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Why Lie? - 2/21/2011 11:16:55 PM   
jj0322xx


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Status: offline 		Why lie, I am new to this lifestyle and all I really want right now is to be domintated through web cam. Maybe if I find someone I like I would consider taking things further but as of now I just want to be humiliated and please a mistress through my web cam. Is this a bad thing?
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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 2:41:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's not a bad thing at all. You will find most dominants have little to no interest in providing cam humiliation/domination.
Good luck in finding what you seek. 

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 10:57:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jj0322xx

Why lie, I am new to this lifestyle and all I really want right now is to be domintated through web cam. Maybe if I find someone I like I would consider taking things further but as of now I just want to be humiliated and please a mistress through my web cam. Is this a bad thing?


No sexual desire in and of itself is a bad thing.  But you can be classy and considerate of the needs and comfort of others when you go about looking for a partner, or you can be totally selfish, focused only on your own sexual desires, and ignore other people's comfort levels and personal boundaries as you approach them.  Obviously the former approach will have people willing to talk to you and the latter approach will have people ignoring, deleting and blocking you. 

What do you have to offer another person?  Very few women think it is much fun to engage in a specific kind of play (humiliation play) with a random stranger online.  Are you gym-toned hot and sexy, with a very nice body?  If so, your chances are better that women will get something out of seeing you on cam and playing with you in a sexual way.  If you are just average, then probably not, what's in it for her?   Unless you've taken the time to get to know someone to the point that they will really enjoy playing with you because they like you as a person and are attracted to you, you are basically shit out of luck.

You could certainly hire a professional dominant if you are neither a professional male stripper offering a real service to the ladies nor willing to take time to get to know people and build real relationships.  Women are not the drive-through McDomme's, unless they specifically consent to be.  And in that case you will need to stop at the cashier window first and pay for your Happy Meal.


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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 11:51:29 AM   
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......... Women are not the drive-through McDomme's, unless they specifically consent to be.  And in that case you will need to stop at the cashier window first and pay for your Happy Meal.



I love this, it's worth being someone's sig line!!

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 11:52:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
Women are not the drive-through McDomme's, unless they specifically consent to be.  And in that case you will need to stop at the cashier window first and pay for your Happy Meal.



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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 1:03:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		No, of course you shouldn't lie.
However, life is not all about you and your desires and your kink and your needs and your rocks and your cock and your balls and your fantasy. If you want that, you can find a pro dominant that will cater for your needs.
Comprende?

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 2:46:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why would forthright honesty be a bad thing? Your desires will appeal to some and not others but why would anyone think of it as "bad"?

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/22/2011 3:50:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		"Women are not the drive-through McDomme's, unless they specifically consent to be. And in that case you will need to stop at the cashier window first and pay for your Happy Meal. "

LMAO...




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RE: Why Lie? - 2/24/2011 6:24:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		all bad advise . Lie your ass off if you want to get anywhere on here.

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/24/2011 8:38:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you all I understand I was only thinking about my own desires when writing this. Yes, I would like to get to know someone and begin with online sessions...maybe not, if i got to know the person well enough i would begin with a personal encounter. But none-the-less I am not interested in paying a domme to humiliate me. The more I have thought about it I would like to have a mutually beneficial real relationship with a domme...I guess I'm just scared and confused.

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/24/2011 9:02:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jj0322xx

Why lie, I am new to this lifestyle and all I really want right now is to be domintated through web cam. Maybe if I find someone I like I would consider taking things further but as of now I just want to be humiliated and please a mistress through my web cam. Is this a bad thing?


If you are open to not knowing for sure if the person is a woman, I know that a lot of men go for dominating guys on cam. You can pretend it's a woman ordering you to do things, what's the difference?

I absolutely love making men do things on cam. But I have to be attracted to them. If it's a spur of the moment thing, I just have to like the way a man looks, and I can go to town and have quite a good time - but he has to be physically very good looking to me, and also have a certain way about him once we get started. When I am in the mood and am lazy, I go to sites like flirt4free.com which cater to gay men, and pay male models to do it. These men aren't GQ level models, but they are decent looking, and at any given time I can find a man whose look floats my boat. I haven't done that in quite some time, however.

If I'm not dealing with instant physical attraction, it means I have to have genuine interest or affection for the guy, which requires a build up of chemistry and rapport. That usually takes a few weeks, if not longer, of regular communication. Most men who just want to perform on cam don't have that kind of patience.

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RE: Why Lie? - 2/25/2011 2:11:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jj0322xx

Thank you all I understand I was only thinking about my own desires when writing this. [....]  The more I have thought about it I would like to have a mutually beneficial real relationship with a domme.


Do you see how those two things are utterly contradictory, and likely to lead you to failure in the human relationship department?

You can't have it both ways.  Either you are selfish and focused on your own desires and fantasies and pleasures, or you're up for a real human relationship where you get to know and care about your partner as a real person and her desires are as much or more important than yours (remember, she's the dominant).  These are two mutually exclusive things here.  Guys who remain selfish and self-focused basically *have* to pay a professional, because no dominant woman is interested in catering to a guy who is all about his own desires.   At least not unless there's a paycheck in it.

So yeah, that generally means dating, and taking the time to make friends, and NOT getting any sex or play or kink during the dating/getting to know someone/developing a real and intimate relationship process.  If you're up for that, I'd suggest hitting your local Munches to meet people in person in a casual, relaxed, friendly environment. 




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RE: Why Lie? - 2/25/2011 9:51:07 AM   
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LadyNTrainer:
Women are not the drive-through McDomme's, unless they specifically consent to be.  And in that case you will need to stop at the cashier window first and pay for your Happy Meal.


Brings new meaning to the phrase "supersize it". :-)

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