3:12:45 PM

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I find most switches are older, way over weight [...] NO HATERS PLEASE

Is that irony I smell?

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RE: I wonder if I'm asking for too much! - 2/8/2011 10:59:23 AM

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LadyPact I love reading all of your replies. Great stuff. Op as far as the age thing goes your not getting any younger. The age thing pisses me off. Im not young by any means but I dont have the self-inflicted problems you seem to be having. Your profile is not your problem.

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