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LadyAngelika -> RE: "Serving" online (10/9/2004 10:29:55 AM)
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When I was in undergrad in film school, we had these old Bolex cameras, which were limited to a 30-second take and had no synch sound capabilities. We also had to slash edit on Steinbecks. (For those of you who are already lost, this was 1970’s technology being used in the mid-90s only because they thought we needed to learn the hard way). There is a point to this, so bare with me ;)
Being a bunch of little art farts, some students wanted to do the clever Woody Allen type dialog where as others wanted to do some long drawn out sequences. “Work with the limitations of the medium!” our professor used to tell us. Those of us who listened had these wonderful little gems that enabled us to push the boundaries of filmmaking as we knew it. Those who didn’t were pulling their hair out in the editing room.
Work with the limitations of the medium! – perhaps some of the wisest advice I ever received in terms of communication and creativity. Limitations give us boundaries that force us to explore other possibilities. This in turn can become an opportunity. I apply this to online interactions with people. We adapt, we learn, we find creative ways of demonstrating and sharing.
I don’t do online relationships. However, I have been known to help certain submissives on their path of self-discovery, in guiding them in understanding and developing their submissive side. How do I do this? Here is an example:
I have one boy to whom I give weekly assignments too. He is in his early twenties and very new to the lifestyle. He came to me looking for guidance. I started off with giving him some articles to read. He then had to give me a 300-word essay on it. He was to post his essay in an online journal. That was the only criteria I gave him at first. I was interested in seeing what he would do with that little bit of information. The first essay came back around 315 words, 3 spelling mistakes and absolutely no reference to the original article. He was made aware of his transgressions in the feedback that I provided to him and was given a double load next time around. Now the essays have gotten more complex and longer and he’s doing grand, everything spellchecked, to the exact word count and APA referenced, always. He also is starting to show some proactivity in his submissions. He is appreciating this because he is getting something that he really needs at the moment, which is a strong guiding hand.
So I guess in the end it all boils down to what you want. Is it a fleeting/frustrating moment of typing fantasies to one another of what could be? Or do you want to use the limitations/opportunities of the medium to your advantage?
- LA
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