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how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 12:22:48 PM

Laceywhips

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I have two submissive that are constantly picking on each other, one male and one female. sometimes it is funny to watch but the rivalry was getting to me. finally i decided i had had enough the other night and took things out of their hands. I took rope and tied them securely at the feet and legs to each other, then gagged , blind folded and put ear in , and hooked their cuffs together. i flogged and used the evil stick and quirt on them. constantly changing where i was and from where i would hit. boy did they learn to work together fast! and was one of the most enjoyable scenes i had ever done with either of them. (silence is golden ! for sure). Has anyone else had the same problems with two submissves and if so any ideas how i can build a tighter bond between them.

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 12:39:48 PM

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That made for an interesting visual.

I don't have a (personal) live-in sub, however my daughter's fiance, while submissive to her, is very quiet (but inclined to respond aggressively) socially. And I am currently training a young Dom who visits frequently. The two males seem to be in conflict more often than not. Finally I had to make it clear to them that I don't care whether they like one another, or not. There will be no conflict, or even a hint of conflict in my home, and the only one who decides who can, or can not, come into my home, is Me.

I have a dingo, and when introducing a new pet into the home I will have her "kiss the baby", so that she will know the new addition is a "family member" and not eat them.

I explained that to the boys and told them that if there is any sign of their inability to avoid conflict with one another I will enforce the "kiss" rule. They will be required to kiss one another goodnight, every night, until they can control their respective urges toward conflict in my home/presense.

They are getting along just fine.

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 12:47:41 PM

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*chuckle* That's great!

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 4:46:27 PM

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Thank you both, Laceywhips & LadyBeckett! i laughed out loud so hard in reading both postings. i have two young daughters ages 4 & 11. The 4 year old adores the 11 year old, however the 11 year old is a bit snotty & thinks she is too far above her younger sister and treats her very coldly at times. When the two bicker back & forth i have punished them by requiring that they sit together as close as possible on the sofa and wrap their arms around each other in a big hug & stay that way for no less than 30 minutes or longer. It is very entertaining to watch them during this time. The 4 year old LOVES this punishment so much that she normally takes it as an opportunity to get the affection she craves from the older one by kissing her on the cheek over & over again. The 11 year old, who is at most times the instigator of the bickering, HATES this punishment. It normally buys me a few days of peace afterwards.

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 6:30:32 PM

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i have punished them by requiring that they sit together as close as possible on the sofa and wrap their arms around each other in a big hug & stay that way for no less than 30 minutes or longer.

What a great punishment, why didn't i think of that when mine were young.

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 10/3/2004 9:17:12 PM

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That's adorable. My nephew and his sister are 9 ad 2. There is a new baby due very soon. He is jealous of his sister who is still "the baby". She has started doing nice things for him cause she adores her big brother. But he will sometimes be mean in return. Not hurting her usually but pushing her away for sure. Makes me sad to see it cause I know he is feeling hurt and left out in the family. (His Dad was her first husband). Anyway, this is something to try. I've been wondering if talking to him will help. We talk a lot as I was one of his Mothers while my sister sorted out her life and went back to school after leaving the marriage. Anyway, thanks for the idea. :)

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 11/21/2004 11:15:40 AM

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This one's Owner simply bought a load of rubber band guns. Whenever there is a dipute of some sort between slaves, the rubber band guns are distributed and the war begins!

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 11/22/2004 10:33:29 PM

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This one's Owner simply bought a load of rubber band guns. Whenever there is a dipute of some sort between slaves, the rubber band guns are distributed and the war begins!

You can put an eye out with one of those!

Reminds me of a T-shirt I used to have, which said "It's all in good fun until someone uses their safeword"

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 11/23/2004 5:21:07 AM

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That is how my mom did it too. My brother and I had one huge brawl when we were kids, both under 10. She made us hold hands and hug and kiss each other on the cheek. We never had a knock down like that again that we can remember, but we still laugh about the time Mom made us do that. It surely was effective.

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RE: how to get two submissives to stop fighting - 11/26/2004 2:43:58 AM

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I must say I've got some things going on here as well. Most people are fully aware that I have taken on FallenStation as My slave and boyfriend. I already had an alpha slave of three years. The alpha slave already knew I had been searching to end the single life. I had tried long and hard to maintain relationships with men that were not totally submissive. The minute I finally admitted to Myself that I was doing an injustice and the only man I should date had to be submissive, I met slave donnie.

I couldn't be more happy in My life. He brings Me so much love, joy, and comfort, it's almost baffling at times. I love him dearly. My alpha slave was already having problems with attention since I had to sacrifice a lot in order to build Club Fem and My new dungeon. Well, things took a turn for the worst during slave donnie's first week with Me. It got so bad that My alpha and I got into an argument for the first time in three years.

Well, the time has passed now to start healing. The one thing I've done and probably the best is the corner the two and get them to talk to each other. The first time, I wasn't there, and that was a big mistake, since it ended up being very one sided with no mediation. This second time, which was in the sanctity of My own bedroom, was much more progressive and it made Me feel at ease. I did speak with a Lady friend of mine who gave Me advice about Poly and what I was about to take on. I have to say, it's not that they don't care for each other, they'll just fight for the attention. Right now, I have to give the new slave lots of attention, not only to fill My own emotional needs, but his as well. I have to also dedicate time to the alpha, but he'll have to realize at some point, that I do have to spend a lot of time with My new slave/boyfriend since we are building a future together.

Best of luck to everyone else going through this...it's not for everyone (having multiple slaves)

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