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Bluebird -> RE: Married partners (5/3/2006 2:03:23 AM)
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I think the concern reigns on both sides of the fence. I am married, and my husband and I are both primarily dominant. We enjoy playing as a couple with a sub, but we also do play separately. We meet each other's "potentials" and if there is concern or discomfort from either of us, the potential is declined. This is not about swinging; neither of us has any interest in having sex with a third party, and that is a hard limit for both of us. Howver, we have been married a very long time and understand that while we can fulfill the vast majority of each other's needs, there are certain things that we would like to, in fact NEED to, explore on our own.
That being said, I do look rather askance at married potential subs. I am bluntly honest and I expect those I deal with at a personal level to also be that way. If someone is dishonest with his wife/partner (who hopefully is his "soul mate"), why would I believe that he would be honest with me?
I do wonder about the men who email me and say "Oh, good, I am married too - we can be discreet." That is exactly what I am NOT looking for. And I think my profile is clear on that point, but perhaps (?!) they don't actually read the whole thing ....
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