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LadyPact -> RE: A rant about the grim ones. (2/28/2011 6:23:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan
~FR~
Even it were "just" a dating site, I really don't understand what's so hard about finding a partner. In the time I've been on CM, I've found at least three, including my girl, and I've made several friends on top of that. Am I a drop-dead goreous model? No.
Do I live in a major city like Los Angeles or NYC with hundreds of potential partners? No.
Am I a Pro with paying clients? Hell no.
I'm a middle-aged, married mom. I'm not single, unencumbered by major responsibilities, or in the oh-so-desirable 18-35 age bracket. So how is it that I've managed to find at least three people to play with on this site alone? I think the answer comes down to what I call the Three P's: Presentation, Politeness, and Patience. Apparently, the Grims don't understand let alone have mastery of the basics.
I can't help but to quote this as it is so much how I feel on the matter. OK. Maybe in My case I don't see Myself so much in alliance with the three P's in regard to My posting style, but the rest of it is so on target that it's impossible to ignore.
I've never looked at CM as a dating site. I don't really use it that way. Yet, I've managed to meet people through it. Like the above, I don't feel as though I'm prime target at all. I should be so far down on the list that it's scary.
This is why I can't really identify with folks who come over to the forums side to rant about how hard it is to find people to connect with. I literally just don't get it. I think it's possible that it might be exactly as Steven points out. They are so focused on that particular aspect that the pressure that they create for themselves just makes matters worse. Of course, when that happens, it's always everyone else's fault (pros, etc) and can't possibly be the way they are going about it.
(It's a bit early yet, so I'm not sure if that last line is written in a way that the sarcasm comes through appropriately.)
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