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RE: Periods of being submissive or not submissive.. - 2/12/2011 3:23:14 PM

MasterSlaveLA

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to be honest it doesn't sound so much like you are submissive at your mom's home but that your mother intimidates you. She has you wound tightly around her finger. It happens quite often to men. You just need to learn to be a grownup and step up to the plate when you need to stand up for yourself.

Maybe but i wouldnt know what to do, if i ever say anything she goes a bit crazy or starts crying, i dont understand it i suppose and i feel like i use bdsm to ease my feelings

That's passive-aggressive manipulation. Say, "I'm sorry... I can't speak to you when you're like this", then walk away (or get out of the house if she's the type that'll follow you) when this happens, and stop enabling her behavior.

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RE: Periods of being submissive or not submissive.. - 2/12/2011 3:27:12 PM

oceanwynds2

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thaks, i guess ive not against submissive people, although i dont think being overly submissive is natural behaviour, certainly not for a man but i dont want to get in argument about that, but i genuinely dont think its my natural personality, i feel like ive been moulded that way and forced to be that way, so i guess its frustrating for me.

Sometimes how we think can trip us up big time. When I hear myself going into the should department, I usually know I am lying to myself and trying to fix the world into my misconception. Please keep in mind, this is coming from my perspective, and fits me.

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