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underyouass -> From the news a real sitting (2/25/2011 9:58:15 PM)

I have a dream facesitting and it must be a black or other ethnic what should I do ... what can I do .... I myself am white



OttersSwim -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/25/2011 10:15:56 PM)

Nothing wrong with the kink...but putting your foot forward with just the kink is going to make it hard going on you.  Most Ladies...of any color, creed, or persuasion, enjoy a more rounded approach than just "sit on my face hot black momma!...oh and my name is Mortimer...hi..." 

Starting with the Hi and the name is a beginning...listing your kinks is fine...but looking for vanilla compatibility first is better...more of a chance of actually getting to the "so what are your kinks?" conversation than leading with them right out front...

So much of life is vanilla...kink is a foundation, an underlayment to all that goes on in a -relationship- between two people.  But the relationship has to be there first before much intimate kink is ever going to take place - at least for the vast majority of folks...

Good luck to you.  [:)]



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 1:33:50 AM)

If you're older than 18, ask one out just as you would anyone else (after noticing that is among her kinks).    M



BonesFromAsh -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 1:50:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: underyouass

what should I do ... what can I do ....


Pay particular attention to OtterSwim's post....especially the first sentence. 

Also, after reading your profile, I would strongly suggest you make the effort to NOT be such a cliché.



DarkSteven -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 3:43:15 AM)

I'm not sure I agree with Otter. You're not interested in a woman - you're interested in a prolonged facesitting session. Any lifestyle woman I know would be insulted that you care about her ass rather than her.

If what's what you want, cool. Go find yourself a black pro Domme who will cater to your kink.

Dunno how easy that will be in Denmark, though.



OttersSwim -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 8:52:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I'm not sure I agree with Otter. You're not interested in a woman - you're interested in a prolonged facesitting session. Any lifestyle woman I know would be insulted that you care about her ass rather than her.

If what's what you want, cool. Go find yourself a black pro Domme who will cater to your kink.

Dunno how easy that will be in Denmark, though.


Ugh!  Don't I know it!  Things are always going bad there...  [;)]



Phoenixpower -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 8:56:46 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Dunno how easy that will be in Denmark, though.


My pro sub page has also sistas in Denmark [;)] I didn't check their end of the leash, but their are a few registered [:)]



SthrnCom4t -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 12:19:11 PM)

Do they have a Craigslist in Denmark?



WyldHrt -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 12:36:48 PM)

*Edited for excessive snark*



FukinTroll -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 12:58:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: underyouass

I have a dream facesitting and it must be a black or other ethnic what should I do ... what can I do .... I myself am white


Huh... lemme clue ya in on sumthin... this can all work out fine for the following reasons:
1. Men are [sm=pigsfly.gif]
2. You're [sm=mistress.gif]
3. Make an offer to any [sm=pigsfly.gif]
4. Show up and get [sm=sex.gif] and/or [sm=spanking.gif] and a big load of [sm=mrpuffy.gif]



DarkSteven -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 1:16:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SthrnCom4t

Do they have a Craigslist in Denmark?


Yup.  http://copenhagen.da.craigslist.dk/



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 1:31:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim
Most Ladies...of any color, creed, or persuasion, enjoy a more rounded approach than just "sit on my face hot black momma!...oh and my name is Mortimer...hi..." 
Good luck to you.  [:)]
Mortimer?! [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]  M



LadyPact -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 2:35:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

*Edited for excessive snark*

You should have left it up.  It was probably the best part of the whole thread.



LPslittleclip -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 4:28:41 PM)

if the face-sitting is a important thing then list that nearer the top of the list. after that remember that everyone has needs wants and desires that would like to have fulfilled so some balance will need to be achieved. im certain that you have other desires and wants aside from the facesitting so find some way get them filled as well



LadyNTrainer -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 9:14:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: underyouass

I have a dream facesitting and it must be a black or other ethnic what should I do ... what can I do .... I myself am white


Go to the drive-through McDomme's and order one McDomme to go in your preferred racial flavor.  You will have to pay at the cashier's window for your Happy Meal first.   

Do you not get that a real live human woman is NOT going to be enthralled by your attitude?  Dominant women looking for personal relationships with men do not like men who treat them like burgers they can order off a menu. If you want to order a McDomme's, you'll need to pay for it. 



underyouass -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/26/2011 9:31:11 PM)

Hi and thanks for your reply and will then try to change my ad maybe it makes a difference



LadyHibiscus -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/27/2011 3:58:05 PM)

Changing your ad will only help if you change yourself as well.



DarkSteven -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/27/2011 4:43:31 PM)

You don't follow. Your profile has a pic of a woman's ass. Your username says you want a facesitting session. Your profile says you want a black women to sit on your face. The impression is that you want a facesitting session with a black woman. Nothing whatsoever wrong with that.

However, it leaves you with two choices. Either pay a pro Domme for a session, or else develop a full relationship with a woman in which facesitting is an activity but not the sum total of the relationship.  IF YOU CAN DEVELOP THAT MINDSET, then go change your profile to reflect that.

Quit thinking that if you change a few words here and there, you will meet your dream woman and will live happily ever after in 24/7 facesitting bliss. For free.



ElanSubdued -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/27/2011 5:11:29 PM)

underyouass,

quote:

Hi and thanks for your reply and will then try to change my ad maybe it makes a difference


Good Lord.  Gee, there's just so much here that is irksome, I don't know where to begin.  From the handle, the to the text in your profile, to the pictures in your profile, to the thread here.  Underyouass, you're just not going to be successful in any way with this approach.  Whether you intended it or not, what you're doing is putting out your fetish list and saying "here dominant women, come and satisfy my kinks".  This will never work.  Consider how likely it is a woman would get your attention if she approached you this way.  You're writing and conversing with PEOPLE.  All people like to be treated with courtesy and respect, and, in the case of interactions that involve fetishes, for the most part, people (including dominant women) will not engage in these with people they don't have a connection with on some level other than just fetish interests.  You've got to take the time to get to know people and to share aspects of yourself that make your company desirable... and no, I don't mean your desire to serve or anything of this ilk.  I mean your skills as a gentleman and a conversationalist.

You asked for advice so here it is:  ditch the profile, handle, and "looking for a black woman to sit on my face" approach.  Start a whole new profile and introduce yourself in a broader way.  When you write, use proper sentences, with capitalization and reasonably correct punctuation - periods end a sentence and help the reader delineate separate statements and ideas.  If you're interested in certain ethnicities (because you find certain body attributes, customs, etc. attractive), that's fine.  We all have preferences.  But, don't put these out front.  You may decide to introduce yourself to a woman because you find her attractive.  Still, there is no need to stamp the specifics about what caught your attention (such as her hot, black ass) on your forehead because this comes across in a way that is crass and dehumanizing.  Part of leaning a refined approach to flirting and dating is knowing what to keep to yourself.

Good luck with your next attempt at this,

Elan.



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: From the news a real sitting (2/28/2011 12:05:01 AM)

[sm=yourock.gif] Perfect!  Very kind reply (all of the above are good responses too), but you literally gave him the baby steps to take, before he can walk this way.     M



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