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Leonidas -> RE: New to being a Master (3/26/2004 6:30:53 PM)
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I got a chuckle out of your post, because it betrays a misconception that is so very common among newcommers, and folks who have been around a while as well.
Master is a role, like Father, Brother, Boss, Husband, etc. Saying that you are a new master looking for a slave is like saying you're a new father looking for a mother for his children. What you are right now, from your description, is a man who has recongnized that he might have dominant tendencies. I am leaping to the conclusion (which may be false) that because you described yourself as a "master" that what you want is some kind of power exchange relationship, and not simply to play with a willing submissive or masochist.
If my assumption is correct, then my advice to you is both advice that you won't want to hear, and probably advice that will go against the grain of everything else that you will hear. The last thing that you want to do right now is go slave hunting. Invest some time in foming good opinions about what it means to be the kind of man who can successfully take life of someone else into your hands. How good is your mastery of yourself? Do you generally take control of things in your life, and achieve the things that you set out to do? Are you generally seen as an "alpha" type by those around you? In other words, do you find that others very often look to you for leadership? Are you a man of honor? By this I mean do you have a code of conduct that you adhere to come hell or high water? Do you keep your word and commitments? Finally, is there really room in your life for a woman who will be devoted to serving you? No girlfriends, spouses, or significant others lurking in the shadows? If you can't answer yes to these questions honestly, work on it. Place yourself in the company of men who exhibit these character traits, and learn from them. Then, and only then, go looking for a slave or submissive to call your own.
Take care of yourself,
Leonidas
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