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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:31:36 AM   
Jeffff


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It doesn't change the fact that it is almost complete nonsense.

Don't you have someone to save and sexually satisfy ...in REAL life?

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:33:11 AM   
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-Find out about his other life: Does he enjoy his work and do co-workers enjoy him? Where does he work (is he Googleable?)?


don't forget your own guidelines. *which I followed like a good girl :)

Some of us don't need a list of subbie 'to do's' to figure a person out.  I did that all by meself like a big gurl.

Now you are kinda p'd off that I followed your own advice?  Sowwy.  It is instinctual LOL.

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Don't you have someone to save and sexually satisfy ...in REAL life?


Jeffff, um even Superman takes vacations from bleeding hearts who make midnight park meets an all dat.  Geez, all the superheros can't be likes YOU on the job 24/7.



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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:33:57 AM   
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I am NOT dissing you at all. Although, I am dissing your motives and the content--TO YOUR FACE.  


No, you are doing so from behind a computer; face-to-face is an entirely different experience...

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:35:47 AM   
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No, you are doing so from behind a computer; face-to-face is an entirely different experience...


sorry, I don't meet game-players.  I thought this was the point of your OP?? no?

did I miss something?

*and no, don't write me in another of your possible 10 profiles.  Not interested.


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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:37:14 AM   
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_%22Race%22_Bannon

I am going to assume that neither one of these is you, or am I mistaken, Race?

Hell, thats not googleable then, you sort of flunk your own test, don't ya, kid?

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:38:49 AM   
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No clue why so many feel it to be offensive, but to each their own. If it helps only one stay out of harm's way, it's done what it was supposed to do.


The problem is - it won't.

I understand that some people love to write - and that's all cool. I understand blogs and participating on a forum like this and sharing experiences when someone asks. I understand writing books and having them published. What I do not understand is the need to write an article and post it on a forum like this.

Whilst the concept of what you have written in itself isn't unusual, not one person will take heed the advice. Those that do, are already working on their own sense in the first place. So your words aren't keeping them out of harms way, their own sense is. And for those that don't have such sense, regardless of how bright a person they may be, will still take that risk because sometimes having conmen sense or not having it - has nothing to do with risk assessment.



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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:41:04 AM   
came4U


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-IT IS LIKELY the dominant man will rarely become angry or enraged when initially communicating online or in person. He is easy going; live and let live. We all get angry at times in relationships, but if some guy is badgering you or yelling at you during initial contact, or is constantly cornering you in mind games where you cannot win, most probably he is a fraud.


Nobody puts baby in the corner...and I WILL win (in this case) lol.  So much for your own God-given advice huh.


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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:42:34 AM   
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IT IS LIKELY I am not a real dom.

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:43:31 AM   
mnottertail


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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:47:34 AM   
Jeffff


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I wish there was a damsel who could save me.

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:49:19 AM   
came4U


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I wish there was a damsel who could save me.


I will write down a list for you to keep safe which includes a trip to the store for bubble wrap and a helmet.

Some of us sluts bite yanno.


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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:51:12 AM   
Jeffff


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You must be Canadian, so affable.

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:51:18 AM   
MasterR36


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
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Actually, no. A couple of emails, about 5 phone calls.




You did better than me. I talked to a Mistress in Memphis on aol chat twice before I met her at a hotel there and then went off to see my very first dungeon. Didn't actually talk to her on the phone until after we had met at the hotel restaurant and I made up my mind to actually show up at the party. Yea it was stupid, but I trust my instincts and they very rarely fail me.




So in both cases you spoke on the phone and/or met in a vanilla location before going at it...which is exactly what I'd recommend. Point made, I think...

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:57:02 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		My first knee jerk reaction to reading this was pretty much the same as everyone elses; that the OP makes submissives out to be 'naive, immature, idiots who can not think for themselves". However, I DO agree that there are submissives out there that DO fall into this category simply because they are so overwhelmed by the allure of BDSM. Think about how many threads have been on these boards over the years that point out the fact that when a submissive decides to 'dip her feet', he/she suddenly finds themselves with a lack of commonsense.

So, while I hold with the opinions of most here when they say that a mature adult does not need their hand held within a relationship, I also can see a need for some sort of guidance towards those who ASK for it earnestly.

HOWEVER, this guide that was posted here, I am sorry to say, is not one that I would recommend for those just learning and starting out. There are too many sections that are just incorrect and plain idiotic.

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 7:59:08 AM   
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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 8:01:36 AM   
came4U


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There are too many sections that are just incorrect and plain idiotic.


Not to mention you can change all of the words Dominant to 'Stray Dog' and Lie to 'likely to shit on your carpet' and it still comes out to be an inconsistent, generic and nonsensical guidebook for Dummies on how to leash or be-leashed effectively. 

Wait a min..didn't Beth Stern write a book like that already?

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 8:02:14 AM   
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How does one delete this post?

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 8:06:11 AM   
RCdc


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I wouldn't call it being offended, there is nothing offensive about what you wrote. Well, apart from the non BDSM peeps don't make good lovers... I can see how that might offend non bdsm peeps I guess.

But instead of feeling like you want to remove said piece, would it not be a good idea to maybe discuss it with people? I know there are some people flying off quite heavy, but you don't have to respond to that... but to others that have made some other observations? It can only aid your writing, can it not?

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 8:07:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RCdc

You cannot.

I wouldn't call it being offended, there is nothing offensive about what you wrote. Well, apart from the non BDSM peeps don't make good lovers... I can see how that might offend non bdsm peeps I guess.

But instead of feeling like you want to remove said piece, would it not be a good idea to maybe discuss it with people? I know there are some people flying off quite heavy, but you don't have to respond to that... but to others that have made some other observations? It can only aid your writing, can it not?

I agree.

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RE: For new(ish) girls: A Guide to Finding That Ideal Dom - 2/10/2011 8:11:24 AM   
came4U


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Obviously, I have seemed to offended a great many; it was not my aim.


I ain't offended.  Your opinion of whether you find me/us/them personally 'fit' to be submissive matters not--now. Water off a duck's quack-back.

But, if I were interested in fucking your brains out, I sure ain't now. 

I will not nor ever will tolerate a man being of your age and being so childish as to play with other's (emotions, mind) online or off.  This lifestyle is all about CONSENT, first and foremost, yet you did not follow that ONE basic principal, ie: by NOT letting those email guys know that they were just part of some sick fascination for your and your girl to humiliate and belittle as 'lesser' beings/dominants. 

Some of us prefer a grown man to satisfy our daily urges to be comfortable being 'weaker' species. I see no integrity in biting the hand that feeds you (collarme and us members).



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