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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/5/2006 9:48:23 AM   
shareinnc


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Status: offline 		I think that edge play is personal.  What is edgy for one person may be commonplace for another.

This was actually a discussion at Frolicon last month with Cathrine Gross, Lady Victoria and Vi Johnson on the panel.  They all seemed to agree that the definition of edge play is going to vary from one person to another and from one time in a person's life to another.

Take me for example.  I would have told you anytime prior to this January that cutting was edge play.  Now, however, when he says "I'm going to cut you tonight," I don't get scared, I smile.  It isn't even that I like being cut (I don't specifically..I like the connection between him and me that comes during a cutting), but that I am not longer terrified of it and it is no longer edge play for me.

The edge is different for everyone. And sometimes half the fun is finding an edge you didn't know was there.

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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/5/2006 9:51:27 AM   
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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/5/2006 8:51:02 PM   
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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/6/2006 4:34:48 AM   
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I can see that resistance play would be well outside the normal range in formal/ traditional D/s or M/s relationships, but does that make it edge???  Is 'Edge Play' just another buzz phrase that means different things to different people?  And by the standard that seems to have been applied to resistance play, would it be edge play if I told my wife she has to address me as Sir at all times?


Hmmmmmm if she had to do it at times when she was highly uncomfortable doing so, then yes this could be termed *edge* ... as it is at the *edge* of her comfort zone. Now, perhaps she personally doesn't have this *edge* as it has been softened. Another's experience would be different.

Does that make it completely meaningless? Well perhaps for the person whose edges are softened .. but for those whose edges are sharp, yes it has definition.

*Edge* just by itself .. with no qualifiers .. does not have meaning. It has to be known what *edge* it refers. Depending on the situation, can refer to anything .. in a broad-based, multi-paddled environment such as this =) it does and can. At a play party however, I would be concerned if the rules stated "No Edge Play" .. for what does this mean? It would have to be spelled out .. ie, no blood-letting, scat, watersports ... for some venues, it might mean fire or wax play, for some, it's penetration. In negotiations with a potential partner, it's important to know if their edges correspond with mine ... if one edge is sharper than the other's, the needs of the latter may be compromised in the end.

For me, edge has another meaning besides that generally of a limit ... I had a partner who trained me to request an orgasm by saying "edge" ... as in, "Sir, I'm at the edge.. please may your girl cum ... please???" .. and then when he did say "Yes" .. my mind and body were right there instead of having to work back up to it by all that begging heheheh .... so he had instant gratification too

So, I would have to say "No" .. edge play has many meanings.

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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/6/2006 8:57:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		From what I read, yes. Like so many terms on this forum ask any two people and you will probably get three different definitions. :)

Is it any wonder, when reading an add or posting, I find myself questioning are they talking my language? Or are they noisy trumpets and clanging gongs full of sound and fury yet signifying nothing that I can understand. One lady says she into body worship but really means personal services, another says she a lifestyle domina but really means she wants a slave to do her house work. Is there a standards dictionary of terminology and definitions for this site?

Oh well this is the internet, sometimes good for a life, sometimes good to meet people. Most of the time I'm left wondering

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RE: Is 'Edge Play' just another meaningless term? - 5/6/2006 9:11:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Search for "dictionary" in the forums and see all the threads that come up.

The short answer is no, there's no dictionary.  Some people think that portends the end of civilization as we know it.

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ORIGINAL: TedEbear

Is there a standards dictionary of terminology and definitions for this site?

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